"My Rapist Doesn't Know He's A Rapist"

[lunatica]

45. Look at it this way

If a man rapes you it's pretty self evident that he gets an erection so it's easy to believe that sexual desire is there. The reality of the situation is that if you fight back it should be self evident that you don't want to have sex. If he then beats you into submission or simply chokes you or puts his hand over your mouth while raping you do you really think it's sexual or do you think it's the use of his penis to dominate you?

On the other hand if a man wants to have sex with you and you say no and he doesn't overpower you then it is sexual. If you consent or not does he need to beat you up and overpower you physically?

Most men know the difference and most men have no desire to beat the woman into consenting to having sex. Most men feel that it isn't sex if they have to take it by force.

When you're on the receiving end of rape you know that the intent is not to have great sex. It's to humiliate, denigrate and hurt and force you into getting what he wants which isn't sex itself. It's to show you that he has the power to force you to do what he wants. You know this. Was your friend just getting in the way of a man having simple sex with her? You and I know the answer to that.