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In reply to the discussion: Kavanaugh accuser speaks out: [View all]Ms. Toad
(38,735 posts)The second person in the room.
As to whether he is a predator - I want to know more - and I want to know how he now feels about the incident. Not everyone who is sexually aggressive on one occasion, particularly while a drunk teen, is a predator.
A classmate of mine in college was sexually aggressive with me - not as bad as this, but inappropriate. He recently contacted me because his behavior had been eating at him for 4 decades - and he flew 2/3 of the way across the country to apologize to me about it.
Not saying this is true in all cases - a person who groped me in Jr. High school recently reached out to me on facebook with a friend request. His private messages to me (as well as what he posts) make it clear he has not changed - and has no awareness of the inappropriateness of his behavior back then).
I'm just not willing to label someone a predator for the rest of their life based on a single incident of attempted rape while still in high school. His behavior as a teenager was certainly crimnial - I want to know whether he regrets it, has repeated it with other women, continues it today, etc. before I use that label.
However - if he continues to deny it and smears the person he attempted to rape (now that she has come forward and there is a specific allegation on the table), that's all I need to know. Even if changed, a person who does further harm today to someone he attempted to rape years in order to further his political career, is unfit for the Supreme Court.