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In reply to the discussion: Not Excusing Northam, but I Have A Question [View all]spicysista
(1,663 posts)38. Oh I see the error....
You think that I'm making the statement that "disclosure is better than discovery". No, I am asking if disclosure is better than discovery. I do not know. I have known couples that come down on either side. Since I can not relate to such a scenario personally, I was asking the question.
Would it have made a difference one way or another? Does it hurt more or less? I have no idea. I do know that the "sin" of the matter is the same in either case. Some things are disqualifying. Period.
My prescription still stands. Once caught or at the point of confession, come clean. Leave nothing on the table. Tell how you've changed and then ask what you could do (if anything) moving forward.
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NAACP President - Northam should've disclosed past to everyone and not had a gotcha moment. The sin
uponit7771
Feb 2019
#1
I think Effie had a good point about his campaign team failing on this account
ProudLib72
Feb 2019
#5
No, you cannot absolve yourself. You make a racist comment or action, you are a racist. Period.
MadDAsHell
Feb 2019
#2
He could have brought it up himself, expressed shame for it, talked about how he evolved and grew
EffieBlack
Feb 2019
#8
You raised the issue of a spouse and infidelity. All I did was to respond to it.
Ms. Toad
Feb 2019
#35
When you use a rhetorical device as a means of illustrating the point that disclosure is better
Ms. Toad
Feb 2019
#37
I have no idea what pictures of me exist in my high school yearbook from 1987.
X_Digger
Feb 2019
#41