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45. Gotta agree there. I've lived with roommates; in a small commune(the authoritarian was front

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and center there); and in two extended-family situations. I have also visited two long-term communes. Nothing in any of these situations was attractive, even tho in one of the family ones we all got along together.

I'm not an authoritarian type, I do not like to order people around but neither do I like being taken advantage of. Many roommates and commune members will be happy to shove their messes off on you, and it becomes irritating to have to keep 'negotiating' with these people. That's my opinion on why there are so many singles living alone -- lots of 'em just got sick of dealing with someone else's constant messes, drama, expectations, etc., and they bailed.

There comes a time when you just need LOTS of time by yourself. I've been that way all my life, but now even fairly gregarious people are giving up on living with more than one or two others, if that many.

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How will YOU survive global warming? [View all] KurtNYC Aug 2012 OP

Everyone move in together. Create co-operative living agreements. & WORK for a TAX ON FOSSIL FUELS, patrice Aug 2012 #1

I've been in several different extended family living together situations.. Fumesucker Aug 2012 #6

I agree with your comment about conflict levels. Trillo Aug 2012 #14

The situation is "no pain, no gain" for most of us. Do or don't what you can about the Romneys of patrice Aug 2012 #24

Have you ever actually lived in such an arrangement? Fumesucker Aug 2012 #28

Perhaps I am assuming more choice in the matter of who is and is not in a co-operative. It's called patrice Aug 2012 #33

It's been my experience that interpersonal politics trumps everything else.. Fumesucker Aug 2012 #36

Gotta agree there. I've lived with roommates; in a small commune(the authoritarian was front Nay Aug 2012 #45

I do think in smaller terms & also with clearly laid out options up front, so that if, after a patrice Aug 2012 #77

Every organization I've ever been part of has "doers" and "talkers".. Fumesucker Aug 2012 #109

I will do my best daily to make my footprint miniscule. I am old. My stay in hell won't roguevalley Aug 2012 #57

Same concern here, "It will take a freaking catastrophe to make RKP5637 Aug 2012 #129

I will not be here by the end of the century, RebelOne Aug 2012 #2

Do you have children? Family? Anyone you care about who will be here after you've gone? patrice Aug 2012 #4

The problem with this snappy reply is that Skidmore Aug 2012 #23

I'm pretty intimately acquainted with death. & I have been saying exactly what you are saying here patrice Aug 2012 #29

Thank you. I can't do anything about what is going to happen. RebelOne Aug 2012 #31

I know this sounds snide but are you posting using a tin can and a string? Fumesucker Aug 2012 #32

It is snide and you can only accomplish so much Skidmore Aug 2012 #53

Actually, with the advances in stem cell research, etc... randome Aug 2012 #39

Why anyone would want to do that is beyond me. Skidmore Aug 2012 #49

you could live long enought to watch the rest of us die... Odious justice Aug 2012 #52

First BlackHoleSon Aug 2012 #125

I'm not trying to depress you but why would you NOT want to live longer? randome Aug 2012 #54

I do think there comes a time when as organism we are Skidmore Aug 2012 #55

I hear you. randome Aug 2012 #56

Why do you assume that you have nothing that they need? Have you been in any or our nation's patrice Aug 2012 #94

I don't think I said that. What I said was Skidmore Aug 2012 #97

at some point everyone gets the message to move on. Some take longer. no one wanted roguevalley Aug 2012 #60

Wow, that would certainly be overpopulation on steroids. n/t RKP5637 Aug 2012 #130

Director of NASA Goddard Institute for Space Studies says work for a tax on fossil fuels - link: patrice Aug 2012 #3

I think there was an opportunity to limit the damage 40 years ago KurtNYC Aug 2012 #35

I'm not sure that particular tax tactic is so much just about limiting damage as it is also about patrice Aug 2012 #76

Easy. I won't. lapislzi Aug 2012 #5

I can't afford old age either. LiberalAndProud Aug 2012 #8

Re what will be left for them to live through is why we need to be here to help them make the patrice Aug 2012 #19

I have been encouraging my family to learn the old skills like gardening, farming, etc. But I am not jwirr Aug 2012 #84

We were talking about those smaller separate kinds of arrangements when I worked in long-term-care, patrice Aug 2012 #92

Born in 1941 and have witnessed all the modern changes that effect us so completely now. Fortunately jwirr Aug 2012 #103

What if someone needs you to help them do the right thing in their time here? patrice Aug 2012 #16

Those are really, really good questions. lapislzi Aug 2012 #21

Thank you for considering what I am saying. I will admit my bias, I am helping the young people patrice Aug 2012 #27

Oh, some of us will survive, we're a highly adaptable species Warpy Aug 2012 #7

oh good grief! guardian Aug 2012 #47

I live 150 feet from the water... meaculpa2011 Aug 2012 #68

I don't think guardian Aug 2012 #82

First, I said that we didn't... meaculpa2011 Aug 2012 #83

The crisis will force us to advance as a civilization, not regress. Odin2005 Aug 2012 #62

I sincerely hope so Warpy Aug 2012 #63

Invade Canada. They are so friendly... aikoaiko Aug 2012 #9

just invade during the hockey game KurtNYC Aug 2012 #38

You're kidding, Eh? Canadian 2 Aug 2012 #117

You'll be underwater, that will be the new north coast! B Calm Aug 2012 #113

I won't Motown_Johnny Aug 2012 #10

CSP (Concentrated Solar Power) could also be used. Amonester Aug 2012 #61

Aside from downloading my brain to a titanium computer.... Junkdrawer Aug 2012 #11

I have no answer.... Locrian Aug 2012 #12

the recent colorado firestorms pretzel4gore Aug 2012 #13

Well that's a new one guardian Aug 2012 #50

sorry ... so long to reply pretzel4gore Aug 2012 #136

I don't see how guardian Aug 2012 #137

i value your respect pretzel4gore Sep 2012 #138

I think you can rest easy tonight. guardian Sep 2012 #139

I should go off the grid, or set up the ability to do so. democrat_patriot Aug 2012 #15

I don't expect my body to survive it. Trillo Aug 2012 #17

I'm moving to the far Nor-Cal Coast (Eureka) musiclawyer Aug 2012 #18

Hey, that's my escape route too. Lone_Star_Dem Aug 2012 #40

Hope you love fog n2doc Aug 2012 #41

I grew up in fog musiclawyer Aug 2012 #42

Let it happen (on the one hand)... NYC_SKP Aug 2012 #20

I don't have a whole lot of ideas. Blue_In_AK Aug 2012 #22

Living as much off the grid as possible right now. cbayer Aug 2012 #25

Big ass air conditioners? hack89 Aug 2012 #26

Put them on full blast and open the windows to cool off the outside Son of Gob Aug 2012 #108

Move to Alaska maybe... Kalidurga Aug 2012 #30

I would encourage as many Democrats and libs as possible to move to Alaska, Blue_In_AK Aug 2012 #48

I would move to Alaska in a heartbeat if I could. RebelOne Aug 2012 #51

We have the technology and science to do something right now lunatica Aug 2012 #34

A lot of this Sci-Fi better come through Lifelong Protester Aug 2012 #43

It's not sci-fi. It's not even an engineering problem. It's a political problem. Zalatix Aug 2012 #64

It's not scifi- its science not being put to use on the scale it ought to be. Marrah_G Aug 2012 #100

Great info, do you have a link ...? Thanks MindMover Aug 2012 #79

They all came from different sites and different times lunatica Aug 2012 #99

I've already gotten rid of nearly all exotic landscaping plants that aren't drought-tolerant. slackmaster Aug 2012 #37

Global warming won't be what kills me. For others, they will adapt... yawnmaster Aug 2012 #44

I'm staying near fresh water. Alduin Aug 2012 #46

I hope you are north of 145th and out of the new flood zone. nt CK_John Aug 2012 #58

The Upper-Midwest is in a good location to weather the comming storm. Odin2005 Aug 2012 #59

Why is it taking so long to bring solar energy online ? limpyhobbler Aug 2012 #65

I agree with those who believe that the time when we could avoid catastrophe has passed KurtNYC Aug 2012 #69

I wonder if climate change defeatism is the new climate change denial ? limpyhobbler Aug 2012 #70

In 40 years there has been no progress on global warming KurtNYC Aug 2012 #72

Ok I don't disagree with we need to adapt . limpyhobbler Aug 2012 #74

By selling you food when the Breadbasket moves North canEHdian Aug 2012 #66

I could tell you.. sendero Aug 2012 #67

The earth will survive despite us. Topanga119 Aug 2012 #71

The biggest thing I did was to end my support of the stock market. raouldukelives Aug 2012 #73

Unfortuantly since many points made in "an inconvenient truth" were proven to be false or crazyjoe Aug 2012 #75

So you don't think the planet is warming, that man is directly responsible for the rapid... truebrit71 Aug 2012 #86

google it, you will have enough reading to keep you busy for days. crazyjoe Aug 2012 #102

No, you google it for me..you made the claim truebrit71 Aug 2012 #107

nah, to easy.....can't be bothered, I'm bored with you. go away. crazyjoe Aug 2012 #112

So you have nothing...that's what I figured... truebrit71 Aug 2012 #115

ok, you win. I did a quick search and found pages of results. crazyjoe Aug 2012 #116

One quick thought on your reply re: Alarmism truebrit71 Aug 2012 #120

This isn't about predictions or whether Glen Beck said that Gore shouldn't fly on airplanes KurtNYC Aug 2012 #91

costco now stocks emergency food in a bucket dembotoz Aug 2012 #78

I noticed that too this past weekend...plus portable solar panels... truebrit71 Aug 2012 #87

Turn up the cooling unit slightly 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #80

I don't think the weather pattern has AsahinaKimi Aug 2012 #81

Who are these scientists? cottonseed Aug 2012 #85

Living in Florida I might have to move north. Ganja Ninja Aug 2012 #88

cannibalism belcffub Aug 2012 #89

Nailed. it. nt patrice Aug 2012 #95

Mother nature can be quite emphatic when reminding us who's really in charge. Tierra_y_Libertad Aug 2012 #90

I live near the Ocean on the West Coast...it will buffer me for awhile. Tikki Aug 2012 #93

I figured moving as far north as possible would be the answer. sarcasmo Aug 2012 #96

Skills and educating oneself Marrah_G Aug 2012 #98

Move, adapt, or die. bluedigger Aug 2012 #101

I won't Sick of the GOP Aug 2012 #104

Welcome to DU... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2012 #105

HI....Welcome to DU.. Tikki Aug 2012 #106

Welcome to DU KurtNYC Aug 2012 #110

interesting thread. kick Liberal_in_LA Aug 2012 #111

My idea is get the fuck out of the city for one thing. Bonobo Aug 2012 #114

Yep, agree! I think cities might be devastating places to be. n/t RKP5637 Aug 2012 #132

I will be dead DainBramaged Aug 2012 #118

i will raid your compound and take your water, fuel, and food datasuspect Aug 2012 #119

and you expect us to 'just walk away'? KurtNYC Aug 2012 #123

that's the "die trying" part datasuspect Aug 2012 #124

I live in the mountains at over 9,000 feet. Not a problem. Grave Grumbler Aug 2012 #121

I have a plan. laundry_queen Aug 2012 #122

I live in Canada so though our flora and fauna are chaging...I hope this summer drought applegrove Aug 2012 #126

I'm going to hoard carbon credits. hughee99 Aug 2012 #127

My idea? let the Earth equilibrate. If an 80% decline in human population is necessary... yawnmaster Aug 2012 #128

I will rob republicans... fascisthunter Aug 2012 #131

Move to Antartica Shankapotomus Aug 2012 #133

Some sicentists would say that you are an alarmist. Vattel Aug 2012 #134

It might include global warming along with another natural phenomenon... yawnmaster Aug 2012 #135

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