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Blue_true

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30. She may not be racist.

Sun Oct 28, 2018, 08:11 PM

Oct 2018

She may be mindlessly using a term that she has heard all her life. Some people use other racist terms in a similar vein.

You missed the chance, but you should have taken her aside and explained what the term means to many people. Then see what her reaction was, if dismissive, yes she is racist. If shocked and apologetic, most likely she was dumbly using a term that she did not understand the origins of.

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Heard at work: We got a pretty good price because my husband "jewed the guy down". [View all] milestogo Oct 2018 OP

I'm Jewish and generally unflappable. Beakybird Oct 2018 #1

Of course it is and I'm not. Cha Oct 2018 #17

the days of people bdamomma Oct 2018 #68

You are not incorrect. That tem has been around for decades and it is a slur. How you react is up to dameatball Oct 2018 #2

It's a slur. I'm Jewish and heard a co-worker say it. I immediately called him out on it. SCRUBDASHRUB Oct 2018 #13

IMHO you did the right thing. One of the weird things I have always found in the work environment is dameatball Oct 2018 #20

Not the equivalent at all. stopbush Oct 2018 #39

Mighty white of you radical noodle Oct 2018 #53

Wil have to disagree. It is a slur towards black people. Not sure why you think otherwise. dameatball Oct 2018 #63

Thank you,.. but I would appreciate if you did not attempt to normalize that sort.... magicarpet Oct 2018 #3

its fucked up JI7 Oct 2018 #4

I grew up hearing that, but haven't heard it in a long time. Croney Oct 2018 #5

It's antisemitic. If she says that again irisblue Oct 2018 #6

Do we ask about intentions when a white person uses the n-word? unblock Oct 2018 #12

Occasionally, people use a phrase without recognizing its meaning Ms. Toad Oct 2018 #47

This is true Dorian Gray Oct 2018 #57

Lots of people in Paris refer to small, late night, convenience stores as 'les petits arabes' GoneOffShore Oct 2018 #69

People used to commonly say that, but starting in the 1960s it started PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 2018 #7

I wanted to bring it up here as kind of a reminder for all of us to speak up. milestogo Oct 2018 #8

It's racist, and like many of those kinds of sayings... Wounded Bear Oct 2018 #9

The year was 1986 lapfog_1 Oct 2018 #10

It's worth pointing it out because she may be ignorant of its true meaning True Dough Oct 2018 #11

I always thought it was "chewed." connecticut yankee Oct 2018 #14

I think you're right True Dough Oct 2018 #19

Ha! I worked with a guy who thought it was "chewed" - So maybe someone changed it years ago. Hassin Bin Sober Oct 2018 #62

If the question needs to be begged, its a racist anti-Semitic slur without actually ... marble falls Oct 2018 #15

Don't see how that group has the lock on being the best bargainers. LiberalFighter Oct 2018 #16

The meaning is worse than that. It means that "the Jews are always out there trying to still_one Oct 2018 #33

My family was sensitive to that phrase, as were all of my teachers. MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #18

Wow, I never even thought about "gypped" as having to do with gypsies. milestogo Oct 2018 #25

I heard that one, too MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #27

Gyped is one d_r Oct 2018 #40

I didn't see your post before I posted about the same thing EffieBlack Oct 2018 #41

Yes, I don't think we were told about that word; we had to learn the hard way MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #66

My sainted mother used that phrase regularly. comradebillyboy Oct 2018 #21

That phrase means that "Jews are out always trying to screw you". It is a bigoted slur still_one Oct 2018 #34

I know what it means. My mother didn't like Jews. comradebillyboy Oct 2018 #48

oh, I was thinking she might have been unaware still_one Oct 2018 #50

Racism must be called out whenever you see it. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2018 #22

I never heard that term growing up. It was only as an adult, and probably pnwmom Oct 2018 #23

It was hurled at me all the time, and they knew I was Jewish, and knew exactly what they were saying still_one Oct 2018 #35

I am sorry, still_one. Everything that has been and is going on makes me sorry! n/t pnwmom Oct 2018 #36

I grew up in Iowa in the 50's and 60's. That was the heyday of that crap. It was more than still_one Oct 2018 #43

Honestly, I don't even like word "Jew." Where I grew up, white wing Hoyt Oct 2018 #24

Yeah, that was popular back in the 60s/70s brokephibroke Oct 2018 #26

Political correctness is necessary and has been around a long, long time. Kurt V. Oct 2018 #28

My boss's wife said this to a Jewish co-worker once. LisaM Oct 2018 #29

She may not be racist. Blue_true Oct 2018 #30

I'm Polish and Italian and got it from both sides. rickford66 Oct 2018 #31

It is a bigoted statement that says "Jews swindle/screw people" still_one Oct 2018 #32

Six years ago, one of my son's friend's from college shocked me with something pnwmom Oct 2018 #37

That's another word I remember hearing during my childhood, maybe from an older relative? The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #44

I know! It was shocking to hear this, just six years ago. pnwmom Oct 2018 #45

I grew up in the 50's. leftyladyfrommo Oct 2018 #64

I don't remember the licorice candies, The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #67

My husband's grandmother used that term for a flower Maeve Oct 2018 #60

That's an old and very common antisemitic slur EffieBlack Oct 2018 #38

I didn't know that about gyped. nt leftyladyfrommo Oct 2018 #65

I haven't heard that expression since maybe the '60s when I was a kid The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #42

I'd go straight to management. Initech Oct 2018 #46

Did you really even have to ask? It's offensive. It's bigoted. It's anti-semitic. Solly Mack Oct 2018 #49

It's inappropriate. It's offensive. Don't say it. YOHABLO Oct 2018 #51

Racial and ethnic slurs - no longer acceptable StarryNite Oct 2018 #52

how about the pot and the kettle? Hermit-The-Prog Oct 2018 #54

You aren't nuts, but you are mistaken. Behind the Aegis Oct 2018 #55

They used a SLUR Dorian Gray Oct 2018 #56

The Scrabble app PJMcK Oct 2018 #58

A friend of mine from long ago used to respond to that phrase with peekaloo Oct 2018 #59

First time I heard that slur was on a rerun of "Beverly Hills, 90210." betsuni Oct 2018 #61