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xmas74

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1. Does anyone ever really know?

Thu Aug 2, 2012, 12:56 AM

Aug 2012

I identify as hetro but how do I know that someday I won't meet "the one"-and that person is a woman? I don't and I'd be dishonest about what love is if I said that the only person I could ever love would be a man.
I've always thought of myself as "straight", as a child but I wonder how anyone thinks they can make a choice as to who they love. I'm not attracted to other women but how do I know that I haven't met "the right one"?

It's actually a good question you've asked.

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So, when did you know you were a heterosexual/homosexual? [View all] Faygo Kid Aug 2012 OP

Does anyone ever really know? xmas74 Aug 2012 #1

physical attraction to certain people JI7 Aug 2012 #6

I've always been physically attracted to men. xmas74 Aug 2012 #9

but you can be attracted to people who aren't good for you JI7 Aug 2012 #13

Oh, I know all about being attracted to people who aren't good for me. xmas74 Aug 2012 #18

Old Bob Heinlein quote about attraction: malthaussen Aug 2012 #24

I can see physical beauty. But attraction is another story. Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #28

I'd believe that. xmas74 Aug 2012 #45

I've not been physically attracted to men or women. vaberella Aug 2012 #52

thanks for this great answer Voice for Peace Aug 2012 #26

I didn't go through abuse xmas74 Aug 2012 #46

As I've always said, love knows no gender. vaberella Aug 2012 #51

I don't even know if I'm open. xmas74 Aug 2012 #57

republicans have not made a choice yet Angry Dragon Aug 2012 #2

They have... Archae Aug 2012 #11

My family and I moved when I was in the 3rd grade... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2012 #3

That's spooky Shankapotomus Aug 2012 #65

I knew I was into women the first time a sneaked a look sadbear Aug 2012 #4

I did that in the early '60s. And in the early '70s . . . Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #22

For as long as I can remember, actually. malthaussen Aug 2012 #5

i think most people know early, even Gay kids, but for Gay kids JI7 Aug 2012 #7

When I first saw a summer Betty and Vernoica comic book... Archae Aug 2012 #8

You don't say, Archae? sadbear Aug 2012 #10

I'm Archae. (Ar-kay.) Archae Aug 2012 #14

Whoops! sadbear Aug 2012 #17

Maybe it has... Archae Aug 2012 #20

. sadbear Aug 2012 #21

Long story. stevedeshazer Aug 2012 #12

I'm still deciding. SmileyRose Aug 2012 #15

You will never see this post at Fox or Free Republic. Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #19

IMHO the whole discussion is just weird. SmileyRose Aug 2012 #23

I think I realized I was heterosexual around age 30 bhikkhu Aug 2012 #16

When I was little, I remember asking my parents pnwmom Aug 2012 #25

Cooties? Ah yes. What were they? Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #31

Crab lice for the spine, I think... malthaussen Aug 2012 #40

A cootie is something boys have in first and second grade. pnwmom Aug 2012 #58

Lynda Carter as Wonder Woman TeamPooka Aug 2012 #27

Penny, Sky King's niece did it for me Brother Buzz Aug 2012 #29

12:30 p.m. on Saturdays in Detroit, after Soupy. Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #34

That's a tricky question dballance Aug 2012 #30

For me, it was when I looked through the keyhole in the bathroom when my third WCGreen Aug 2012 #32

There was a time when I hated females... MrScorpio Aug 2012 #33

By the time I was 5. JDPriestly Aug 2012 #35

I knew when I was in elementary school. I've been hit on and still am, by both sexes. But my own sex freshwest Aug 2012 #36

Debby Castleman put me on the path to hetrosexuality in the 7th grade 1-Old-Man Aug 2012 #37

Knew for certain? intaglio Aug 2012 #38

Little Joe on Bonanza Oilwellian Aug 2012 #39

Long before I ever heard either term. Scuba Aug 2012 #41

When I was very young I could tell. nt cecilfirefox Aug 2012 #42

Later than most, probably. GaYellowDawg Aug 2012 #43

I think I'm bisexual. Maine-ah Aug 2012 #44

I realized I was heterosexual when babydollhead Aug 2012 #47

5-6, my first crush on a girl Demonaut Aug 2012 #48

Some time around the age of 10. MineralMan Aug 2012 #49

In all honesty, I don't know what I am! n/t vaberella Aug 2012 #50

So what if it's a choice? liberalmuse Aug 2012 #53

That's the argument I was trying to make upthread. xmas74 Aug 2012 #68

Kindergarten. I had the hots for a girl named Katie and I didn't even know what "the hots" were. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #54

16 Aerows Aug 2012 #55

Not sure at all Xyzse Aug 2012 #56

Watching Batman w/ Julie Newmar as Catwoman. maveric56 Aug 2012 #59

I was kind of a late bloomer (didn't think about sex/sexuality) much until the end of High School Proud Liberal Dem Aug 2012 #60

About 5 - I remember being in the pool FreeState Aug 2012 #61

as a little boy, probably around 5-6, I knew i was into men MNBrewer Aug 2012 #62

Thank you. And people hate you because of that. Got your back. Faygo Kid Aug 2012 #64

I didn't know WHAT it was, but I knew I had it in spades at around the age of six or so. Kurovski Aug 2012 #63

The day Tammy M. walked into the room. cherokeeprogressive Aug 2012 #66

five taught_me_patience Aug 2012 #67

about 5-ish. I wanted to play doctor with my slightly older male cousin.... Raster Aug 2012 #69

2nd grade, I fell in love with my teacher. B Calm Aug 2012 #70

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