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23. It's weird, but the lesson I took from being molested for a year was to be hyper-vigilant...

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 03:13 AM

Sep 2018

...and dress like an old maid for much of my youth. As if that would retroactively keep me safe, you know?

Donald Trump's very existence triggers me. Watching him stalk Hillary across the debate stge made me want to scream. Maybe I did scream at the tv. Everything about him screams "abuser."

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Stop in for a hug if you're hella triggered this week, I am peak triggered. [View all] bettyellen Sep 2018 OP

... FirstLight Sep 2018 #1

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... Solly Mack Sep 2018 #7

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When I think about situations I have been in.. HipChick Sep 2018 #36

Eerily similar to some of my old memories. bettyellen Sep 2018 #38

So true. I gave up on joy. Inner peace is my goal. To quiet the PTSD chatter OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #42

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Triggered and a wreck Pachamama Sep 2018 #15

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Navigating tires us. susanna Sep 2018 #50

Thank you Susanna Pachamama Sep 2018 #46

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Thank you Bettyellen Pachamama Sep 2018 #48

Group hug GeoWilliam750 Sep 2018 #18

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Been triggered for months! OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #20

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Thank you, Peace to you, too. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #40

It's weird, but the lesson I took from being molested for a year was to be hyper-vigilant... Hekate Sep 2018 #23

Same reaction to his stalking during the debate. So ugly. bettyellen Sep 2018 #26

Me to! I WASN't in touch until you mentioned it. I can't watch him at all. OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #45

Yes DoBotherMe Sep 2018 #32

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{{{ HUGS }}} OhNo-Really Sep 2018 #49

{{{HUGS}}} returned Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #57

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I've been thinking about my sister. betsuni Sep 2018 #54

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. spooky3 Sep 2018 #55

Feeling hopeful? Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #58

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I feel like shit as well. . . DinahMoeHum Sep 2018 #60

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Yes. N/t RockCreek Sep 2018 #61

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What bothers me the most Quayblue Sep 2018 #62

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I carried the secret of my sexual abuse for more than 50 years PA Democrat Sep 2018 #64

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Absolutely triggered Qanisqineq Sep 2018 #66

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victim of of a priest here - it happened to boys, too rurallib Sep 2018 #77

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Hugs to You and All the Women dlk Sep 2018 #78

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I'm sorry you went through that NewJeffCT Sep 2018 #93

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backatacha yuiyoshida Sep 2018 #98

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..... LiberalLoner Sep 2018 #103

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