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footinmouth

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68. Although it pains me to say it -

Sun Sep 9, 2012, 01:19 AM

Sep 2012

I'd let it go for now. I'm a lifelong Democrat, my husband's a lifelong (embarrassed) Republican. We always discussed current events and politics while our boys were growing up. We both told them when they turned 18 to choose whichever party seemed the best fit for them. Neither my husband nor I tried to influence them in their choice.

Older son registered Independent, younger son registered Democrat. Everybody in this family votes for the Democrats all the time LOL. So they made up their own minds and feel good about it.

Your daughter needs to make her own choices. Now that our boys are in their mid-30's, we feel comfortable telling them that if they turn Republican, please don't tell us. LOL. Works for us.

Good luck - I know you must feel devastated, but I bet it will work out in the end.

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my heart is breaking. my daughter is turning into a republican [View all] MJkcj Sep 2012 OP

Sad Thrill Sep 2012 #1

Heck I make jokes in the house to my daughters,,,I tell them benld74 Sep 2012 #2

So you find it funny to tell your Missycim Sep 2012 #166

Lighten up, Frances. WinkyDink Sep 2012 #171

I fear my son may also be... He was supporting Ron Paul. peacebird Sep 2012 #3

intervention and have her partner arrested for abuse Angry Dragon Sep 2012 #4

How much are you in contact with her these days? SheilaT Sep 2012 #5

FIGHT, MJkcj!!!! Skittles Sep 2012 #6

I've never done well separating ideological affairs from personal relations. David__77 Sep 2012 #7

Photoshop him making love to a barn animal and slide it under their door. Arctic Dave Sep 2012 #8

it will be ok handmade34 Sep 2012 #9

... gateley Sep 2012 #10

Don't give up hope. She may return to her upbringing. Aristus Sep 2012 #11

It's easy to lose hope...your response reminds us of the wisdom of patience duhneece Sep 2012 #134

Would be very difficult, MJkcj; elleng Sep 2012 #12

my sister did the repub thing with her hubby. after they divorced she came to her senses. eom ellenfl Sep 2012 #13

My sister married a republican--millionaire twenty yrs ago. She still hasn't come to her senses. SammyWinstonJack Sep 2012 #149

By talking to her and reminding her of what you taught her. MrSlayer Sep 2012 #14

Don't worry, maybe its a phase firehorse Sep 2012 #15

Don't push the issue... Number_9 Sep 2012 #16

OMG, I'm so sorry - what a nightmare! I'd be crushed, too. Zorra Sep 2012 #17

I told my kids the same thing duhneece Sep 2012 #135

Let her go librarylu Sep 2012 #18

thank you DU MJkcj Sep 2012 #19

Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still. kestrel91316 Sep 2012 #20

Good advise pintobean Sep 2012 #23

Tell her this Shankapotomus Sep 2012 #21

+ + + + + + + + + + FedUpWithIt All Sep 2012 #26

Molly Ivins book, "Bushwhacked" really helped me see that administration for what it was. Tigress DEM Sep 2012 #22

Good idea... approaching the situation with humor ('cause Molly could make me guffaw even when I gkhouston Sep 2012 #57

My niece is that way CountAllVotes Sep 2012 #24

I agree with those who say let her be her own person. FedUpWithIt All Sep 2012 #25

Whoa TuxedoKat Sep 2012 #123

The less you demand of her, in this case, the better Shankapotomus Sep 2012 #27

Could be temporary. no_hypocrisy Sep 2012 #28

"Living with a Republican" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2012 #29

Please - the last thing I want is for them to marry MJkcj Sep 2012 #43

LOL ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2012 #92

She wants the top rate of tax to be 3.6% below where you want it to be? Nye Bevan Sep 2012 #30

So I guess she believes a woman who is raped should be forced to carry to term still_one Sep 2012 #31

wow -this is harsh MJkcj Sep 2012 #41

Is your daughter still in touch with reality? Because the deficit and debt coalition_unwilling Sep 2012 #65

Ummmm why are you being an ass? MJkcj Sep 2012 #70

I was in a hurry rushing out the door when I posted and did not elaborate. What coalition_unwilling Sep 2012 #115

What I am saying is maybe she is NOT aware of the position of romney and ryan. I do not understand still_one Sep 2012 #72

I did not think you were being harsh laundry_queen Sep 2012 #124

I really wasn't trying to be. Perhaps I was misunderstood /nt still_one Sep 2012 #126

They always come back to the values they were raised with.. AzSweet Sep 2012 #32

Really? a la izquierda Sep 2012 #81

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't ... markpkessinger Sep 2012 #165

We rarely see one of our daughters and her ultra Christian neocon husband. It keeps peace in the appleannie1 Sep 2012 #33

"He isn't even from this country yet knows all about what our forefather's wishes were." NCTraveler Sep 2012 #153

yeah wow im not sure what this post means loli phabay Sep 2012 #159

It means he knows this is a Christian country and that is what our forefathers wanted and fought to appleannie1 Sep 2012 #170

i am not from this country but have read the constitution and federalist papers La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2012 #169

I post replies to all republican lies I see on FaceBook, as a way to educate my adult sons! DrewFlorida Sep 2012 #34

Yes, I have a son who's starting a new business and has been feeling the ReThugs Auntie Bush Sep 2012 #35

You could try showing him this.... ann--- Sep 2012 #39

I always feel so sad for small business people that vote for the people that screws them over. progressivebydesign Sep 2012 #51

My parents own a small manufacturing business. RedSpartan Sep 2012 #80

By cousin voted for Obama in 2008, The army turned him into a Birther nut. Odin2005 Sep 2012 #36

He really thinks he'll get a better deal from a guy who didn't even mention Afghanistan? gkhouston Sep 2012 #45

If she should bring up the subject of Romney, I would politely ask her why he... Tikki Sep 2012 #37

I know how you feel ann--- Sep 2012 #38

Be cool, don't freak out Kath1 Sep 2012 #40

my sister's boyfriend is turning her into one too quinnox Sep 2012 #42

My sister has also lost her mind apparently. nt Deep13 Sep 2012 #44

Hope she breaks up with the asshole Warpy Sep 2012 #46

I can only hope MJkcj Sep 2012 #47

Just hope for the best! Kath1 Sep 2012 #61

Does she still have the basic morals and ethics that are important to you? kiva Sep 2012 #48

I'm sorry. Before I read your post, I KNEW that there was a republican male involved. progressivebydesign Sep 2012 #49

Men do it, too. GoCubsGo Sep 2012 #56

Sounds just like my bf's mom Lilyeye Sep 2012 #69

As a child of nutjob Republicans who judge/treat me rudely me for being liberal RepublicansRZombies Sep 2012 #50

unconditional love. tell her you do not want to hear the garbage and all is fine. seabeyond Sep 2012 #52

I feel for you! RazBerryBeret Sep 2012 #53

Very insightful! Kath1 Sep 2012 #63

I credit my wife for being largely responsible for turning me liberal Victor_c3 Sep 2012 #54

Welcome to DU, Victor...you sound like a good guy who learns all the right lessons... PassingFair Sep 2012 #66

Welcome, Victor sibelian Sep 2012 #75

I know what you feel! imanamerican63 Sep 2012 #55

I have the opposite problem, my parents are die hard conservatives. Jennicut Sep 2012 #58

I guess we all have family/friends/people we care about who are misguided MJkcj Sep 2012 #59

Be Patient.... you raised her to make her own desicions and she is testing the waters is all... Yooperman Sep 2012 #60

give her.... spanone Sep 2012 #62

But, how long will Cha Sep 2012 #64

Ask her: ErikJ Sep 2012 #67

Does she want Medicare and Social Security for you? Or will she support you? SharonAnn Sep 2012 #96

This is exactly what I tried to get across to my son and daughter in law without success. :( Grammy23 Sep 2012 #125

I'm already having to support my mother because she got screwed out of her Postal pension. Sirveri Sep 2012 #139

Although it pains me to say it - footinmouth Sep 2012 #68

I was raised by a Democratic mom and a Republican dad. GallopingGhost Sep 2012 #71

Can we organize an intervention? mykpart Sep 2012 #73

Possibly a false alarm MJkcj Sep 2012 #90

It''s always like this. Love interests always change beliefs johnlucas Sep 2012 #74

I married a republican cali Sep 2012 #77

Ah but did he change his views after he married you? johnlucas Sep 2012 #79

no. and we got divorced- though political considerations were not part of the equation cali Sep 2012 #88

That is sad, I definitively think it is possible he could be influencing her davidpdx Sep 2012 #76

Well 2 out of 3 is not so bad nopedontlikeitatall Sep 2012 #78

That's certainly an, um, interesting perspective. cordelia Sep 2012 #86

Mom to mom Marrah_G Sep 2012 #82

Right on, Marrah_G. Kath1 Sep 2012 #84

I find these comments amusing. a la izquierda Sep 2012 #83

She'll be back malaise Sep 2012 #85

my 28-year-old son is determinedly apathetic barbtries Sep 2012 #87

climate change may be worth another try marions ghost Sep 2012 #141

i'll keep it up. barbtries Sep 2012 #143

atta girl Mom marions ghost Sep 2012 #144

Truly sad Carolina Sep 2012 #89

Sometimes men do change... MJkcj Sep 2012 #93

Men do change too....it depends on who's the stronger personality in the relationship ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2012 #95

Your post reminds me of when my son met the woman he eventually married. jerseygal Sep 2012 #91

Great story MJkcj Sep 2012 #94

That's exactly what my reaction would have been! lunatica Sep 2012 #104

lol! We think alike! Zorra Sep 2012 #106

How unfortunate for you. In my family, blood has always been thicker than politics. slackmaster Sep 2012 #97

gee thanks... MJkcj Sep 2012 #111

If you had posted that you were concerned because your daughter was living with a pedophile, slackmaster Sep 2012 #140

my thoughts exactly, i dont know or care what party people around me are and i wouldnt lose a friend loli phabay Sep 2012 #160

This message was self-deleted by its author Mutiny In Heaven Sep 2012 #164

I feel for you PowerToThePeople Sep 2012 #98

What I get from this thread is that too many DUers take politics way, way too seriously. Nye Bevan Sep 2012 #99

The last few months during a pivotal election year isn't an easy time to leave politics lunatica Sep 2012 #102

I thought DU WAS a place to talk politics????!!! MJkcj Sep 2012 #108

Do you know about the "Ignore" feature? Nye Bevan Sep 2012 #110

awesome. Thank you. MJkcj Sep 2012 #113

Just ignore them.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2012 #158

I'm a pretty hard core dem and I've even walked away from a few friendships over politics TNLib Sep 2012 #128

Oh, we're sorry. We thought that having a conversation with our friends and family about the PEOPLE LaydeeBug Sep 2012 #136

Fundamental belief systems are not trivial. Arugula Latte Sep 2012 #167

She's pobably trying to fit into his worldview because she loves him lunatica Sep 2012 #100

thank you MJkcj Sep 2012 #109

i would be honest with her... MrsBrady Sep 2012 #101

Love and Tolerance rbrnmw Sep 2012 #103

The party of grift and pervs. Ackety. Ignore it, hopefully she will learn when she is burned. lonestarnot Sep 2012 #105

Happens All The Time w/ Women otohara Sep 2012 #107

Wow, sorry for your loss DemKittyNC Sep 2012 #112

Keep in touch with her nmbluesky Sep 2012 #114

Do what my dad did JustAnotherGen Sep 2012 #116

We have to educate our children about politics B Calm Sep 2012 #117

My Republican mom taught me to think critically, and to do my own thinking slackmaster Sep 2012 #122

Is she becoming subservient to her husband as far as politics go? Lint Head Sep 2012 #118

My mother certainly did... lexx21 Sep 2012 #131

Remember this line when you say Republicans lack tolerance ryan_cats Sep 2012 #119

I know exactly how you feel marlakay Sep 2012 #120

You put politics and big picture is seperate rooms. Zax2me Sep 2012 #121

what did she write that has you so upset? LaydeeBug Sep 2012 #127

As someone from your daughter's generation SWTORFanatic Sep 2012 #129

keep in mind that most people ctaylors6 Sep 2012 #130

Take her name off the inheritance B Calm Sep 2012 #132

Perfect way to keep the family intact. deaniac21 Sep 2012 #133

Revisit your priorities. Family is more important. My neighbor is Republican. Awesome guy. Egalitariat Sep 2012 #137

+1. Nye Bevan Sep 2012 #138

i live in a rural red area and my neighbours are all repubs and all good people loli phabay Sep 2012 #161

My two cents: there are lot more heart breaking things that your daughter could do or have happen onenote Sep 2012 #142

Yes but these days marions ghost Sep 2012 #145

Maybe so, maybe not. onenote Sep 2012 #146

I guess this is where we disagree marions ghost Sep 2012 #155

I leave family and politics separate Xyzse Sep 2012 #147

When women marry, they generally adopt the husband's voting habits. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2012 #148

So what? Alduin Sep 2012 #150

I hate to say this.. atreides1 Sep 2012 #151

Sounds like she might be a victim of propaganda. nt ladjf Sep 2012 #152

WTF? kctim Sep 2012 #154

Sad to say this but it's ultimatum time Great Caesars Ghost Sep 2012 #156

really i take it you have no kids or at least i hope not especially if they dont do what you tell loli phabay Sep 2012 #162

You sound like a fundie cpwm17 Sep 2012 #163

Since she's living with a guy I assume she's an adult? LeftyMom Sep 2012 #157

Love her anyway. NEVER put political beliefs above family. N/T GreenStormCloud Sep 2012 #168