?- is there a woman here at DU who has not experienced sexual violence?

[a2liberal]

167. I have not been

but thanks for your concern (and I mean that mostly seriously, not sarcastically).

I do get somewhat offended though by the idea that pointing out that men can be victims (and women can be rapists) too is somehow offensive, or that pointing out that there are people on DU who promote the culture that only women are victims, or that, however common or uncommon, a man cannot be raped by a woman without a "tool" (which discourages men from reporting sexual violence even more so on top of the culture that already keeps all types of victims from reporting... the whole "well you got an erection so you must've been into it, just be happy you got laid" attitude has scary parallels to the "well you were asking for it" idea) is "going on the offensive".

To be clear, I don't deny that women are more likely to be a victim or that men are more likely to be aggressors, but promoting that it is the only possible circumstance is a self-reinforcing circle (man won't report because of the "you got laid dude, what are you complaining about?" attitude, which leads to statistics that perpetuate the culture.) I don't see how that's offensive, unless someone (not saying you do) has an agenda and doesn't want men reporting sexual violence.