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spike jones

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56. My old family back in the southeast (parents, siblings, cousins) disowned me years ago.

Fri Apr 17, 2020, 09:13 PM

Apr 2020

My parents fifty-eight years ago when they discovered I was an Atheist, and the younger brother three years ago. My support for Black Lives Matter was the last straw for him. There is a reason I have lived 3000 miles away from them for the last 37 years and away from “home” for 54 years.
I want to take this moment to thank them for rejecting me at an early age, it made me strong.

My wife and I raised our children to love and respect everyone and we have wonderful Asian and African and Irish grandchildren and in laws. All my children and grandchildren live within twenty miles of us.

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I lost it on my sister .. she hung up on me. [View all] rustysgurl Apr 2020 OP

If it were me, I would just ignore her and see what happens. You can't RKP5637 Apr 2020 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author Sherman A1 Apr 2020 #2

You don't need to be right. It is a time of great strain, lots of families squabbling, but we need emmaverybo Apr 2020 #3

Exactly Raine Apr 2020 #12

I respectfully disagree. MLAA Apr 2020 #41

"Agree to disagree" is another way of accepting "alternative facts". Hermit-The-Prog Apr 2020 #31

Disagreeing is not accepting anything. One can still maintain close relationships while not seeing emmaverybo Apr 2020 #57

Right. It's just politics. I didn't light the ovens. Hermit-The-Prog Apr 2020 #58

Terribly sorry to hear what happened between you and your sister. Light63 Apr 2020 #4

There come a point when you just have to bail on them CanonRay Apr 2020 #5

Exactly see my response above. MLAA Apr 2020 #44

I definitely would not call her back. CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2020 #6

You'll both get over it. She needed to hear that. coti Apr 2020 #7

Hanging up was a sign of defeat, on her part Siwsan Apr 2020 #8

Why torture yourself? Call a friend you like to talk to. dem4decades Apr 2020 #9

They say you can't choose your family. Aristus Apr 2020 #10

You can choose your family kairos12 Apr 2020 #20

Right!!! Absolutely! Sure you can't pick your family, but you certainly can decide who to deal w/ SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #21

I agree with you to a good extent. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #39

Stand your ground Gothmog Apr 2020 #11

I have a sister, too. indigoth Apr 2020 #13

I'd wager she thinks you're idealistic and naive. maxsolomon Apr 2020 #32

Lazy thinking and social conditioning. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #40

That's so discouraging morillon Apr 2020 #14

I find that most people that are cut off, due to their mouths, continue to do it w/ others in their SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #22

If she broke the contact then she was clearly more procon Apr 2020 #15

Ignore her. Jirel Apr 2020 #16

Agree. I had never heard the saying about 1 / 11 nazis at the table, it is perfect. MLAA Apr 2020 #45

I would ignore her. She should have respected you enough to listen to your side of the story SWBTATTReg Apr 2020 #17

Do what makes you feel okay with yourself eleny Apr 2020 #18

In my case, I'd be extremely blunt, possibly to the point of rudeness sakabatou Apr 2020 #19

Ignore her. roamer65 Apr 2020 #23

Abortion is a wedge issue exploited to death by Reaperpublicons. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #24

Ask her to point to the passages in the Bible that denounce abortion and I'll give the counter. TheBlackAdder Apr 2020 #38

You can't control her. You controlled your speaking to the point of the matter Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #25

If she's so opposed to Abortion, maxsolomon Apr 2020 #26

My sister was, maybe still is, a republican matt819 Apr 2020 #27

Send her this...as of today: 37,079 covid19 deaths; 708,777 cases in U.S. @link RestoreAmerica2020 Apr 2020 #28

Treat it like any other family fight or fallout lunatica Apr 2020 #29

Your sister's an asshole greenjar_01 Apr 2020 #30

Fmily is still family,,,so,,,, musicman65 Apr 2020 #33

My sister and I have had.. stillcool Apr 2020 #34

This is a major moment in Trump perfidy. Let her think about it for a while, a few days. enough Apr 2020 #35

I would love to know how many abortions Trump has paid for........ Tenngal Apr 2020 #36

I would go plant a Biden 2020 sign in her yard gopiscrap Apr 2020 #37

These times are stressful and anomalous. Any conversation - if 'final' (even for a short time) ... salin Apr 2020 #42

I wouldn't argue with a stranger at a bar over politics. HeartachesNhangovers Apr 2020 #43

You've been putting up with her, she hasn't been putting up with you bucolic_frolic Apr 2020 #46

Cut her loose... the_sly_pig Apr 2020 #47

People like her aren't harmless anymore, they're literally getting us killed, via Trump. SunSeeker Apr 2020 #48

My brother and sister both went to the dark side years ago. WVreaper Apr 2020 #49

What Would *I* Do? JGug1 Apr 2020 #50

I would never let politics come between a sibling and myself. totodeinhere Apr 2020 #51

I had the same issue with my brother... dixiechiken1 Apr 2020 #52

So well expressed and gives us something to really think about. emmaverybo Apr 2020 #59

I've no spoken to my sister... paleotn Apr 2020 #53

I would never bring up politics with a close relative Steelrolled Apr 2020 #54

Call her back and make-up, agree to not discuss politics ever again Marrah_Goodman Apr 2020 #55

My old family back in the southeast (parents, siblings, cousins) disowned me years ago. spike jones Apr 2020 #56