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Ilsa

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39. It's sad to say this, but I'm glad my parents are dead and can't see

Fri Jun 29, 2018, 11:57 AM

Jun 2018

what is happening to the country they loved and served. It would give them ulcers and heart problems.

Sometimes it is best to not deal with a trumper parent until the two of you have set boundaries.

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So my father the Trumper calls this morning.... [View all] Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 OP

I know genxlib Jun 2018 #1

Im glad neither of my parents are Trumpers standingtall Jun 2018 #2

He's your father teach1st Jun 2018 #3

Sadly, sometimes it is necessary. ret5hd Jun 2018 #4

Qui tacet consentire videtur is Latin for 'Silence gives consent.' RestoreAmerica2020 Jun 2018 #99

It is for ME. And believe me, it is for HIM and his wife, too. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #5

There may not ne next week to talk to your father. irisblue Jun 2018 #61

If it's out of character, medical issues? moriah Jun 2018 #98

My sister & 2 brothers see her 5/6 times a week irisblue Jun 2018 #103

Glad to hear. Healthy is good. Much love. Nt moriah Jun 2018 #104

Your post prompted me to text her to ask about the cause of her fathers death. irisblue Jun 2018 #105

You get to set limits lebkr Jun 2018 #72

Welcome to DU, lebkr. calimary Jun 2018 #93

That's how I feel about it. He's an authoritarian & won't adhere to "the rule" of no politics. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #116

You have to do what's best for you Bradshaw3 Jun 2018 #95

Nazis had children too. Coventina Jun 2018 #23

Joseph and Magda Goebbels had six children VMA131Marine Jun 2018 #77

Yep. So much so they wouldn't let them fall into enemy hands. Coventina Jun 2018 #79

I saw "Downfall" for the first time a month or so ago VMA131Marine Jun 2018 #81

Horrific. Coventina Jun 2018 #86

Look, I lived knowing my Dad was terminal for 17 years. And sometimes I had to not answer a call. moriah Jun 2018 #53

Many of us have been in your situation. True Blue American Jun 2018 #90

A lot of people said I seemed to do more for him than they would have. moriah Jun 2018 #96

You did just fine True Blue American Jun 2018 #100

You have no say in it. End of story. nt USALiberal Jun 2018 #80

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2018 #97

So someone gave you half your genes . . . hatrack Jun 2018 #125

I'm sorry. Hortensis Jun 2018 #6

Sadly, it's not "just politics", as I hear some people say. Goodheart Jun 2018 #9

Yes, that's it. It's not the POLITICS. I spoke w/them all thru the two Bush administrations. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #12

They don't understand Rorey Jun 2018 #13

I'm sorry again. My mother, who came to America Hortensis Jun 2018 #20

I agree. traladeda Jun 2018 #92

Down right sickening! True Blue American Jun 2018 #101

I have almost disowned my brothers and sisters because of their Trump support. Goodheart Jun 2018 #7

I'm right there with you. I talk to my dad every two months for five minutes. NightWatcher Jun 2018 #8

Yeah...they're Fox watchers. Not that "Clinton News Network," as they say. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #15

Ugh stay away imo . Thanks for having a limit . So many keep pushing and nudging thiers back lunasun Jun 2018 #50

One day you will no longer be able to talk to him, and he will not be able to call. Tipperary Jun 2018 #10

True. It's too bad he is the way he is. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #17

Yes, he will be gone, but I think he's already gone. You are already grieving. rainin Jun 2018 #55

truth lebkr Jun 2018 #76

My sister and parents sucked to start with... but have definitely also been "brainwashed into the deurbano Jun 2018 #91

What a cogent analysis. 3catwoman3 Jun 2018 #107

That's true. But I just need a few days' break. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #117

Sometimes that's one or two too many. ret5hd Jun 2018 #63

Consider yourself lucky. pazzyanne Jun 2018 #65

OMG. Are you serious? That's horrible. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #118

Some Trumpsters really are like cult members. Mariana Jun 2018 #126

You haven't the right to guilt people. Duppers Jun 2018 #74

So much this. Coventina Jun 2018 #78

Soul-sister? Duppers Jun 2018 #82

Yep, years of therapy and support from true FRIENDS! Coventina Jun 2018 #83

And on that day, would you rather have a missed call... moriah Jun 2018 #102

He's lucky to have lived as long as he has. Just my own observation Lint Head Jun 2018 #11

I'm just talking about 2 or 3 days' break after this horrible political week. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #120

Now THAT is bad. You do have my sympathy. Lint Head Jun 2018 #124

I talk to no one in my family anymore lapfog_1 Jun 2018 #14

This really saddens me. I feel your pain, looking at caller ID, it's your dad calling PearliePoo2 Jun 2018 #16

My mother's gone. They were terrible parents. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #18

I suspect you love the father you used to have or wish you had. rainin Jun 2018 #57

they're also known as MAGAts. WhiteTara Jun 2018 #19

Thank you. Right now is a bad time for me. I take the S.Ct. thing seriously... Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #25

I am in the same boat- here is what helped me.. Books_Tea_Alone Jun 2018 #21

Thanks. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #27

Thanks for standing up for the country you want to see and not surrounding yourself with trumpers lunasun Jun 2018 #54

Exactly the way I have handled this HAB911 Jun 2018 #68

I did too after they posted on FB that they have no problem with kids in concentration camps nt maryellen99 Jun 2018 #73

my idiot ex-sister inlaw HAB911 Jun 2018 #75

They were both my husband's cousins but one of them is a "evangelical Christian maryellen99 Jun 2018 #89

I know how you feel...my Dad and I just agree to NOT discuss politics and have civil conversations. Dem_4_Life Jun 2018 #22

I would tell him no more Dumpster talk with you. roamer65 Jun 2018 #24

Post removed Post removed Jun 2018 #26

A first post, and you come out of the gate insulting members of the forum? Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #30

Aaaand.... flagged for review. moriah Jun 2018 #34

+1. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #42

glad to be part of that Jury..... spanone Jun 2018 #35

That is one of the most disgusting things I've seen in a while. Coventina Jun 2018 #37

+1. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #44

That is a serious tombstone! geardaddy Jun 2018 #47

well deserved spanone Jun 2018 #59

Welcome to DU Coventina Jun 2018 #32

my trumper sis and i even have retraining orders against each other samnsara Jun 2018 #28

Wow. That IS bad. I guess I'm lucky in that respect. Thx. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #31

Hey yeah but guarantees you won't be getting any calls from her... lunasun Jun 2018 #58

Maybe leave a message on his machine Tucker08087 Jun 2018 #29

He doesn't listen to messages. Really. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #38

I understand Tucker08087 Jun 2018 #130

Thanks. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #133

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2018 #94

Sorry jimlup Jun 2018 #33

Political discourse taught me what my mother really thought of me Siwsan Jun 2018 #36

This is it. You get it. That's what I'm talking about. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #40

I think it's the other way around Siwsan. roamer65 Jun 2018 #46

I had an amazing father Siwsan Jun 2018 #64

It's sad to say this, but I'm glad my parents are dead and can't see Ilsa Jun 2018 #39

+1. We did set boundaries. But they break those. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #41

Just an idea, FWIW: send them a note Ilsa Jun 2018 #48

Thanks. No, I don't mind! Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #51

My relatives at all levels and I have an agreement: No politics. MineralMan Jun 2018 #43

That's the best way. We tried to do that... Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #49

In an earlier post you said that while growing up... GulfCoast66 Jun 2018 #67

That is wonderful bdamomma Jun 2018 #122

Luckily, no one in my family is a Trumper or even a Republican geardaddy Jun 2018 #45

be kind to yourself and stay away when necessary Hamlette Jun 2018 #52

This message was self-deleted by its author Rocky888 Jun 2018 #56

Have you ever told your Dad why you don't answer his calls? kimbutgar Jun 2018 #60

Thank you. This is the first time I didn't pick up on a call from him. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #109

Father or not - you don't need toxic in your life. Good for you. Drunken Irishman Jun 2018 #62

My brother and I were always so close until the Amber Assclown came along. world wide wally Jun 2018 #66

My mother was like that - supported RW hate. Duppers Jun 2018 #69

I hear you. SpankMe Jun 2018 #70

"Infection." I think I may steal that from you. The Trump Infection. lol. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #110

I was lucky hibbing Jun 2018 #71

Just screen all your calls. One of my best friends has done so for over 20 years because...relatives Hekate Jun 2018 #84

LOL. Well, I just need a few days' break. After the S.Ct. thing. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #115

You are responsible for your own safety and your own mental health... Hekate Jun 2018 #119

I feel you. My dad is the same way. SunSeeker Jun 2018 #85

+1. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #111

As the only one of my family I assume is a Trumpanzee is one I haven't seen for 24 years DFW Jun 2018 #87

I just pondered what is an inherent 'trait' for lack of a better word sprinkleeninow Jun 2018 #106

+1. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #112

I understand. My parents were addicted to Fox News. Nitram Jun 2018 #88

Fox News is a real problem. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #113

I wish bdamomma Jun 2018 #123

I have an uneasy truce with my parents. MarvinGardens Jun 2018 #108

Thanks. I hope your truce holds up. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #114

Tomorrow is my Trumpster brother's birthday. mnhtnbb Jun 2018 #121

+1. I do view the Trump thing as different from the Bush thing. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #134

I'm guessing a Fox Entertainment viewer? sarcasmo Jun 2018 #127

Exclusively. Him, not me, of course. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #135

Sorry you have this going on, I'm lucky my father was never sucked into the Fox Vortex. sarcasmo Jun 2018 #140

My 50-yr-old son is pretty much dead to me Sam McGee Jun 2018 #128

OMG. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #136

I cut all ties with Hayduke Bomgarte Jun 2018 #129

I understand that, totally. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #137

Sorry to hear that. tiredtoo Jun 2018 #131

I'm glad to hear that. Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #138

Haven't talked to my brother for over a year maxrandb Jun 2018 #132

Yeah... Honeycombe8 Jun 2018 #139

I finally talked to my father on the phone. Honeycombe8 Jul 2018 #141

How did you respond to the 'joke'? irisblue Jul 2018 #142

I said... Honeycombe8 Jul 2018 #143

My mom is 83. irisblue Jul 2018 #144

LOL. Too funny! nt Honeycombe8 Jul 2018 #145