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137. It's exactly the reason why it helps to be nice to people who do stuff you find rude

Sat Oct 13, 2018, 02:58 PM

Oct 2018

Like people who cut in line at the checkout...it's not worth it to get angry over it. I accidentally cut in line a few times, and it was a total accident, I didn't see the other person. I am blind in one eye.

I always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she had a bad day with some rudeness for white people. If you're white, you don't see the rudeness and disrespect given by whites like black people do. So maybe to her, this was just another example of a white person being aggressive. And the "you people" thing didn't help.

I'm not religious but one thing I took away from religions such as Buddhism and Christianity is patience, and kindness and don't be confrontational.

Being called a racist by one person shouldn't bother you unless your conscience is troubling you. It's just one incident in one day by one person. White people tell me stories like this all of the time, and I'm like, "this is one person, not an entire race." Chalk it up to a bad day for that person and let it go.

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Got called a racist today... [View all] Athenapallas Oct 2018 OP

I like walking and park WAY off from any store. cwydro Oct 2018 #1

problem was I wasn't trying park near walmart I was trying to go down the aisle to get to another Athenapallas Oct 2018 #2

That woman can't harm you by calling you a "racist". dubyadiprecession Oct 2018 #109

Same here. I like walking, too. Plus it saves your car from getting all dinged up mtnsnake Oct 2018 #9

Always. NT WeekiWater Oct 2018 #44

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2018 #111

me too--and it's usually faster than circling looking for a close spot yurbud Oct 2018 #115

Also a pet peeve of mine... Shell_Seas Oct 2018 #3

Umm....no, or at least not always. Ms. Toad Oct 2018 #35

Mobility issues tazkcmo Oct 2018 #73

Not even 75% of people that do this have a mobility issues.... Shell_Seas Oct 2018 #160

I'll follow a person with keys in their hand and wait for their spot. Croney Oct 2018 #4

I'm with you about the phone. However, with heavy packages and/or spooky3 Oct 2018 #104

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2018 #112

I like to walk through parking lots jingling my keys - it's just like fishing! petronius Oct 2018 #124

Okay? WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2018 #5

I am now. took me a while to cool down. Athenapallas Oct 2018 #7

It was a response, not a question. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2018 #10

oh sorry. Athenapallas Oct 2018 #13

people who wait... skypilot Oct 2018 #6

I don't. She also was blocking traffic and causing a traffic fam. Athenapallas Oct 2018 #11

Although, as I said, I don't drive... skypilot Oct 2018 #42

I don't tolerate it. I don't do it. I don't find it natural! Athenapallas Oct 2018 #46

OK, I hope you don't drive or park in the city. skypilot Oct 2018 #53

maybe I don't drive in "BIG CITIES" but the cities I drive in I never seen traffic held up because Athenapallas Oct 2018 #55

With a little patience and consideration... skypilot Oct 2018 #57

Is anything natural about driving a car? mahina Oct 2018 #72

If lots are crowded, and finding another spot will be challenging - Ms. Toad Oct 2018 #38

Yes, if there are spots nearby it's rude. skypilot Oct 2018 #49

And people behind can decide not to wait. They can pass, spooky3 Oct 2018 #105

Some Do, Some Don't RobinA Oct 2018 #80

It might be a peeve of yours but... skypilot Oct 2018 #82

yup parts of Chicago are absolutely brutal especially if you want to avoid paying a meter mucifer Oct 2018 #102

IMO you just need to lighten up. If that is your worst problems be thankful. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #8

IMO, she doesn't need to "lighten up" whathehell Oct 2018 #15

LOL, then we disagree. Understand that?? Pretty simple. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #18

Lol, yeah, just like you do with the OP..Understand that?? That's simple too. n/t whathehell Oct 2018 #25

I know no one who I admire that would act like that. Very simple. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #26

Okay, but that's you -- The OP had a different experience..Very simple as well. whathehell Oct 2018 #40

I totally assumed the OP was a man. Croney Oct 2018 #28

I assumed the OP was a woman, but I don't see how it would matter either way whathehell Oct 2018 #47

I thought you were telling USALiberal not to tell a woman Croney Oct 2018 #61

Yes he does. demmiblue Oct 2018 #29

Your concern is duly noted.. whathehell Oct 2018 #34

Your concern is duly noted, as well. demmiblue Oct 2018 #45

Lol...I don't have any "concerns" whathehell Oct 2018 #52

Your concern about not having any "concerns" is duly noted. demmiblue Oct 2018 #64

Glad to hear it.. whathehell Oct 2018 #65

I know, right?! demmiblue Oct 2018 #67

Yep, when lots are crowded it's not unusual to wait for someone to pull out. brush Oct 2018 #41

Seems you need to relax a bit. I mean, seriously, who reacts this way?! demmiblue Oct 2018 #12

What you said MissB Oct 2018 #14

This. Another "reverse racism" story. Eye roll Squinch Oct 2018 #16

Excuse me but the poster is not saying that.. whathehell Oct 2018 #23

That's certainly what I think. marble falls Oct 2018 #145

I 100% agree, first world problems. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #19

Because My friend is now paralyze is due to bull shit actions like Athenapallas Oct 2018 #36

Your friend was paralyzed because of a head-on collision between two cars. Ms. Toad Oct 2018 #43

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2018 #113

From what I can piece together Ms. Toad Oct 2018 #136

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2018 #139

"Paralyzed" Codeine Oct 2018 #77

Curious, eh? cwydro Oct 2018 #119

I wouldn't say Turin_C3PO Oct 2018 #17

+1000! nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #21

I have a problem with people wasting gas jockeying for a close spot because they cannot walk a Trust Buster Oct 2018 #20

Drivers in parking lots annoy me when they're in the middle of the lane... CaptainTruth Oct 2018 #22

What on Earth does the race of the person have to do with this? MineralMan Oct 2018 #24

Great question! nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #27

Logical question. MineralMan Oct 2018 #30

Me too, also helps with the 10,000 steps a day. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #39

Because the person who was blocking traffic called ME racist because I told her she was in the wrong Athenapallas Oct 2018 #31

Race is irrelevant. Old white men do MineralMan Oct 2018 #33

NO I WAS CALLED A RACIST Athenapallas Oct 2018 #37

I think you need to mellow - save getting upset for the big stuff womanofthehills Oct 2018 #122

That was the OP's question.. whathehell Oct 2018 #59

We got just one side of this story. MineralMan Oct 2018 #99

Do all the people... tonedevil Oct 2018 #107

Did you read the post? oberliner Oct 2018 #88

Of course I did. My point is that the race of the "offending" MineralMan Oct 2018 #98

Understood oberliner Oct 2018 #108

Well, honking at and yelling at a black person in a car MineralMan Oct 2018 #110

Honking at a white person will also get a reaction oberliner Oct 2018 #141

Seriously? A white person won't get called racist by a carload of whites? Your point? Carloads ... marble falls Oct 2018 #147

The point is that the OP is talking about being accused of racism oberliner Oct 2018 #154

The other person doesn't know the background of his friend being paralyze JonLP24 Oct 2018 #155

And positing that a car full of white pipo will not call a white pedestian a racist proves what??? marble falls Oct 2018 #156

Seem to be a major concern for you. What was the damage done by that? marble falls Oct 2018 #146

I was called that once. safeinOhio Oct 2018 #32

She wasn't in the wrong, your impatience was... JCMach1 Oct 2018 #48

My impatience? Athenapallas Oct 2018 #51

Calling he or she a "racist" over an everyday parking dispute IS wrong whathehell Oct 2018 #60

Cultivate some parking lot zen... sorry, but true JCMach1 Oct 2018 #135

Cultivate some even- handedness.. whathehell Oct 2018 #142

Being called a 'racist' incorrectly means what? Where is the harm? Are you really saying the ... marble falls Oct 2018 #148

Might have been more of a white people problem thing. WeekiWater Oct 2018 #50

I don't shop at Walmart. These people will shove you out of the way for samples being ... SWBTATTReg Oct 2018 #54

unfortunatly this walmart is in a complex of various other stores so Athenapallas Oct 2018 #56

I'm sure that was frustrating. But at least there was no power behind the accusation Bucky Oct 2018 #58

thanks. It just really hurt me being called a racist. Athenapallas Oct 2018 #62

lol RandiFan1290 Oct 2018 #66

Always "wearing your safety Pin" lol. cwydro Oct 2018 #96

Remember diabeticman? And door buzzards? For some Squinch Oct 2018 #106

Oh hell yes lol! cwydro Oct 2018 #116

I thought the same thing. likesmountains 52 Oct 2018 #127

I miss Pinboy. He'd be all over this. cwydro Oct 2018 #128

I don't drive anywhere without my safety pin jberryhill Oct 2018 #151

Your English is slipping. nt Codeine Oct 2018 #120

Yes indeed. nt cwydro Oct 2018 #123

I truly do not understand your story about your friend. Celerity Oct 2018 #63

Okay let me give you more details Athenapallas Oct 2018 #69

I think you should just have waited and let the car who found the space park in it Celerity Oct 2018 #70

As a black man myself... skypilot Oct 2018 #74

that is indeed a loaded phrase in the wrong context and in a Trumpian world Celerity Oct 2018 #75

"people like you" HipChick Oct 2018 #76

I'm not sure how this sounds... tonedevil Oct 2018 #79

It sounds fine. skypilot Oct 2018 #81

Those were my thoughts as well tulipsandroses Oct 2018 #83

Exactly. And it shouldn't be a heated situation at all. Waiting for someone... brush Oct 2018 #129

You want to know what ticks me off in parking lots? mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #93

I have never had one stressful moment in a parking lot. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #97

Did you forget the sarcasm thingie? mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #100

It must be that I only stress for real problems. nt USALiberal Oct 2018 #101

Must be nice mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #103

Parking Lots are Extremely Dangerous for Women violetpastille Oct 2018 #117

I don't stress in parking lots either. cwydro Oct 2018 #118

Enjoy your joints. I'm having my third joint replacement a week from Monday. mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #138

My right knee is wired together. cwydro Oct 2018 #140

What gets me is when you take the effort to park several spaces away... brush Oct 2018 #132

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2018 #114

Wow... this sounds like a real problem. Texasgal Oct 2018 #68

It's exactly the reason why it helps to be nice to people who do stuff you find rude MountCleaners Oct 2018 #137

Welcome to DU. mahina Oct 2018 #71

White people problems. nt LexVegas Oct 2018 #78

Whoa, Nelly! Jersey Devil Oct 2018 #84

You stated that another person went around her. LuckyCharms Oct 2018 #85

If the parking lot is full, and driving round and montana_hazeleyes Oct 2018 #86

One day I was about to give up my space close to LibDemAlways Oct 2018 #87

"Practically come to bows" cwydro Oct 2018 #150

Thank you for sharing this story oberliner Oct 2018 #89

ok Demonaut Oct 2018 #90

Sounds like road rage to me JonLP24 Oct 2018 #91

This thread has me rolling. cwydro Oct 2018 #92

Careful. You could be paralyze. nt Codeine Oct 2018 #121

Omg, STOP! cwydro Oct 2018 #125

I'm sure if it had been an attractive(to you) white person that smiled at you as you pulled up, you retread Oct 2018 #94

I don't see that you said, or did, anything that would make you a racist. Captain Stern Oct 2018 #95

White fragility loyalsister Oct 2018 #126

What would the reaction here be if it was the other person who posted? MichMan Oct 2018 #130

What? cwydro Oct 2018 #133

Lol. You don't seem to have much respect for the people here. Squinch Oct 2018 #153

Usually depends on whose perspective is being presented MichMan Oct 2018 #157

So that'll be a no. Squinch Oct 2018 #158

No, I don't believe every single post is intelligent with reasoning and logic MichMan Oct 2018 #159

Your pretense of relevance is bemusing, but misplaced. LanternWaste Oct 2018 #161

I think you need to smoke more weed and chill. aikoaiko Oct 2018 #131

The Walmart parking lot in Chelyabinsk Codeine Oct 2018 #134

This took me a minute. cwydro Oct 2018 #144

This thread reminds me: It's only 41 days until Black Friday! Buns_of_Fire Oct 2018 #143

And then trample each other for X-Boxes. Squinch Oct 2018 #152

This message was self-deleted by its author Mosby Oct 2018 #149