I took out a new hire at work for lunch..

[vlyons]

26. You are missing a big opportunity to be the better man

Have you ever heard the expression that you catch more flies with honey, than with a 2 x 4 board? It is very difficult to be around ignorant, bigoted mean-spirited people. But that doesn't give us a pass to be mean-spirited in return. You are averse to him, because of his stupidity and lack of compassion. Has it ever occurred to you why he might be the way he is? Maybe he grew up in a home, where arrogance and bigotry is what he was taught. Maybe he's never been around more enlightened people with kind and loving hearts. He feels no compassion for the homeless. How is that different from you feeling no compassion for him? I would tell him that political discussions with co-workers is entirely inappropriate. People have different politics about various issues, and it interfers with the smooth business operation to get into unpleasant disagreements over politics.

If you can't see a way to bring yourself to be nice and helpful to him, you can at least hold the aspiration to treat him with kindness at some future time. You be the better man. Show him a man with a kind and loving heart.

Best regards