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In reply to the discussion: How do we deal with dangerous teens when NOBODY will help? (long rant of a mom over the edge) :( [View all]FirstLight
(13,352 posts)I appreciate your advice and many of the things you suggest I have already done. I have talked to NAMI reps in the area, called CPS even to ask if I could put him in foster care myself, checked area hospitals and shelters...The closest treatment center TODAY said they had no room for him, and even then he had to be referred by a social services or other agency...if I wanted to pay out of pocket it's $18K per MONTH!!!!
So the probation dept tried to get this taken to court to make him a ward of the court but the DA rejected it because he was only caught "under the influence"
(apparently the hammer under the bed never made it to the police report? or nobody gives a damn?...but in MY book that is intent to harm)
They told me they cannot hold him so I'd have to get him today...unless I want it turned over to CPS custody. I said fine - maybe if he is breaking rules in another home he can't blame it on me, right?
CPS calls me and says either I pick him up or they file against ME for Child Abandonment!!! (The woman was horrible, gave me no understanding, told me to be quiet when I started to cry and say I have been begging for help for MONTHS, and then said my daughter's safety isn't the issue...wtf?
she said if he comes home and gets violent, call the cops. (nice, easy, thanks, I wouldn't have thought of that))
She said "we can't just take kids from their parents..." I thought: um, isn't that what you guys DO? she said "what if your daughter was walking down the street and I thought ...there's a cute girl, I have a foster family she'd be perfect for..." I hung up on her smarmy ass
So at this point I refused to go pick him up
Let them bring a case against me... she said they could send law enforcement to my house tonight and take ME into custody, which would mean they'd have to take my daughter as well... (um, isn't that what you guys DO?)
So me and my daughter figure we're going to go OUT to dinner, they can't arrest us if we're not home right?
I've gone through the 5 stages of fucking grief all day today...and now I've reached ANGER.
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updateupdate...Juvey called one last time and finally convinced me to come get him. Because if this goes to CPS it is no longer about HIS behavior but it's against MINE and I am the one that has to EARN back MY parental RIGHTS.
I tell you, If I end up dead...you guys know why