THIS is what intolerance looks like, imagine how it feels...

[JoePhilly]

75. "Dad" blames himself for his son being gay ... and rather than deal with reality,

"Dad" cuts off his son, so as to distance himself from what he sees as his own failure.

"Dad" is trying to put distance between himself from his "failure". Its irrational, but since he knows he can't change his son, he thinks his only choice is to create distance from the "error" because he can't "fix it".

"Dad" hates himself, hates his own failure, and his son reminds him of his failure. And so he pushes his son away.

The son should respond and let his father know that his being gay is not the father's failure, but a natural event. There is no one to blame because there is no failure, no error, that needs to be fixed.

Dad won't be ready to hear this for a long time. But its the truth. And the son might as well tell the father this truth even if its his last communication before going to the father's funeral. Send it to mom and any siblings too. They'll probably get it before Dad does.