So, when did you know you were a heterosexual/homosexual?

[xmas74]

68. That's the argument I was trying to make upthread.

How do I know what I am? How do I know if I've made a choice?

I'm nearing forty and I've always identified as a hetero female. I've always been attracted to men and can't remember ever being attracted to a woman, except on the level of "what a beautiful (insert whatever here-haircut, pair of shoes, comment about how great someone looks after a long diet, etc-not really attraction but acknowledgment of something positive. In other words, a compliment.)

Anyway, the choices I've always made in men have been pretty rotten. How do I know that, a few years down the road, I meet someone with nearly every attribute that I claim to find attractive? And what if that person is a woman? Maybe I act on it, maybe I don't-it's something I'll never actually know unless the situation presents itself, which has never happened to me.

For now I can't say. For now I see myself as het but feel it would be dishonest if I said I'm 100% and that's that. I don't know what the future holds.