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54. Great advice!

Sat Mar 21, 2020, 09:25 PM

Mar 2020

Thank you so much for your insights and help.

The will would not be complex. If my brother is alive to step into it (or my niece who is of the same puke ilk) it could be a nightmare. I heard the thing to do is leave each of them something in the will to CYA so to speak.

If I had my way 100%, I would not leave either of them a fucking thing.

It is disgraceful the way they have treated me and my husband over the years so they can fuck right off already as they deserve nothing, nothing at all!

When I think of the way they acted after my father and mother died and their greed, it sickened me so much I was filled with hatred. That hatred has not really changed, it is just not as intense as it once was but I cannot forget! I was warned by each of them as I mentioned to stay the hell away from him. Sad situation but I have tried. I guess I'm just not a puke, that is the problem.

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What is the best way to draw up a will right now? [View all] CountAllVotes Mar 2020 OP

Interested to read response. underpants Mar 2020 #1

We need one too brokephibroke Mar 2020 #2

I was... Alacritous Crier Mar 2020 #3

Quickly. gibraltar72 Mar 2020 #4

+100000000 Celerity Mar 2020 #5

I've been looking into this one coolsimo Mar 2020 #6

In most states, wills do NOT need to be notarized Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #28

Thanks for that info. nt coolsimo Mar 2020 #44

very interested too AlexSFCA Mar 2020 #7

there are mobile notary publics -- they come to your location diva77 Mar 2020 #8

Check with your insurance agents, accountant and banks for notaries. Patterson Mar 2020 #46

Can you get it notarized online? meadowlander Mar 2020 #9

Check with your state law. Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #29

Crossed my mind too. dem4decades Mar 2020 #10

Most banks still have drive-through services, and they usually have notaries. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2020 #11

Contact Veterans for America. haele Mar 2020 #12

I went through this recently RoadRunner Mar 2020 #13

Depends on the state - but in some states a notarized will (that is not also witnessed) Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #34

My bank has a notary for its customers. Mariana Mar 2020 #53

Which is great, as long as people realize they need witnesses. Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #55

get it notarized onethatcares Mar 2020 #38

no need to notarize. can u donate all to a local church or non profit? nt msongs Mar 2020 #14

I have a friend who donated his estate to Planned Parenthood when he died several years ago.... Hekate Mar 2020 #32

It's very important that you have a medical directive and decide now what you want Pachamama Mar 2020 #15

I have DNR's for both of us CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #23

I did a pre pay plan too and onethatcares Mar 2020 #41

Depending on where you are ... Lars39 Mar 2020 #16

"holographic wills" are legal in many states rampartc Mar 2020 #17

I cannot go outside CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #24

Two witnesses, that is the problem CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #25

Phone two friends or trusted neighbors and do the signing on your front porch. Insert papers into... Hekate Mar 2020 #35

Do you have anyone who can come to the door? Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #36

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Thanks for info about getting a valid will! bobbieinok Mar 2020 #19

Unless you have a very complicated estate Chainfire Mar 2020 #20

My general approach to things to. Plus if no one complains, you're good. Hoyt Mar 2020 #52

If you have assets that you don't want to be assigned to family members because you die mnhtnbb Mar 2020 #21

Great advice! CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #54

I consulted with an attorney friend remotely using zoom Demonaut Mar 2020 #22

The will does not generally need to be notarized. Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #37

I think this situation will push the demand Demonaut Mar 2020 #39

Yup. Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #43

I wrote mine up handmade34 Mar 2020 #26

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An important note about witnesses csziggy Mar 2020 #59

Yup. n/t Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #61

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You do not have to have a notary in California lettucebe Mar 2020 #31

Unless the will is handwritten (pen and paper) Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #42

Thank you so much for your very kind offer CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #50

Here's another fill-in-the-blank style lettucebe Mar 2020 #33

My Mothers will was handwritten, and neither notarized or witnessed miyazaki Mar 2020 #45

This is very good to know CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #49

Thank you everyone that replied CountAllVotes Mar 2020 #47

Thanks for asking this question. sl8 Mar 2020 #48

+1 - Good question. -nt CrispyQ Mar 2020 #51

Find a local attorney that does that type of work. Blue_true Mar 2020 #56

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There is at least one DUer who is an attorney who might could help csziggy Mar 2020 #60

LegalContracts.com (Free with trial membership) flibbitygiblets Mar 2020 #62