It is an insult to all men...

[tymorial]

37. The concern is legitimate even in this scenario it is something completely different

And a different situation entirely.

20 years ago after college I taught private voice and piano lessons before I went back to get my RN. I was 23 and had many children and young women who were my students. Most of the time parents were in the room with me but older students it was rare. If you know anything about vocal coaching, demonstrating and discussing technique can be a physical activity. I never touched a student but I would talk about breath support. I would instruct students to place their hand on their abdomen so they could feel their stomach muscles. I would have them watch my breathing so they could observe how to and now not to breath. I would instruct them on posture, body movement and presence. We would do exercises where they exhale and produce sounds to reduce tension. These are common practices and techniques that I went through myself over the years.

I never had an issue with any of my students but I can imagine a scenario where someone could feel uncomfortable. This is especially so if they are unfamiliar with the process or if they have been abused. If I was accused my intentions as a teacher and method would be questioned even if standard. Even if eventually the situation was resolved, in the immediate I would need to defend myself. Even back then accused men were considered guilty, especially where kids are involved.

This doesnt mean the student would have necessarily acted out of malice but my life could have been ruined. As a point of reference My mothers friend was a piano teacher in the mid 90s and he was accused. I have no idea if it was true but I am guessing not because the student eventually went back according to my mom and today the man is a conductor of a choir.

The gross majority of private teachers and tutors never have problems but the concern and fear is still there. It's why many people now record their sessions and/or require parents to be present when minors are the students. I started to require parents towards the end of my studio. This was long before smart phones, tablets and good webcams. Camcorders were expensive. I lost students because some parents couldnt manage the requirement. It sucked but I wanted to protect myself.

I am sure some of you will think I was over reacting. I am not defending the president or Kavanaugh. This was an entirely different situation. I do however understand the fear.