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The_jackalope

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37. When my wife was diagnosed with ovarian cancer

Wed Jul 24, 2019, 06:48 PM

Jul 2019

She refused all curative treatment from the outset. The oncologist immediately hooked us up with home palliative care without blinking an eye. The nurses who came to care for her were uniformly wonderful. they taught me about administering medication and the other essentials of home care. When she decided it was time to go, one of the palliative nurses accompanied the anesthesiologist who performed the procedure in our living room.

I was very happy she got home hospice, because it gave us the maximum amount of time together right until the end. Nothing is more important than time together with the person you love.

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Valerie Harper's husband says he can't send her to hospice [View all] Demovictory9 Jul 2019 OP

Huh? Hospice comes to you. Thomas Hurt Jul 2019 #1

yes handmade34 Jul 2019 #3

Yeah, I read that as "We're not giving up." GoCubsGo Jul 2019 #7

Which is sad, because hospice makes life so much gentler Ms. Toad Jul 2019 #36

Sometimes, yes customerserviceguy Jul 2019 #4

Here where I live you can have hospice come into your home or blueinredohio Jul 2019 #9

That is how things went w/my late mother CountAllVotes Jul 2019 #14

+1 uponit7771 Jul 2019 #30

in the agency that i volunteer for, about 1 in 10 come to in patient unit mopinko Jul 2019 #19

It can be done either way Retrograde Jul 2019 #20

:) A tremendous help, I imagine. This struck me also, Hortensis Jul 2019 #21

Yes. My mother had home hospice when she dies quite peacefully lunatica Jul 2019 #27

There are at least two kinds of hospice. One kind is a hospice facility. pnwmom Jul 2019 #35

i hope someone sets him straight. mopinko Jul 2019 #2

A close relative of mine recently spent his final days in a hospice facility DesertRat Jul 2019 #16

Hospice Dr Vegas Jul 2019 #5

My relative was in an in-patient hospice facility for his final days DesertRat Jul 2019 #17

my friend Marcia barbtries Jul 2019 #6

I think he might be referring to the fact that when you agree to hospice care, you Demit Jul 2019 #8

That's what I take from it as well maryellen99 Jul 2019 #10

I can see that and I hate to be pedantic but here I go... Caliman73 Jul 2019 #12

Why would he have to be clear for anyone? He wasn't exactly giving a TED talk. Demit Jul 2019 #13

Exactly. It's a legality. Nothing that prolongs life. You sign off on any life support or they won't lindysalsagal Jul 2019 #24

That is what Hospice does... Caliman73 Jul 2019 #11

It often is a "place" too. There are different levels of hospice care DesertRat Jul 2019 #18

Yes. Palliative care can also include treatment to extend life, Hortensis Jul 2019 #26

She had done amazingly well for years, even outliving MTM. I'm sorry to hear she's at her end... hlthe2b Jul 2019 #15

Hospice can be done at home DeminPennswoods Jul 2019 #22

Translation: what I want is more important than everyone else GusBob Jul 2019 #23

Is this his view on those who choose hospice care for loved ones? cynatnite Jul 2019 #25

I'm going to assume that he's carrying out her wishes FakeNoose Jul 2019 #28

She is rebe303 Jul 2019 #29

She has always been a fighter. lpbk2713 Jul 2019 #31

Hospice can make home visits, too MBS Jul 2019 #32

She has to be a real fighter. She was diagnosed with brain cancer in 2013. catbyte Jul 2019 #33

Yeah, you can always depend on the "powers above" to do the right thing. n/t elocs Jul 2019 #34

When my wife was diagnosed with ovarian cancer The_jackalope Jul 2019 #37

beautiful story Demovictory9 Jul 2019 #40

Loved her. I did not know she was ill. Peace to the family riversedge Jul 2019 #38

Such a favorite personality. I hope she's using cannabis for comfort and for fighting the cancer. JudyM Jul 2019 #39

"Her family recently announced ..." PDittie Jul 2019 #41