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10. all i know is raising two boys, i saw NO difference in emotional need. at about 12 i saw one son

Mon Jan 2, 2012, 10:07 AM

Jan 2012

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working on suppressing because that is what middle school peers enforce. because there are no conditioning going on in this house, he verbally expressed and discussed his whole trip conditioning himself to repress. rolling eyes, that didn't take a strong hold. my youngest just doesn't care what society tells him he is suppose to be and still has the friends who accept, allow and continue to be friends cause he is a laid back, loyal, fun friend.

i have brothers that i listen to tell me how unemotional they are. yet call me on a regular basis to discuss the emotional turmoil they are in.

i, on the other hand, the only female in this large group, that is not real into emotion. very pragmatic.

i just dont buy the "male hard wired" bullshit.

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"Ahhh.... MEN." (Bette Davis, All About Eve) And BOYS. [View all] Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 OP

"So... what's to be done?" Zorra Jan 2012 #1

1000 JDPriestly Jan 2012 #15

A-FUCKING-MEN!!! Odin2005 Jan 2012 #25

Coping Skills RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #2

Me too. Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #5

all i know is raising two boys, i saw NO difference in emotional need. at about 12 i saw one son seabeyond Jan 2012 #10

What a bunch of weirdos you guys are. Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #14

evolutionary biology has been hijacked for agenda. seabeyond Jan 2012 #18

+1. Not unlike the revisionism that undid the lessons learned from Viet Nam re. foreign policy. Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #33

you are right, though. that is exactly what has happened in both situations. agreed. seabeyond Jan 2012 #34

exactly, us guys are socialized to repress out emotions. Odin2005 Jan 2012 #26

Women and Gender Studies have shown over and over that it is unrelated to our birth sex. RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #13

So.... what would that portend for suicide rates , and other psychopathologies, in say......... Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #16

I am not sure what you are asking. RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #23

How can women's studies class show that men are just like women? lumberjack_jeff Jan 2012 #20

What it shows is there is no correlation between sex, gender, and sexual preference. RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #22

WAIT. you're claiming you have sources that show maggiesfarmer Jan 2012 #28

Sorry, I do not have sources for that. RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #30

Exactly. I'm a guy, but my emotional experience and expression is quite "feminine". Odin2005 Jan 2012 #27

Is it more accurate to say that you hang out with more emotionally communicative people? RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #29

my sons heart was crushed at the end of the summer. seabeyond Jan 2012 #31

That could be. Odin2005 Jan 2012 #32

Stop treating displays of emotion as weak, undesireable, shameful and worthy of mocking. Brickbat Jan 2012 #3

You write the memo. I'll sign it. Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #7

this is why i am throwing my tantrums daily on du. what can be done? don't raise our boys with seabeyond Jan 2012 #4

Men are not socially and culturally encouraged to develop in ways that... stillwaiting Jan 2012 #6

That kind of cultural change is going to take forever. Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #9

Maybe pretending we all ought to be Rambo is part of it. bemildred Jan 2012 #8

If you watch First Blood datasuspect Jan 2012 #12

"He's a LOUSE." Smarmie Doofus Jan 2012 #17

Step one: do exactly as the link suggests, create a White House Council on Boys and Men. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2012 #19

So people who are born a certain way have to follow strict social norms? RadiationTherapy Jan 2012 #24

that old fashioned conditioning treestar Jan 2012 #21