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aikoaiko

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48. People should be honest about their feelings.

Sun Jan 19, 2020, 05:04 PM

Jan 2020

Name calling, threats, and violence are unacceptable but there is nothing wrong with telling someone to fuck off if they deserve it.

If you still want to be friends or wish them well, so be it.

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"Respectful attitudes after a relationship ends is mark of manliness." Wish culture would teach it. [View all] lostnfound Jan 2020 OP

This is silliness Loki Liesmith Jan 2020 #1

Somebody sounds bitter. n/t Coventina Jan 2020 #2

Don't project. Loki Liesmith Jan 2020 #11

How would you handle it if it happened to you? Blue_true Jan 2020 #38

You get it. And part of this is about the meaning of time. lostnfound Jan 2020 #41

We live in such a "win" culture that people resent rejection. Blue_true Jan 2020 #46

+1000! SammyWinstonJack Jan 2020 #3

Ok I have nothing to offer. lostnfound Jan 2020 #4

Silliness now. DEbluedude Jan 2020 #6

What happens if you have children with that person? Blue_true Jan 2020 #33

My daughter and her husband split up Freddie Jan 2020 #5

There's a wide range. just saw "Marriage Story" which covered a fair amount lostnfound Jan 2020 #14

I wish she would have kept up with her counselling. lpbk2713 Jan 2020 #7

Yeah lostnfound Jan 2020 #19

This needs to be seen malaise Jan 2020 #8

Thank you. lostnfound Jan 2020 #20

When my oldest sister was ready for college malaise Jan 2020 #21

Great mom!❤ Karadeniz Jan 2020 #52

I have more than one of these relationships in my life. In the case of bullwinkle428 Jan 2020 #9

That's very special. lostnfound Jan 2020 #57

When my first wife left after 17 years, having fallen for another person, MineralMan Jan 2020 #10

Yep but I think a critical part of dealing with break ups malaise Jan 2020 #23

I think a lot of people take an ownership position in MineralMan Jan 2020 #32

It's particularly hard on males malaise Jan 2020 #34

And so we get misogyny. MineralMan Jan 2020 #44

Like you found out with your current wife, there is someone better that you will meet. nt Blue_true Jan 2020 #35

Well, that's always a possibility. MineralMan Jan 2020 #43

For single people, falling in love with a person that you are friend with is one Blue_true Jan 2020 #45

Throughout our lives, we meet many people, whether we're married or not. MineralMan Jan 2020 #62

I am real old fashioned about fidelity. Blue_true Jan 2020 #63

I'm a fidelity sort of guy. MineralMan Jan 2020 #64

Just for those that think that I am controlling. Blue_true Jan 2020 #66

I'd expect nothing less from someone like you. lostnfound Jan 2020 #42

With respect ismnotwasm Jan 2020 #12

With respect I agree. I wasn't sure about how I'd written it... lostnfound Jan 2020 #15

I do understand ismnotwasm Jan 2020 #17

+1 Newest Reality Jan 2020 #26

Going through it soul kitchen Jan 2020 #13

Welcome to DU wryter2000 Jan 2020 #28

I like your name and wish you well. lostnfound Jan 2020 #59

Curious about something. Reverse the genders in your post and tell me what you'd say. Yavin4 Jan 2020 #16

A partner once decided to leave me for someone else. lostnfound Jan 2020 #22

Then just hope you don't have to fight him tooth and toenail raccoon Jan 2020 #61

I think "manliness" is where things go wrong... there's no recovering from that. It's poison. hunter Jan 2020 #18

Yes, I do agree with that.. however, lostnfound Jan 2020 #24

Most people see the other is a broken relationship like Dylan's song "Like a Rolling Stone". nt Blue_true Jan 2020 #36

In my old-fashioned world, that's what we called being a gentleman. KY_EnviroGuy Jan 2020 #25

Exactly. Thank you. Our culture is not very civilized. lostnfound Jan 2020 #54

I so respect my ex-boyfriend for this wryter2000 Jan 2020 #27

Worthy of respect. Yes. Who is, and who isn't. lostnfound Jan 2020 #55

When one gets caught with his wife's kid sister he should share this and explain that anger is bad. braddy Jan 2020 #29

Honestly, a person who gets caught with the spouses relative was the wrong person to begin with. Blue_true Jan 2020 #37

Nope Bayard Jan 2020 #30

One thing that I have learned about romantic relationships. Blue_true Jan 2020 #31

That's a great example of what I'm talking about. lostnfound Jan 2020 #40

Or teach them that if they take on and live a positive attitude about romantic rejection, Blue_true Jan 2020 #47

Absolutely. And in small towns, probably necessary. lostnfound Jan 2020 #56

the reverse "fatal attraction" story, but I understand that with men it will more likely Demonaut Jan 2020 #39

It can become physical when women are rejected too. Blue_true Jan 2020 #49

People should be honest about their feelings. aikoaiko Jan 2020 #48

I'm not opposed to that either. I just think there's enough hate in the world. lostnfound Jan 2020 #58

Sure. GaYellowDawg Jan 2020 #50

Point is, alternatives to violence. And if it takes a decade to get over it, it's okay lostnfound Jan 2020 #53

Where you and I agree GaYellowDawg Jan 2020 #60

Stuff happens. How one deals with it afterwards (both parties) is a gauge of how adult they ... SWBTATTReg Jan 2020 #51

In an ideal situation, that would be nice NewJeffCT Jan 2020 #65