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In reply to the discussion: I am still in a state of shock [View all]lambchopp59
(2,809 posts)I agree that family involvement in elder care is essential, welcomed at my facility.
There are monumental exceptions, however. Families often expect far better outcomes from caring for extreme aged parents than are realistic, resulting in someone who is veritably tortured through their last days. I've seen it so often, despite warning from the MD that attempts may be futile and palliative care should be carefully considered: "Oh, no, Doctor. Do everything you can to save mama".
The worst scenario involves helicopter parents with a teenage girl. Discretion must be applied to avoid danger to a viable fetus, including getting helicopter parents out of the way to elicit honest responses about sexual activity.
Unfortunately, many pregnancies turn out to be compromised by parents who refuse to believe that "their good, christian daughter"...
I'm not saying that all caregivers are trustworthy it is laisse-faire. But there are critical moments to get out of the way.