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In reply to the discussion: Not sure how long i have left. [View all]Pinkflamingo
(177 posts)61. This I know: Any living arrangement the family as a unit can agree on, will be the best,
most carefully crafted solution. If you can meet with the family (away from his ears) and weigh the possibilities, perhaps together a solution or a plan could be crafted. I went through something similar and a social worker recommended this option.
I understand his irritation with his parents. The issue is, we love our kids more than they love us! It will always be this way.
If an aunt and uncle could plan to fulfill the role you have with him, that might work well, provided they are willing, and get a good heads up on the way he likes things to be. These types of issues could be discussed ahead of time and then of course eventually with him. His input matters too.
I remember an NPR podcast pointed to a place in Sweden where these adult kids are basically exchanged with other families. The program works well. Ill see if I can find it if youre interested.
New research has pointed to the autism gene being somehow linked to the schizophrenia and bipolar genes. Its important that he not be pushed over the edge. He should have the dignity he deserves and a say in how things go.
Let me apologize if Ive said anything to insult you or anyone. Im just speaking from my own experience. I dont really know your particular situation.
You seem to be handling things very well. I wish you well in this journey sir.
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Kajun Gal
Oct 2018
#1
So sorry you are in this situation, but admire heck out of how you seem to have sorted it out
Hoyt
Oct 2018
#5
Feel free to vent all you want on DU. We are good "listeners" and often have advice you can
Frustratedlady
Oct 2018
#8
you might also want to check in with the Chronic Health Condition subforum if you haven't already
0rganism
Oct 2018
#10
I think I may be the oldest aspie on it at 70 years old and really acting and feeling like my 30's
LiberalArkie
Oct 2018
#43
"I have written a personal letter to each, sharing my thoughts and memories with them..."
chia
Oct 2018
#25
This I know: Any living arrangement the family as a unit can agree on, will be the best,
Pinkflamingo
Oct 2018
#61