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kozar

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56. We understand completely,

Wed Sep 12, 2018, 05:59 AM

Sep 2018

Mrs Koz and I just returned last evening from Myrtle for the exact same circumstances. Her 93 year old father is refusing to leave, we packed up Daughter Koz, and car Monday at noon, and made the 7 hour trip. Half way there, heard of the evac order, called hotel and they confirmed we would need to be out by Tuesday morning.
We begged pleaded, cried, I talked to law enforcement, landlords,and anyone else to no avail to get him to come with us. There are no words for to describe how empty we feel, Mrs K lost mom,sister, and uncle last year to death and she is exhausted. We drove home with a million others yesterday, the 7 hour drive took 13 hours.
We are still making phone calls and trying, but he is set on riding this out.
You are forward in our thoughts Jim, we do understand the anguish.

Koz

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So my 86 year old dad has decided to ride out Florence [View all] jimlup Sep 2018 OP

The N/NE quadrants are the worst. Roland99 Sep 2018 #1

Yeah even if it hits south of him jimlup Sep 2018 #2

It looks like he could go to Washington High School to shelter. CentralMass Sep 2018 #3

That is an idea... jimlup Sep 2018 #12

Yes. If his instincts are right he can drive home. If not he will have acces to food and most CentralMass Sep 2018 #16

Tell him to get the hell out of there! PJMcK Sep 2018 #4

Storm surge is the most dangerous part HopeAgain Sep 2018 #5

It's hard to say bdamomma Sep 2018 #11

That's a tough one teenagebambam Sep 2018 #6

"Strong arm him into leaving"? Mariana Sep 2018 #69

what is his rationale for staying? Takket Sep 2018 #7

I won't even tell you about my friend mountain grammy Sep 2018 #8

Is leaving too logistically difficult for him? femmedem Sep 2018 #9

No he's fully capable and his driving is good enough to get out... jimlup Sep 2018 #15

"so that is why he won't have quite as much of a hit" jberryhill Sep 2018 #21

Here's what I'm talking about jberryhill Sep 2018 #22

Fortunately his house is in the moderate zone on this map jimlup Sep 2018 #31

They're all different now. Dorian Gray Sep 2018 #57

I'd say that at 86 he gets to make this decision himself. He probably knows enough Sep 2018 #10

I concur . . . MousePlayingDaffodil Sep 2018 #26

Sure it's his call-and no one is arguing otherwise, but I'll be damned if I respect an idiot decisio LanternWaste Sep 2018 #68

He can make the decision but he should know he could put dem4decades Sep 2018 #27

Well, I live in Hurricane country. First responders will not be at risk GulfCoast66 Sep 2018 #35

Interesting. I see your point, but maybe it's unfair to place loved ones ecstatic Sep 2018 #53

Basically my thoughts as well. Sounds like a good guy. Hortensis Sep 2018 #59

I know if my old man, who is 80, made a decision like that Mariana Sep 2018 #63

tell him to write his Social Security Number on his arm and legs so ,they can identify his body ! stonecutter357 Sep 2018 #13

And your phone number catrose Sep 2018 #43

Not a good idea... Wounded Bear Sep 2018 #14

Yes I'm only quoting my brother in the "sound will reduce the surge" jimlup Sep 2018 #17

... jberryhill Sep 2018 #36

It's sort of hard to imagine a worse place to be (other than on the OBX) jberryhill Sep 2018 #18

No he certainly wants to survive... jimlup Sep 2018 #28

Ok jberryhill Sep 2018 #30

ask him why he is going to put his family though the worry Marrah_Goodman Sep 2018 #50

An attempt to manipulate him via guilt-trip may very well backfire. Mariana Sep 2018 #67

Irene brought 9.5 ft to Oriental - and it was a cat 1 Blues Heron Sep 2018 #19

Thanks this is helpful jimlup Sep 2018 #29

all about his altitude zipplewrath Sep 2018 #20

Yes .. that is why he wants to stay put jimlup Sep 2018 #34

The elderly get less flexible due to blood paths in the brain: Call local officials and see if they lindysalsagal Sep 2018 #23

I must strongly disagree. GulfCoast66 Sep 2018 #39

Awful suggestion. cwydro Sep 2018 #70

You think the OP's dad should be kidnapped. Mariana Sep 2018 #78

As long as he is prepared wish him luck lunasun Sep 2018 #24

I was in Hurricane Alex, 2004 ... kwassa Sep 2018 #25

The storm surge could be 12+ feet, and it will occur at high tide. Ilsa Sep 2018 #32

Storm surge maps suggest almost all of Belhaven will have 6-9 ft storm surge. moriah Sep 2018 #33

Tell him to have an axe handy in case he has to chop out of the attic. nolabear Sep 2018 #37

The issue is the storm will be coming in south of there B2G Sep 2018 #38

Thanks - I'll use some of those exact words when I talk to him tomorrow morn. jimlup Sep 2018 #40

Good! Hope he changes his mind. B2G Sep 2018 #42

I know your pain. phylny Sep 2018 #41

U.S. Army, Marines, and Navy moondust Sep 2018 #44

Bro it's 14' foot + 20 foot waves ! stonecutter357 Sep 2018 #45

If you can't convince him to leave tammywammy Sep 2018 #46

Just out of curiosity ... Mariana Sep 2018 #72

That's the advice given for people that want to stay behind. tammywammy Sep 2018 #83

I'm just wondering if it's ever actually happened Mariana Sep 2018 #84

I don't work in post disaster recovery so I don't know firsthand. n/t tammywammy Sep 2018 #86

Only If They Use RobinA Sep 2018 #95

Snopes has nothin'. Totally Tunsie Sep 2018 #93

My thoughts is he needs to get the heck out of dodge Niagara Sep 2018 #47

Just watched an update. The predicted cat3/cat4 winds can RIP roofs off and carry dangerous debris. CentralMass Sep 2018 #48

I've lived in central Florida since 1957. lpbk2713 Sep 2018 #49

If you have relatives, or know his neighbors or friends, try to enlist their hlep to get him out of still_one Sep 2018 #51

I can only hope you convince your father to leave....ASAP pbmus Sep 2018 #52

Go there yourself and get him out of there. Don't waste time talking about it. Doodley Sep 2018 #54

Please keep us posted on this. alphafemale Sep 2018 #55

We understand completely, kozar Sep 2018 #56

"Mrs K lost mom,sister, and uncle last year to death" JustABozoOnThisBus Sep 2018 #65

Understand what you are saying kozar Sep 2018 #77

Please get him out. As a resident of Virginia, I've seen the maps of the path and it is dangerous Tardislass Sep 2018 #58

Hurricane warning map Tardislass Sep 2018 #60

Have you gone to get him yet? Doodley Sep 2018 #61

What do you expect the OP to do? Mariana Sep 2018 #71

A poster on this thread already said he should be forced to go. cwydro Sep 2018 #74

Whatever it takes. Better to try in earnest than to give up. This isn't something to Doodley Sep 2018 #80

Of course it's serious, but it's Dad's decision to make. Mariana Sep 2018 #87

The Town of Belhaven has issued an emergency declaration which mnhtnbb Sep 2018 #62

Do you have an update? mnhtnbb Sep 2018 #64

A lot of people will defend to their deaths the right to make a decision that will kill them. LanternWaste Sep 2018 #66

My Dad's 87. Iggo Sep 2018 #73

I wanna hear more about the PT boat incident! redwitch Sep 2018 #76

Dad tells it better than me, but I'll give it a shot. Iggo Sep 2018 #81

Glad they won. redwitch Sep 2018 #82

I wanted to know more about this Niagara Sep 2018 #90

The National Hurricane Center Potential Storm Surge Flooding Map (Inundation) shows Yonnie3 Sep 2018 #75

I'm 75 and live near Jacksonville NC. Cold War Spook Sep 2018 #79

Spook irisblue Sep 2018 #85

Be safe. salin Sep 2018 #89

Tell him how big the waves are likely to be. nt Blue_true Sep 2018 #88

Just saw some video on The Weather Channel of Belhaven. Same flooding as New Bern mnhtnbb Sep 2018 #91

Unfortunately he did not jimlup Sep 2018 #92

Keep us posted. B2G Sep 2018 #94

He's safe and past the worst of it jimlup Sep 2018 #98

Good to hear he made it through in good shape. Totally Tunsie Sep 2018 #100

Show him some of the videos of boat rescues in New Bern. mnhtnbb Sep 2018 #101

Such good news! Nt B2G Sep 2018 #102

That is great news. CentralMass Sep 2018 #103

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Hope he's ok. Not flooded. He may have to wait a long time to get power returned. mnhtnbb Sep 2018 #97

Yes my big concern is the black and lower class areas of the city jimlup Sep 2018 #104

This video apparently caused my brother to freak ... jimlup Sep 2018 #99