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[mr_lebowski]

17. I have a question ... is it possible for orientation to differ from preference?

Are there folks who's preference, sex-partner-wise, is with the opposite sex, but their love-affiliation is same-gender?

I ask because I had a gay friend who intimated to me that he actually prefers sex with women at least somewhat over men, but that he clearly didn't develop the same attraction/affection for women that he did for men. He told me this after giving me, his ostensibly straight buddy, the best ... um ... pleasuring ... I think I've ever gotten

Conversely, I'd guess there are probably some people who's love affiliation is towards the opposite sex, but they actually prefer sex with their same gender?

The reason I ask is ... what exactly defines one's 'sexual orientation'? 'Sexual Preference' I 'get', it seems like that's pretty simply defined ... Although I'm sure there's many who are just simply 'bi' and can swing both ways truly equally.

I've always thought one's 'orientation' is 'who they fall in love with' which typically jibes with 'preference', but not necessarily always.

Is the objection to saying 'preference' instead of 'orientation' simply because the latter sounds more like 'a choice' and orientation sounds more 'ingrained/born that way'?

Personally I think both are valid 'words', and they kinda describe two different attractions ... which typically are congruent, but certainly not always. And they can both be 'ingrained' and 'not choice, per se', for sure.