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cbdo2007

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13. Should this one incident from his teenage years be near the top of his obit?
Tue Jan 28, 2020, 10:41 AM
Jan 2020

That's the question here.

Should society ever move on from these things and look at what happened when he grew up and his accomplishments and the tens of millions of $$ he has given to charity and that he was raising a family, including 4 daughters?

He isn't a serial abuser like Bill Cosby or even a repeat abuser that we know of, and it sure seemed like he pulled it together after this incident. We all just need to decide at the end of the day how much something like this impacts us personally and if we can move on from it.

I sure hope things that happened in my teens aren't held over me for the rest of my life as I have grown up a lot since then. I really didn't grow up and start behaving like an adult until probably my mid-30s but that shouldn't define my future and all the good things I can do. And most of the people we work with and in our families have secrets they are hoping everyone around them doesn't find out about.

RIP to Kobe and to his amazing basketball career and I hope you learned and grew from this incident.

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the post should have her back. n/t 5X Jan 2020 #1
It's part of his story janterry Jan 2020 #2
I agree! nt USALiberal Jan 2020 #5
Most do not have to "learn" not to rape. Tipperary Jan 2020 #14
I've worked in the prisons janterry Jan 2020 #17
Exactly Calculating Jan 2020 #22
Some actually do, however, and thus the effort to talk to young men across the nation on emmaverybo Jan 2020 #27
Yes to this. He was an excellent father to 4 daughters. He was strong in the community. R B Garr Jan 2020 #29
The Washington Post has diminished in my eyes. Maggiemayhem Jan 2020 #3
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2020 #4
Good. Iggo Jan 2020 #6
A dumbshit for posting the truth? 58Sunliner Jan 2020 #7
Telling the whole story is not trolling. In fact, that part of Kobe's life was the hinge on which WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2020 #11
The good and the bad are all part of the record. marble falls Jan 2020 #8
So he raped her, lied about it and when she had actual evidence of rape, he confessed. 58Sunliner Jan 2020 #9
And he is being praised to the heavens here. Tipperary Jan 2020 #15
Thank you. And detractors are threatened online. Gross. 58Sunliner Jan 2020 #30
This is horrifying on so many levels. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2020 #10
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2020 #12
Should this one incident from his teenage years be near the top of his obit? cbdo2007 Jan 2020 #13
He was not a teenager. Tipperary Jan 2020 #18
I know right? Calculating Jan 2020 #24
Kobe Bryant was 25 when the alleged rape occurred jcgoldie Jan 2020 #19
This. cwydro Jan 2020 #25
Yes. Unfortunately many survivors already see this. 58Sunliner Jan 2020 #32
This is the lesson that is getting us stuck today janterry Jan 2020 #20
There's no redemption for rapists Calculating Jan 2020 #23
"How much it impacts YOU personally"?!? Somehow I imagine not too much. jmg257 Jan 2020 #21
The thing is, it hasn't been at the top RhodeIslandOne Jan 2020 #28
How would you know he was not a serial rapist? Statistically speaking he probably raped more than 1. 58Sunliner Jan 2020 #31
This message was self-deleted by its author jcgoldie Jan 2020 #16
Pathetic move by WaPo. RockRaven Jan 2020 #26
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