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40. I did. I cut him out of my life.

Sun Jul 8, 2018, 06:25 PM

Jul 2018

My biological dad is a narcissistic habitual liar. He's regularly unfaithful to his partners, a shitty parent and deeply misogynist and made inappropriate "locker room" talk (in his case commenting on the size of my underage cousin's breasts is one particular low light)

When I was 17, I realized just how horrible a hums being he is. Fortunately my mom had already divorced him, so cutting him out was easy. He called on my 18th birthday to welcome me to "manhood", I replied saying he should someday try to become one, hung up, and haven't talked to him in almost 19 years.

Not everyone can be changed, and even those who can, not everybody can change that person. I tried and failed. At that point it was my emotional health or his. The choice was easy.

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What would you do if you knew someone with a personality like Trump in real life? [View all] milestogo Jul 2018 OP

Can't change a liar, I usually call them out to their face... Historic NY Jul 2018 #1

+1,Text book, but if the sociopath is in power everyone has to call them out otherwise they'll go to uponit7771 Jul 2018 #7

Call a 5150 ck4829 Jul 2018 #2

There are text book ways to deal with a sociopath like Trump (link inside) uponit7771 Jul 2018 #3

He's a sociopath. RUN! bitterross Jul 2018 #4

I knew someone with a personality like Chump's... ADX Jul 2018 #5

Did they come to their senses? milestogo Jul 2018 #6

Most likely the sociopath blamed the puncher even if the sociopath assaulted first. NOTHING the ... uponit7771 Jul 2018 #9

Both... ADX Jul 2018 #12

Run like hell. Trump destroys everything he touches. Demsrule86 Jul 2018 #8

Ignore and ridicule EndGOPPropaganda Jul 2018 #10

+1, it's easy to forget laughing at them uponit7771 Jul 2018 #23

Avoid them like the plague easttexaslefty Jul 2018 #11

I do - I don't talk to her or those who stand up for her. N/T lisa58 Jul 2018 #13

I have a coworker similar to Trump. Had to call him out last night, actually. Decoy of Fenris Jul 2018 #14

Check and Mate. oasis Jul 2018 #41

I know someone just like this, The Figment Jul 2018 #15

I've learned to recognize a narcissist immediately in life, and I run for the hills immediately... SWBTATTReg Jul 2018 #16

I do not associate with negative energy left-of-center2012 Jul 2018 #17

I used to be close friends with a narcissist and alcoholic. OliverQ Jul 2018 #18

Have them involuntarily committed for a mental exam. sinkingfeeling Jul 2018 #19

45's psychopathology comprises a sickness that refuses to regard itself as a sickness. VOX Jul 2018 #20

I knew a few like trump where I worked mokawanis Jul 2018 #21

I got a divorce. nt Laffy Kat Jul 2018 #22

He's a Malignant Narcissist, so ya gotta just RUN! donkeypoofed Jul 2018 #24

Met them in my psychology practice-- JohnnyLib2 Jul 2018 #25

Been there, done that. no_hypocrisy Jul 2018 #26

I have a BIL who is almost identical COLGATE4 Jul 2018 #27

My late brother in law was like twitler kimbutgar Jul 2018 #28

I worked for a School Superintendent who came close. gordianot Jul 2018 #29

I worked for one too. Made many efforts to adjust and spooky3 Jul 2018 #31

I maximize my time with people I like and minimize with those I don't. NCjack Jul 2018 #30

I worked with someone who had a personality like trump* Siwsan Jul 2018 #32

I have a brother who is all about himself liberal N proud Jul 2018 #33

I have the same brother. milestogo Jul 2018 #38

I had an employee like Trump, I resolved he would either follow directions or I'd get rid of him marylandblue Jul 2018 #34

If it was my boss I'd quit. If a relative or acquaintance I'd avoid them like the plague... Hekate Jul 2018 #35

Stay away. Turbineguy Jul 2018 #36

I've known a few. The justice system got the ones that didn't destroy themselves first. Eugene Jul 2018 #37

Great question yonder Jul 2018 #39

I did. I cut him out of my life. mythology Jul 2018 #40

I've had both. llmart Jul 2018 #42

My sister is just like Trump... HipChick Jul 2018 #43

Run like hell. They can destroy your life. SharonAnn Jul 2018 #44