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(47,209 posts) Thu Sep 27, 2018, 01:45 AM Sep 2018

Stop in for a hug if you're hella triggered this week, I am peak triggered. [View all]

And could use each other’s support.

I went to a fair amount of frat parties from the ages 14-17. Probably a dozen. I never stayed late, knew some were going to get crazy so we were careful and left early.
I feel bad for the ones that stayed, or drank too much punch.
Someone really ragged on me about not staying and stopping it. I saved a lot of tipsy gals from sketchy situations over the years. But yeah, I’m not proud I went those places becasue I was dead broke and wanted to drink and was very young and stupid. And my own me-too moments, all years later.
Still, this week is so triggering AF for many. How exhausting it was to feel safe sometimes.
You too? If so....

Hugs y’all.

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Stop in for a hug if you're hella triggered this week, I am peak triggered. [View all] bettyellen Sep 2018 OP

... FirstLight Sep 2018 #1

Thanks FL! Maybe I'll see you tomorrow on a thread for the hearings. bettyellen Sep 2018 #5

Hey sweetie suffragette Sep 2018 #2

Hey friend! Thanks for stopping buy w a hug. Well received. bettyellen Sep 2018 #4

Hugs to you, bettyellen, and all us Cha Sep 2018 #3

Thank you Cha. You're the best! Are you getting up extremely early for the hearing? bettyellen Sep 2018 #9

Hugs.... peacebuzzard Sep 2018 #6

Hey, long time no see! An excellent addition to the group hug! bettyellen Sep 2018 #10

... Solly Mack Sep 2018 #7

Yep. We made the best of some real shit, didn't we? bettyellen Sep 2018 #11

I've tried to. Solly Mack Sep 2018 #19

Hug. sheshe2 Sep 2018 #8

I know that you know that I know. We know. :bigTIGHThug: bettyellen Sep 2018 #29

Lordy I need a hug oldtime dfl_er Sep 2018 #12

YES. So much yes. susanna Sep 2018 #16

Thank you! oldtime dfl_er Sep 2018 #88

Biggest warmest hug I can muster becasue I have felt much the same way bettyellen Sep 2018 #21

Getting thru oldtime dfl_er Sep 2018 #89

As am I. Am hoping we see glimpses of the ugly come outnumber in Kav. I know it's there. bettyellen Sep 2018 #92

{{{{ HUGS }}}} OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #41

Yoga oldtime dfl_er Sep 2018 #90

Wish I had more than a virtual hug to give you. PA Democrat Sep 2018 #65

virtual hugs back at you oldtime dfl_er Sep 2018 #91

Trigged, and can't even talk about it.. HipChick Sep 2018 #13

That's okay. I feel like we sit here solidarity now. Thanks for that bettyellen Sep 2018 #22

When I think about situations I have been in.. HipChick Sep 2018 #36

Eerily similar to some of my old memories. bettyellen Sep 2018 #38

So true. I gave up on joy. Inner peace is my goal. To quiet the PTSD chatter OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #42

OMG yes. susanna Sep 2018 #14

Also speechless and preoccupied. bettyellen Sep 2018 #24

Triggered and a wreck Pachamama Sep 2018 #15

I am with you too. susanna Sep 2018 #17

Thanks for the solidarity. And multiple posts of love and empathy here. bettyellen Sep 2018 #31

Thank you so much for this thread, bettyellen. susanna Sep 2018 #33

Oh good. I kinda felt like a dipshit w this OP, but you nailed it. We're navigating ... bettyellen Sep 2018 #37

Navigating tires us. susanna Sep 2018 #50

Thank you Susanna Pachamama Sep 2018 #46

Oh honey I am so sorry about that. Lots of self care should happen Fri-Monday. bettyellen Sep 2018 #25

Thank you Bettyellen Pachamama Sep 2018 #48

Group hug GeoWilliam750 Sep 2018 #18

Thank you. We needed that. bettyellen Sep 2018 #30

Been triggered for months! OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #20

Thank you Oh No Really! Anxiety and PTSD are real and debilitating. bettyellen Sep 2018 #27

{{{ HUGS }}}. We can lock arms and feel safe. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #43

You are so right. susanna Sep 2018 #28

Thank you, Peace to you, too. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #40

It's weird, but the lesson I took from being molested for a year was to be hyper-vigilant... Hekate Sep 2018 #23

Same reaction to his stalking during the debate. So ugly. bettyellen Sep 2018 #26

Me to! I WASN't in touch until you mentioned it. I can't watch him at all. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #45

Yes DoBotherMe Sep 2018 #32

I agree, for so many women. bettyellen Sep 2018 #35

I cannot say I am sorry enough for what you all have been through.... pbmus Sep 2018 #34

I feel like I can't sleep till it's over. It's not good. bettyellen Sep 2018 #39

Thank you. I cried reading your tender comment. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #47

I'm glad you're all here. Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #44

{{{ HUGS }}} OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #49

{{{HUGS}}} returned Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #57

Thank you for sharing with us. bettyellen Sep 2018 #74

I'm full up vlyons Sep 2018 #51

Oh jeeze, I'm so sorry. :hug: bettyellen Sep 2018 #56

Think a lot of women need hugs tonight, so thank you, bettyellen Lady_Chat Sep 2018 #52

Yes..... It helps to hear from all of you. I'm keeping good thoughts for Dr Ford too. bettyellen Sep 2018 #53

I've been thinking about my sister. betsuni Sep 2018 #54

Oh lord, was an awful thing. bettyellen Sep 2018 #73

. spooky3 Sep 2018 #55

Feeling hopeful? Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #58

I am very hopeful. Thanks for asking. But still nervous. bettyellen Sep 2018 #59

I feel like shit as well. . . DinahMoeHum Sep 2018 #60

Don't apologize for being pissed off! We are entitled to be disgusted!! bettyellen Sep 2018 #68

Yes. N/t RockCreek Sep 2018 #61

Thanks for your support this morning. bettyellen Sep 2018 #70

What bothers me the most Quayblue Sep 2018 #62

I've thought about that a lot too. Appreciate the hopeful report too. bettyellen Sep 2018 #69

Oh, boy, Betty. I'm in knots and so are so many women I talk to. Squinch Sep 2018 #63

Me too. :hugs: bettyellen Sep 2018 #67

I carried the secret of my sexual abuse for more than 50 years PA Democrat Sep 2018 #64

It's true of so many women. Thank you. bettyellen Sep 2018 #71

Absolutely triggered Qanisqineq Sep 2018 #66

Me too, it's been building. bettyellen Sep 2018 #76

I just want to vomit. GoCubsGo Sep 2018 #72

You're not alone w the nausea, not even close. And hugs are better. bettyellen Sep 2018 #75

victim of of a priest here - it happened to boys, too rurallib Sep 2018 #77

Absolutely not hijacking, thank you for being here and sharing our grief and anxiety. bettyellen Sep 2018 #79

Hugs to You and All the Women dlk Sep 2018 #78

And to you as well, thank you. bettyellen Sep 2018 #83

I have been really triggered these last two weeks BlueIndyBlue Sep 2018 #80

You'd be tormented if you said anything, I know the feeling too. bettyellen Sep 2018 #84

Hugs back at you betty. JHan Sep 2018 #81

Much appreciated JHan. bettyellen Sep 2018 #82

The way she described them laughing seared through me. bettyellen Sep 2018 #85

Giant Hug. zentrum Sep 2018 #86

I needed that. Right back atcha. bettyellen Sep 2018 #87

Be well. zentrum Sep 2018 #95

I'm sorry you went through that NewJeffCT Sep 2018 #93

Love you, buddy! bettyellen Sep 2018 #97

Having a fair bit of trouble keeping myself together this week. cry baby Sep 2018 #94

Kavanaugh's total melt down has pepped up my spirits. bettyellen Sep 2018 #96

backatacha yuiyoshida Sep 2018 #98

And right back at you! bettyellen Sep 2018 #106

I'm not exactly triggered as fucking furious ismnotwasm Sep 2018 #99

So angry. BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2018 #100

I feel like exploding. backtoblue Sep 2018 #101

Yeah. It's shitty thing. bettyellen Sep 2018 #105

Lord Jesus shenmue Sep 2018 #102

You said it. I can't believe he hasn't crashed and burned today. bettyellen Sep 2018 #104

..... LiberalLoner Sep 2018 #103

Yup! bettyellen Sep 2018 #107

I am on my second vodka and cranberry marlakay Sep 2018 #108