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localroger

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23. It's not really a flip, it's two different things

Sat Jan 25, 2020, 05:41 PM

Jan 2020

Last week's message was about protecting yourself from the toxicity. This is necessary if the Trumpian relatives refuse to abide by the rule of not discussing politics. But even that doesn't mean you have to or should hate them. I was estranged from my own parents for 17 years, not because of politics but because of other toxic control issues, and at no time did I ever hate them. Fortunately over time I matured and they mellowed and the day came when I ran into them and realized they couldn't hurt me any more, and we reconnected, which was fortunate because I had years to spend with my mother before she died and I'm here to help my father as he approaches 80 years old. To this day he doesn't understand how that 17 years happened, and it's impossible for me to explain to him; it was unfortunate but necessary. I think that is the way Bill would advise approaching your toxic Trumpian relatives.

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Bill Maher is dead wrong re: Trump supporters [View all] Initech Jan 2020 OP

K&R smirkymonkey Jan 2020 #1

Also they are the group who should: LakeArenal Jan 2020 #2

Nicholas Sandaman obnoxiousdrunk Jan 2020 #3

yep. only goes to show stopdiggin Jan 2020 #9

And His Daddy Bought An Expensive PR Team to Make Sure Upward Jan 2020 #34

His mommy... she's a Vice President with Fidelity. Raster Jan 2020 #38

Exactly Raine Jan 2020 #37

I stopped watching years ago JonLP24 Jan 2020 #4

I'm with you jcgoldie Jan 2020 #10

I don't like Maher... GetRidOfThem Jan 2020 #16

I was done with him after smooching Ralph Reed's ass years ago... tenderfoot Jan 2020 #30

For me he platforms too many right wingers JonLP24 Jan 2020 #32

Yes, I can and DO. I hate every single one of them because THEY Ferrets are Cool Jan 2020 #5

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All in on your main point, but I have a caveat (a "but" if you will)... Wounded Bear Jan 2020 #7

+1,000 n/t MarcA Jan 2020 #20

I agree with you about Maher being wrong. mnhtnbb Jan 2020 #8

I don't hate the person or people. It's the ideology that I hate. Initech Jan 2020 #13

Loathe them. Hate is internally toxic. To loathe them is stone cold, determined, and effective. nt Bernardo de La Paz Jan 2020 #11

I love Maher but he flipped from his new rules segment last week. kellytore Jan 2020 #12

It's not really a flip, it's two different things localroger Jan 2020 #23

I used to think hate required a personal connection--a sort of passion. davsand Jan 2020 #14

I don't hate them I just have anything to do with them, including ex family and friends nt yaesu Jan 2020 #15

He seems to be clueless on irony Dukkha Jan 2020 #17

Pukes are dysfunctional specimens that blame everyone else for their malfeasance. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2020 #18

I rarely disagree with Maher superpatriotman Jan 2020 #19

The RNC called me today Loge23 Jan 2020 #21

Shame and unmitigated scorn for perpetrators of toxic entitlement Ponietz Jan 2020 #22

He's also dead wrong about running a Democratic antiabortionist. Warpy Jan 2020 #24

Seriously you might as well run Kanye at that point. Initech Jan 2020 #25

yet somehow people who support Trump can hate you 0rganism Jan 2020 #26

Bill Maher is often wrong wryter2000 Jan 2020 #27

Maher seems to have taken that line, on not hating trump voters, from the Speaker empedocles Jan 2020 #28

nitwit on bill maher clinging to his conservativISH ekonomikkk theories. god forbid a poor get pansypoo53219 Jan 2020 #29

if you are OK keeping children in cages Skittles Jan 2020 #31

THIS Initech Jan 2020 #33

Hate Them Privately, Quietly Upward Jan 2020 #35

The worst thing you can do is play nice with a RepubLIEclown 🤡 live love laugh Jan 2020 #36