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81. That got a jaw drop.

Wed Sep 11, 2019, 11:57 PM

Sep 2019

I wonder if it just a sexist thing or applies as well to ethnicity, race, or sexual orientation? I have known some other people who think they should be allowed to use any descriptor they wish. Some people call them narcissists.

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So over the past three weeks I have asked the big boys a questions about the use of the word "bitch" [View all] efhmc Sep 2019 OP

It is a word for which you certainly can alert. There are some here who might justify its use, but hlthe2b Sep 2019 #1

I did not alert because I did not know if it was allowed for general use. efhmc Sep 2019 #7

But that's the point of an alert FBaggins Sep 2019 #117

I was not asking for opinions, I wanted a clarification on rules. efhmc Sep 2019 #122

Then you don't understand how the site works FBaggins Sep 2019 #135

Please see post 129. That is the info I wanted. efhmc Sep 2019 #138

That's the same info (without the dishonest spin) that I gave you in 122 FBaggins Sep 2019 #140

I do not use it. guillaumeb Sep 2019 #2

Same here. nt Blue_true Sep 2019 #23

Alert on it n/t emulatorloo Sep 2019 #3

Trump is a whiny bitch tirebiter Sep 2019 #4

It is inappropriate because it is a gender-associated slur. You don't simply demean Trump, but women hlthe2b Sep 2019 #9

How does bitch demean women in general ? Saying that implies all women are bitches Fullduplexxx Sep 2019 #11

You aren't referring to a dog. I'm not going to argue about use of this term any more than the "c" hlthe2b Sep 2019 #13

Post removed Post removed Sep 2019 #36

The early use of the word to refer to humans was aimed at women. Blue_true Sep 2019 #27

You can call him a DOG. Calling him the word for a female dog is a slur against females. pnwmom Sep 2019 #101

Just stop, it is a gendered slur and you know it obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #131

It doesn't say anything about women, FoxNewsSucks Sep 2019 #15

Feel free. Call me one. See how the DU community feels about it. You have been forewarned. hlthe2b Sep 2019 #16

I don't have any reason to. That's my point. FoxNewsSucks Sep 2019 #17

Sorry you don't believe in respect for others by not using terms that are construed as hlthe2b Sep 2019 #25

It refers to behavior. FoxNewsSucks Sep 2019 #34

Keep telling yourself that and roll the dice. hlthe2b Sep 2019 #35

I have no need for those forums, FoxNewsSucks Sep 2019 #38

I am one of those females who is not offended by the word.... Dorian Gray Sep 2019 #115

this G_j Sep 2019 #133

I think you are correct. If someone tells you a term you use is disrespectful, efhmc Sep 2019 #136

Yes. Exactly. Dorian Gray Sep 2019 #154

The entire insult is based on a mysoginistic slur Bradical79 Sep 2019 #68

Of course you would say: sheshe2 Sep 2019 #87

Wrong, it is a gendered slur and you not only excusing it obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #132

No he is not because he is a creepy male and the term " bitch" denotes a female. efhmc Sep 2019 #18

Trump is what he is tirebiter Sep 2019 #45

Wow. Tipperary Sep 2019 #89

With all due respect there are many penis related insults Buzz cook Sep 2019 #88

Yes, I have one: He's a male, so why use a slur insulting women? whathehell Sep 2019 #43

Implying that he is female is insulting, in and of itself. Mariana Sep 2019 #102

I don't have a problem with that dflprincess Sep 2019 #79

Sexist at best, misogynistic at worst obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #130

there were some epic flame wars over this at one time Kali Sep 2019 #5

I know because I was a part of it. efhmc Sep 2019 #12

Unfortunately, yes. Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #28

"Misogyny is the last acceptable bigotry of the Left" whathehell Sep 2019 #47

I suspect a few more will linger longer Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #53

Really?...Do you see anyone casting LGBT slurs here? whathehell Sep 2019 #65

Only once or twice a day. n/t Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #72

Any examples to show us? whathehell Sep 2019 #93

Claiming Trump is Putin's bitch is a twofer and I've seen comments like that stand here. meadowlander Sep 2019 #103

I really thought you were being facetious. Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #107

I see them quite frequently. Tipperary Sep 2019 #95

That are not hidden?..Do you have any examples to show? whathehell Sep 2019 #99

They not only are not hidden, Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #108

I alert on them all the time too. Tipperary Sep 2019 #142

As usual you are on top of this situation. Am wondering why these terms are okay if one uses efhmc Sep 2019 #55

I agree - Ms. Toad Sep 2019 #57

Ditto... hlthe2b Sep 2019 #61

If on a jury, I would look at the context in which the word was used. Blue_true Sep 2019 #40

I have been here since 2002 and in all that time I have never efhmc Sep 2019 #52

I think the site continues to evolve Kali Sep 2019 #60

This message was self-deleted by its author dlk Sep 2019 #6

Rarely use this word (& only in the right context). I also do a 'pls. pardon me' tag right ... SWBTATTReg Sep 2019 #8

to me, it would depend on the context. FoxNewsSucks Sep 2019 #10

I don't know. Newest Reality Sep 2019 #14

Well you can always call someone a "douche" or "douchebag" instead - because its fine milestogo Sep 2019 #21

Ironic, That RobinA Sep 2019 #32

You make a really salient point. nt Blue_true Sep 2019 #41

I despise that term Raine Sep 2019 #109

We're discussing use of the words in the context of insulting people we don't like. meadowlander Sep 2019 #116

that word is absolutely not allowed here and anyone using it is quickly evicerated Takket Sep 2019 #19

I have a perfect substitute and I use it here... CTyankee Sep 2019 #20

Pissant works, too. nt tblue37 Sep 2019 #31

I use asshole a lot. It is gender neutral because all of us have one and some people can be one. nt Blue_true Sep 2019 #42

The word has taken on a number of contextual meanings. Blue_true Sep 2019 #22

I am offended by the sexist language critics, myself. If I want to use a descriptor, it should be OK Shrike47 Sep 2019 #24

Sounds like you might be more comfortable in some of the Reddit subforums hlthe2b Sep 2019 #33

COMEON, the person did not imply that. Blue_true Sep 2019 #46

Anyone who condones use of slurs should be called out. hlthe2b Sep 2019 #48

I believe you are talking apples and oranges. Blue_true Sep 2019 #51

I never said context wasn't important. A discussion of use of the word, by necessity is a context hlthe2b Sep 2019 #54

I am female in my 70's. I have lived through the wars over women's rights. I don't agree with you. Shrike47 Sep 2019 #96

You seem to think YOU should have the right to decide what is offensive to others, including slurs hlthe2b Sep 2019 #114

You seem to be angling to make people that have principled disagreements with you on the various Blue_true Sep 2019 #148

It is you who has just attacked me. I'm done with you. Shame on anyone who defends use of slurs hlthe2b Sep 2019 #149

I just read one of your posts that I did not see. Blue_true Sep 2019 #151

Thank you for that Blue_true. We can resolve to agree to disagree. hlthe2b Sep 2019 #153

I am so sorry. sheshe2 Sep 2019 #58

That got a jaw drop. brer cat Sep 2019 #81

Sure did. sheshe2 Sep 2019 #85

Thank you for your warm support. Shrike47 Sep 2019 #94

The community decides. Some get away with it some don't defacto7 Sep 2019 #26

To Me RobinA Sep 2019 #29

Really?...Do you feel the same way about whathehell Sep 2019 #59

Well said! Newest Reality Sep 2019 #80

I agree completely. nini Sep 2019 #98

Chrissy Teigen recently called Trump a "pussy ass bitch". I thought that was pretty cool. jalan48 Sep 2019 #30

It was trending on twitter the other day IcyPeas Sep 2019 #75

Since DU is not obnoxiousdrunk Sep 2019 #37

I thought it was but three weeks ago I saw it in a post referring to a male and asked efhmc Sep 2019 #64

Pretty offensive. I made a "99 problems but a Mitch ain't one joke" a while back and was hesitant. Anon-C Sep 2019 #39

Back when I was a little in love with Benedict Cumberbatch Coventina Sep 2019 #44

I don't care for this term and never use it in any way. VOX Sep 2019 #49

Why ask a question you already know the answer to? Kaleva Sep 2019 #50

What the hay are you taking about? I did not use any of those phrases. efhmc Sep 2019 #66

Okay, that's a little creepy jberryhill Sep 2019 #73

Cut and pasted from your OP Kaleva Sep 2019 #156

Who are these "big boys" that you refer to? Are they the self-styled "language police".... EarnestPutz Sep 2019 #56

K n R JoeOtterbein Sep 2019 #62

Instead. sheshe2 Sep 2019 #63

Nope, the main people in control here are males. efhmc Sep 2019 #67

efhmc 67. Nope, the main people in control here are males. sheshe2 Sep 2019 #97

Refers to Admin, I believe. DLevine Sep 2019 #119

I try to consider the feelings of others on issues like this Clash City Rocker Sep 2019 #69

No, Newest Reality Sep 2019 #82

This isn't a progressive site Bradical79 Sep 2019 #70

I don't use it, but sometimes I see it used when I don't think the poster means Hoyt Sep 2019 #71

DU has informed my views on words like that Codeine Sep 2019 #74

On DU you can bitch about many things you don't like. PoliticAverse Sep 2019 #76

It's a matter of opinion here on DU, but I've seen posts using the word hidden on many occasions Rhiannon12866 Sep 2019 #77

Hmm. Hasn't been one of these threads in a while. ismnotwasm Sep 2019 #78

... sheshe2 Sep 2019 #90

I associate "bitch" as just being a really whiny person who complains about everything. BlueStater Sep 2019 #83

And I wonder why a female-gendered noun was repurposed to mean that... meadowlander Sep 2019 #105

Only if your name happens to be Lizzo. Glimmer of Hope Sep 2019 #84

Turns out lunasun Sep 2019 #92

Lol!!!! I can't believe I missed this. Glimmer of Hope Sep 2019 #145

And the replies to HRC & Lizzo loved it ! lunasun Sep 2019 #146

The rules are enforced by random juries TDale313 Sep 2019 #86

What exactly are you bitching about? TygrBright Sep 2019 #91

Positive Newest Reality Sep 2019 #121

You're not remembering wrong. a la izquierda Sep 2019 #139

Oh Geez not this again. crazytown Sep 2019 #100

I thought you could Bitch here. czarjak Sep 2019 #104

The word "bitch" must be allowed to be used in all of its derivatives democratisphere Sep 2019 #106

I have no problem with it whatsoever Celerity Sep 2019 #110

Can we have the official list of the big boys, please? muriel_volestrangler Sep 2019 #111

Good one. GoneOffShore Sep 2019 #112

I assumed she means admin, DLevine Sep 2019 #118

Bookmarking this like I bookmarked the 'Kudzu' thread GoneOffShore Sep 2019 #113

Actions matter more than words and if anyone opts to use that word the world won't end. Vinca Sep 2019 #120

What was is it that Yoko Ono said about women? I think you can see here that she was right. nt LexVegas Sep 2019 #123

The word has multiple meanings now, not necessarily associated with women mainer Sep 2019 #124

Same can be said for the n-word. LexVegas Sep 2019 #126

I don't think the N-word has any other meaning mainer Sep 2019 #127

It has multiple meanings. Just like bitch. LexVegas Sep 2019 #128

What other meanings are there behind the N word other than as a slur? BlueStater Sep 2019 #144

I just won't use it. LanternWaste Sep 2019 #125

The Admins okayed it years ago obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #129

People will twist themselves in knots to justify use of slurs. nt LexVegas Sep 2019 #134

At last, an answer to my question. efhmc Sep 2019 #137

How do people feel about the word "dick"? mainer Sep 2019 #141

I got alerted for calling a male cop one once MrScorpio Sep 2019 #143

It's usage is usually sexist in intent... cynatnite Sep 2019 #147

It is a complicated word. Caliman73 Sep 2019 #150

i don't say it...ever. Kurt V. Sep 2019 #152

I am not offended by it. pwb Sep 2019 #155