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lunatica

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16. Any abused and battered wife can tell you that

Mon Dec 2, 2019, 02:12 PM

Dec 2019

playing nice is not a shield.

The thing to understand is that there’s a difference in what an abuser demands in return for their abstaining from abuse. It isn’t a give and take, or equals being in a relationship. It is the abuser forcing the spouse to ‘be nice’ as defined only by the abuser. There is no give and take.

This applies to what Trump, Republicans and MAGATs believe should happen. There is no respect, no acceptance of differences in opinion, and no tolerance for differing views.

The only way to deal with this kind of abuse is to never give in, get the hell away and never go back. Because abusers never stop abusing.

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On civility... [View all] OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 OP

Fascinating topic. Mike 03 Dec 2019 #1

THAT is fascinating! OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #4

Glad you found this useful. Mike 03 Dec 2019 #6

It kind of reminds me of 2naSalit Dec 2019 #2

Good point. n/t OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #10

Bullies and NAZIs expect their victims to be civil. Kid Berwyn Dec 2019 #3

Indeed. We've seen this repeatedly and must learn from it. n/t OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #11

Also, the public scolds only notice when liberals use uncivil language gratuitous Dec 2019 #14

THIS. n/ OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #21

Sorry to Mrs Obama in advance. . Lady Freedom Returns Dec 2019 #5

LOL Thanks for the chuckle. OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #9

Was just diagnosed with MS back in June. Lady Freedom Returns Dec 2019 #13

... OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #15

Being civil to incivility is like being tolerant of intolerance. MarcA Dec 2019 #7

Word. No justice, no peace. n/t OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #8

K&R 2naSalit Dec 2019 #12

Any abused and battered wife can tell you that lunatica Dec 2019 #16

Well said. H2O Man Dec 2019 #17

Thank you so much for this. n/t OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #19

Recommended. H2O Man Dec 2019 #18

Thank you... OneGrassRoot Dec 2019 #20