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Caliman73

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25. It isn't that I am not fearful. I have many fears.

Thu Aug 29, 2019, 02:44 PM

Aug 2019

What makes me comfortable with women is that I see women as people not as objects of sexual desire. Not that I do not admire physical beauty, just that I understand that you need to always approach any person with a respect for them as a total person.

I do understand that there are people who have malicious intentions, that are so hurt and damaged that they are not considering the consequences of their actions, and who misinterpret the actions of others.

Sensationalism is a cancer.

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Men now avoid women at work - another sign we're being punished for #MeToo [View all] brooklynite Aug 2019 OP

What that means is 27% of men KNOW they are misogynists and better not Eliot Rosewater Aug 2019 #1

There's 3 women in my office, one I know well, we've worked together 9 years ... mr_lebowski Aug 2019 #28

If one treat everyone fairly one needs not worry. marble falls Aug 2019 #2

When "Fatal Attraction" was released and a big hit, Greybnk48 Aug 2019 #3

Ron White said it best. Brainfodder Aug 2019 #4

The only men that have anything to worry about are those that can't keep... Raster Aug 2019 #5

REAL men do NOT have this problem....who are these so-called men in the survey - asiliveandbreathe Aug 2019 #6

My male boss was one of the best I've ever worked for eissa Aug 2019 #7

There Has Been RobinA Aug 2019 #45

I'm in my 40s eissa Aug 2019 #54

Fun example to the extreme of this? Brainfodder Aug 2019 #53

I wouldn't say I am afraid but I am really careful with my phrasing Amishman Aug 2019 #8

That sounds like the same percentages of men who've always been jerks around women. pnwmom Aug 2019 #9

Yup. ismnotwasm Aug 2019 #13

That is pretty much what I was was thinking. DFW Aug 2019 #30

Well, well, well lunatica Aug 2019 #10

No,I don't remember when women felt the same way. virgogal Aug 2019 #22

Lucky you. lunatica Aug 2019 #23

Of course some of it's punishment. Not making excuses for Hortensis Aug 2019 #11

As a man who is not a misogynist. I never take criticism personally. Caliman73 Aug 2019 #16

At least you were investigated and cleared eissa Aug 2019 #20

:) That's the balance we need. You are not a fearful person Hortensis Aug 2019 #24

It isn't that I am not fearful. I have many fears. Caliman73 Aug 2019 #25

I didn't feel under attack under the height of #MeToo JonLP24 Aug 2019 #18

Cannot believe you literally just "not all men" on DU obamanut2012 Aug 2019 #33

not all men................................................../s /nt Cerridwen Aug 2019 #12

Such a thing never crosses my mind. MineralMan Aug 2019 #14

It's gone too far,though. virgogal Aug 2019 #32

I have been self-employed since 1974. MineralMan Aug 2019 #55

any excuse barbtries Aug 2019 #15

So these men are Pensing themselves? Ilsa Aug 2019 #17

Not surprising. Behind the Aegis Aug 2019 #19

Good. It's a first step I applaud. But using it as an excuse not to hire women librechik Aug 2019 #21

Considering what I see on Facebook group I'm part of.. LiberalFighter Aug 2019 #26

Yes, men's bad behavior is ultimately women's responsibility. nt WhiskeyWulf Aug 2019 #27

Which IMHO Proud Liberal Dem Aug 2019 #38

Exactly. nt WhiskeyWulf Aug 2019 #40

For those who share the "concerns", what if you substituted "person of color" spooky3 Aug 2019 #29

Yup, lots of people so concerned about the poor guys being afraid obamanut2012 Aug 2019 #34

It's times like this I'm grateful for being gay and out Politicub Aug 2019 #31

I'm gay (for women) Proud Liberal Dem Aug 2019 #39

I'm the type that avoids everyone at work now vercetti2021 Aug 2019 #35

It's not hard to avoid being accused of sexual harassment, rape, etc. Proud Liberal Dem Aug 2019 #36

What this Study Implies is Pathetic dlk Aug 2019 #37

Not exactly. Crafty Girl Aug 2019 #46

Men Lie, Too. That's Missing the Point and the Results of this Study dlk Aug 2019 #49

Most people get away with it JonLP24 Aug 2019 #50

I have never seen that treestar Aug 2019 #63

Al Franken. n/t Crafty Girl Aug 2019 #64

Seems Like RobinA Aug 2019 #41

What women? democratisphere Aug 2019 #42

Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2019 #43

+1 Sneederbunk Aug 2019 #51

Yeah, that isn't it, and your "social justice bullying" is a dog whistle obamanut2012 Aug 2019 #57

Oh, FFS! smirkymonkey Aug 2019 #58

Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2019 #62

Hubby was a minister all his working life and as long as 30 years ago... LAS14 Aug 2019 #44

The movement has changed many people for the better... Phentex Aug 2019 #47

Being punished? No way! elias7 Aug 2019 #48

that's the way I see it too ProfessorPlum Aug 2019 #66

Too many men don't trust and/or cannot control themselves. WOMEN get punished for it. CousinIT Aug 2019 #52

Sounds like BULLSHIT tenderfoot Aug 2019 #56

I work with tons of women. I don't avoid them at all. JDC Aug 2019 #59

When I was in the Navy maxrandb Aug 2019 #60

I witnessed something different DVRacer Aug 2019 #67

Funny, we don't seem to have this problem at my workplace because the company smirkymonkey Aug 2019 #61

It's not that hard not to be creepy and inappropriate ProfessorPlum Aug 2019 #65