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haele

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31. It is upsetting for me, also.

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Fri Sep 28, 2018, 04:28 PM

Sep 2018

And I was pretty lucky growing up. There were a couple friends who were being abused, looking back, but there was still that culture of sexualization of young girls that meant you always had to be ready to fight, to work twice as hard as the boys in your cadre if you wanted to be more than a product that would eventually be bought by some "nice young man" who was going to take care of you in return for being his living doll, maid, and the nanny for any kids you both might have.

Just the obvious implication that no matter how smart, successful, or important a woman might be, she's still a disposable object to men in positions of authority. That there's an expectation that an over-priviledged dick like Kavanagh "deserves" respect and a position just for having male genitalia and belonging to the right country clubs.

Yes, it's upsetting and it stings.

Haele

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