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bucolic_frolic

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46. You've been putting up with her, she hasn't been putting up with you

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 07:39 PM

Apr 2020

Relationships are a two-way street, and should not be controlling. I have a cousin, we are polar opposites, politically and in every other way. She pulled the preacher thing on me, I said I'm an FDR Democrat, let's not talk politics. We get along when we see each other which is not often. I limit myself to subtle veiled references to issues, to undermine her rigid thoughts.

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I lost it on my sister .. she hung up on me. [View all] rustysgurl Apr 2020 OP

If it were me, I would just ignore her and see what happens. You can't RKP5637 Apr 2020 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author Sherman A1 Apr 2020 #2

You don't need to be right. It is a time of great strain, lots of families squabbling, but we need emmaverybo Apr 2020 #3

Exactly Raine Apr 2020 #12

I respectfully disagree. MLAA Apr 2020 #41

"Agree to disagree" is another way of accepting "alternative facts". Hermit-The-Prog Apr 2020 #31

Disagreeing is not accepting anything. One can still maintain close relationships while not seeing emmaverybo Apr 2020 #57

Right. It's just politics. I didn't light the ovens. Hermit-The-Prog Apr 2020 #58

Terribly sorry to hear what happened between you and your sister. Light63 Apr 2020 #4

There come a point when you just have to bail on them CanonRay Apr 2020 #5

Exactly see my response above. MLAA Apr 2020 #44

I definitely would not call her back. CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2020 #6

You'll both get over it. She needed to hear that. coti Apr 2020 #7

Hanging up was a sign of defeat, on her part Siwsan Apr 2020 #8

Why torture yourself? Call a friend you like to talk to. dem4decades Apr 2020 #9

They say you can't choose your family. Aristus Apr 2020 #10

You can choose your family kairos12 Apr 2020 #20

Right!!! Absolutely! Sure you can't pick your family, but you certainly can decide who to deal w/ SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #21

I agree with you to a good extent. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #39

Stand your ground Gothmog Apr 2020 #11

I have a sister, too. indigoth Apr 2020 #13

I'd wager she thinks you're idealistic and naive. maxsolomon Apr 2020 #32

Lazy thinking and social conditioning. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #40

That's so discouraging morillon Apr 2020 #14

I find that most people that are cut off, due to their mouths, continue to do it w/ others in their SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #22

If she broke the contact then she was clearly more procon Apr 2020 #15

Ignore her. Jirel Apr 2020 #16

Agree. I had never heard the saying about 1 / 11 nazis at the table, it is perfect. MLAA Apr 2020 #45

I would ignore her. She should have respected you enough to listen to your side of the story SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #17

Do what makes you feel okay with yourself eleny Apr 2020 #18

In my case, I'd be extremely blunt, possibly to the point of rudeness sakabatou Apr 2020 #19

Ignore her. roamer65 Apr 2020 #23

Abortion is a wedge issue exploited to death by Reaperpublicons. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #24

Ask her to point to the passages in the Bible that denounce abortion and I'll give the counter. TheBlackAdder Apr 2020 #38

You can't control her. You controlled your speaking to the point of the matter Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #25

If she's so opposed to Abortion, maxsolomon Apr 2020 #26

My sister was, maybe still is, a republican matt819 Apr 2020 #27

Send her this...as of today: 37,079 covid19 deaths; 708,777 cases in U.S. @link RestoreAmerica2020 Apr 2020 #28

Treat it like any other family fight or fallout lunatica Apr 2020 #29

Your sister's an asshole greenjar_01 Apr 2020 #30

Fmily is still family,,,so,,,, musicman65 Apr 2020 #33

My sister and I have had.. stillcool Apr 2020 #34

This is a major moment in Trump perfidy. Let her think about it for a while, a few days. enough Apr 2020 #35

I would love to know how many abortions Trump has paid for........ Tenngal Apr 2020 #36

I would go plant a Biden 2020 sign in her yard gopiscrap Apr 2020 #37

These times are stressful and anomalous. Any conversation - if 'final' (even for a short time) ... salin Apr 2020 #42

I wouldn't argue with a stranger at a bar over politics. HeartachesNhangovers Apr 2020 #43

You've been putting up with her, she hasn't been putting up with you bucolic_frolic Apr 2020 #46

Cut her loose... the_sly_pig Apr 2020 #47

People like her aren't harmless anymore, they're literally getting us killed, via Trump. SunSeeker Apr 2020 #48

My brother and sister both went to the dark side years ago. WVreaper Apr 2020 #49

What Would *I* Do? JGug1 Apr 2020 #50

I would never let politics come between a sibling and myself. totodeinhere Apr 2020 #51

I had the same issue with my brother... dixiechiken1 Apr 2020 #52

So well expressed and gives us something to really think about. emmaverybo Apr 2020 #59

I've no spoken to my sister... paleotn Apr 2020 #53

I would never bring up politics with a close relative Steelrolled Apr 2020 #54

Call her back and make-up, agree to not discuss politics ever again Marrah_Goodman Apr 2020 #55

My old family back in the southeast (parents, siblings, cousins) disowned me years ago. spike jones Apr 2020 #56