"... most men, even good caring men, have no clue what we go through on a daily basis..."

[seabeyond]

138. 12 yr old niece sat quietly, hunched, as a over 40 waiter rubbed his crotch on her pouring her water

there are many examples i can give, and most can give.

my friend that is my age, in 40's took my niece and niece friend to dinner. they came home and told me the story of this waiter rubbing on my niece when pouring her water.

what did you do, i asked.

nothing.

i exploded. i was so damn mad. why?

i do not care my friend was afraid, or uncomfortable. she is a grown woman. and what she taught my niece and her friend was to sit by quietly and hope the harassment goes away.

i asked my niece, do you think i would have sat their quietly if i had been there? do you think i would not have told the man to knock that shit off and then talk to the owners, loud enough to humiliate the man so he thinks twice doing it to another?

all my friend did, was allow this man to be comfortable doing it to another girl. taught my niece to lower her head in shame and stay quiet and live her humiliation of powerlessness.

what we do, is the women capable teach other women to speak the fuck up, and teach our daughter to not dare keep their mouth shut. that all one is doing staying quiet is allowing the harassment to continue. to empower our girls.

and

understand why our girls and women are not capable.

i am in no way shifting the blame from the pervert to my niece or friend. BUT.... i want the girls, and i want my quiet friend that takes shit to know, they can and should speak up, even though society teaches girls to sit quietly, demurely, femininely. that they too have a responsibility. and in speaking up, that power shifts from pervert to the girl.

we have to teach our daughters. and so many girls are learning they do not have to allow the abuses, regardless of what society insists from them.

let me say again, and clearly..... the creeps behavior is his own. but, i do not want my niece to ever put her head down in shame, for the creeps behavior.