sexual assault prevention tips for men--guaranteed to work

[lapislzi]

104. Re: the criminality of rapists

The OP is raising awareness of behaviors that in the not-too-distant past would not have been considered criminal at all.

The masked man jumping out of the bushes or lurking in the back seat of your car is mostly myth. That's an easy crime to spot, to prevent, to avoid. And yes, people should behave cautiously and prudently at all times.

Trouble is, they often don't. It's a cultural trope (watch any romantic comedy) that when a woman says "no," she really means "try harder." That's a shibboleth that needs to be shattered.

If alcohol or drugs are involved, it makes it even worse. Most rapists ARE KNOWN to their victims. A rapist will use the excuse of the victim's impaired state to take sex that is not necessarily consensual, or would not be were the victim in an unimpaired condition.

Both my rapists were known to me. I am sure neither one believes he committed any kind of crime.