What is the best way to draw up a will right now?

[Hekate]

30. Will read all responses. We also have no current will & it haunts me...

My husband can be very stubborn when he wants to be, and what we need is a trust. Now I fear it is too late for the rest of this year, if ever. I have, however, a separate savings account of my own and a checking acccount that might as well be a savings account -- and just before my surgery in February at my insistence we went to the bank together and I changed the POD on those accounts from him to my 2 adult kids. The "price" for this was to give him power of attorney if I'm sick.

Then he wanted to tell said kids and that's when I lost my temper. No, actually, they can find out when I drop dead -- or when they show signs of loving me at some time before then, or maybe not even then, because why? My son has cut us off for more than a year and my daughter is difficult. (And these are the people he fantasizes will take care of me if we write a trust giving them power over my affairs.) To her credit, via text and over the phone my daughter is showing a lot of signs of concern for our well-being these days, as she has fully prepped for this particular doomsday and she knows we haven't. But from my son -- silence.

So much unfinished business in this life...

Except for those two accounts, everything else is jointly held, which is fine except my kids that he raised and who he loves as much as I -- were not adopted by him, because their bio-dad has always been in their lives -- so I don't know what kind of legal limbo that puts them in if my husband survives me and still refuses to make a will.

In my personal accounts, I would rather make some separate provisions for daughter's 3 kids (son has none), but can't really on just a bank account, so 50/50 is the best I can do.

Then there's my books, some signed by deceased authors with a thriving fan base. They should NOT be dumped at a garage sale if no one in the family has room for them or cares for my taste. The local tri-counties Planned Parenthood has a notable annual book sale, and in the last few years has started selling off some of the best at Amazon during the year (I do wish I knew their alias so I could look for them ! ) I asked a friend who volunteers as a book-sorter, and she said the best way is to write a codicil to the will I don't have.

Not sure if I should just delete this -- but the OP has no doubt triggered anguish in a lot of people. Or rather, the pandemic has triggered the anguish, and the OP has opened the door to talk about it.