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thbobby

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24. I used to say to myself "Don't argue with idiots"
Wed Jul 4, 2018, 12:34 PM
Jul 2018

But I have changed my attitude. There is a 70-year-old couple that lives near me. I was talking to him about voting and Obama. He said to me "I just think they should stay on their own side of the tracks". A few days later, I was driving him to the store and he said something I didn't quite understand about a black man. I asked him "He is a midget?" Of course what he said was a slur that he thought was cute. I confront him gently, but firmly. Told him "We just see things differently. All people deserve respect". I few days after his Obama comment he was saying we need a young smart president. I said, "We had one, his name was Obama". His son works at Walmart and has a daughter that needs surgery. Walmart cut his hours to under 32. His son is as racist as he is and a trump humper. I helped him get Medicaid for his daughter after he lost his job. I did remind him of how Obamacare was intended to help people with problems like his. I also told him how trump wants to cut Medicaid.

I guess, what I believe is idiocy and hatred must be confronted, but the best way to do it is dependent on what you are comfortable with and who you are confronting. But, I firmly believe it must be confronted.

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I need some advice [View all] Ohiogal Jul 2018 OP
I extricate myself from the conversation as quickly and as politely as I can. Aristus Jul 2018 #1
They assume you are because you give them no reason not to. WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2018 #2
+1 gtar100 Jul 2018 #5
Thank you, those were good responses, I'll have to remember them next time! Ohiogal Jul 2018 #12
In the moment it can be hard to know what to do. But just being ready to speak pleasantly WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2018 #16
There are some people you simply don't need in your life. Solly Mack Jul 2018 #3
Be honest and be respectful. Being silent is being complicit. Doodley Jul 2018 #4
Speak up, or it'll never end dalton99a Jul 2018 #6
I'd be so tempted to look at her and say, 'That's so offensive. My Mom is Hispanic.' Siwsan Jul 2018 #7
Actually say, "My mom is Hispanic and my brother is married to a Black woman and has adorable kid nt Blue_true Jul 2018 #17
I have a whole pack of family like that lady dem in texas Jul 2018 #8
I see this as a simple problem to solve. vlyons Jul 2018 #9
Just my two cents worth ... lpbk2713 Jul 2018 #10
Thank you for your post Ohiogal Jul 2018 #13
The Orlando area has a mix of Hispanics, lots are Cuban, many are not. Blue_true Jul 2018 #19
I often tell about my experience living in NYC. moriah Jul 2018 #11
I've started envisioning responding like someone in an old movie.... Lars39 Jul 2018 #14
"I feel the same way about places where everyone is white." hunter Jul 2018 #15
On the other hand, there are bad neighborhoods in every city tavernier Jul 2018 #18
Hopefully, the overwhelming amount of Hispanics will choose Democrats. oasis Jul 2018 #20
"May I ask a question, ma'am?" JHB Jul 2018 #21
This is what puzzles me, too cyclonefence Jul 2018 #30
I won't live in Florida either, but it's not because of racism FakeNoose Jul 2018 #22
Tell her you learned a little Spanish safeinOhio Jul 2018 #23
I used to say to myself "Don't argue with idiots" thbobby Jul 2018 #24
Well said. We must confront it. Doodley Jul 2018 #29
Tell her that you are Hispanic... LuckyCharms Jul 2018 #25
Oh, there you go. janterry Jul 2018 #32
That is a tough one, because one can freeze up treestar Jul 2018 #26
Tell her she and her daughter are ignorant, racist assholes. pangaia Jul 2018 #27
Try truth lamsmy Jul 2018 #28
You do know I'm hispanic, don't you? janterry Jul 2018 #31
Generalize her prejudice to weaken it bucolic_frolic Jul 2018 #33
I would have told her that I stay away from all Walmarts, esp. at night but not due to Hispanics! wishstar Jul 2018 #34
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