"My Rapist Doesn't Know He's A Rapist"

[caseymoz]

87. I never said "only."

Sex and power can certainly work side by side, and it seems to me serial killers, at least many, get sexual gratification out of what they do. I can't think of another reason to rape a corpse (Yeah, I know that's gross). I mean, there's nothing there left to subjugate.

You don't know exactly why some men stop and some don't. Naming "power" as the reason, while a brain has a lot of other things going on is still just a guess. Maybe rape simply isn't a turn on for most men? There's a such thing as empathy and sympathetic pain. Maybe they have some sense of the damage they would feel if they continued. Maybe they feel turned on only by consensual sex? Despite studies that we've been quoted that some huge percentage of men would rape if they could get away with it, that honestly is not my observation. I mean, consensual sex is a more successful reproductive course than rape, biologically speaking.

There is power involved generally in arousal and climax, except normally it passes back and forth between the partners, who are consensual. Power is involved, and it's shared, but the power wouldn't be there unless the sex were there first.

Power definitely becomes perverted in rape, but it wouldn't be rape unless it were also sexual. You can't point to the trees without pointing to the forest.