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MarianJack

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43. When I was 17 I was fooling around with a girl.

Mon Sep 17, 2018, 09:22 PM

Sep 2018

We were on her bed and I was trying to get her clothes off. When she said stop, I stopped and released all physical contact. I'm sure that if she remembers me at all today, she remembers me as a nice guy who fooled around with her a few times. She would NOT say that I tried to force myself on her because I didn't.

My father, bastard that he is, taught me correctly that when a girl or woman says stop, you stop immediately. I added the releasing all physical contact of my own accord. My son is almost 19. I taught him the same thing and, smart boy that he is (sometimes), he follows it.

Guess what? No girl or woman has ever said that any of us ever sexually assaulted them because we've never given them reason to say so.

RESIST!

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It is an insult to all men... [View all] kpete Sep 2018 OP

No. Not "every man" should be worried...unless they did the same thing. dameatball Sep 2018 #1

The implication is that "every man" should be worried that someone makes up something like that. Honeycombe8 Sep 2018 #32

You make sense. Also these issues go way beyond Congress, as you know. dameatball Sep 2018 #33

Just said the same to hubby mcar Sep 2018 #2

Right.. I just asked my husband mountain grammy Sep 2018 #14

No shit, Sherlock... regnaD kciN Sep 2018 #3

+10 !!! nt reACTIONary Sep 2018 #22

Very true. DavidDvorkin Sep 2018 #4

I do find something insulting about it Cary Sep 2018 #5

It's like I despise people who behave that way Cary Sep 2018 #6

As a man, I just gotta say, "Wow." dchill Sep 2018 #7

Al Franken, Al Franken, Al Franken ProudLib72 Sep 2018 #8

I know that some of it was luck dflprincess Sep 2018 #9

I think so as well. warmfeet Sep 2018 #35

I remember when Trump claimed his comments were "locker room talk." Still In Wisconsin Sep 2018 #10

gov't of, by, and for assholes Hermit-The-Prog Sep 2018 #28

Agreed. Always pisses me off, the whole boys will be boys argument GulfCoast66 Sep 2018 #11

Good ol'boys will be good ol' boys, and they should not be allowed near the wheels of power. lagomorph777 Sep 2018 #29

The irony: I am sometimes described as a good ole boy! GulfCoast66 Sep 2018 #34

I wasn't aware of that usage of the term; as a Yankee, my context is very different lagomorph777 Sep 2018 #44

Yet such lotharios are the same fux who claim the moral high ground lambchopp59 Sep 2018 #12

I'm gonna go way out on a limb and say he's trying to imply that Cavanaugh is innocent and the woman mr_lebowski Sep 2018 #13

Most of us have bad experiences with other people. IluvPitties Sep 2018 #24

But the dude doesn't say that ... mr_lebowski Sep 2018 #30

He means "every Republican man should be worried"... BamaRefugee Sep 2018 #15

That tweet would be a lot more effective had it come ecstatic Sep 2018 #16

Did they defend Al Franken? Duppers Sep 2018 #17

The way I figure it, rusty quoin Sep 2018 #18

Uh-huh, but Kavanaugh will be Confirmed Frequency Kenneth Sep 2018 #19

It is an insult to men and women. recovering_democrat Sep 2018 #20

This message was self-deleted by its author recovering_democrat Sep 2018 #21

I wanted to be liked and get laid, not rape anybody! IluvPitties Sep 2018 #23

Yes. I never did anything like that. I never would have. MineralMan Sep 2018 #25

I hate to accuse his drunk ass friend but I suspect that he MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #26

Mark Judge? nt Honeycombe8 Sep 2018 #39

Yes. Total Freudian slip MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #40

LOL! dodge. Good one. nt Honeycombe8 Sep 2018 #42

Not every boy or man, but sadly there was a "seduction model" that was sexual force and rape aikoaiko Sep 2018 #27

Thankfully, most men are into consent TexasBushwhacker Sep 2018 #31

A few men have done this to lots of women IronLionZion Sep 2018 #36

The concern is legitimate even in this scenario it is something completely different tymorial Sep 2018 #37

I understand it. Honeycombe8 Sep 2018 #41

These people really hate women. MrScorpio Sep 2018 #38

When I was 17 I was fooling around with a girl. MarianJack Sep 2018 #43

Some folks are off the rails BannonsLiver Sep 2018 #45