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LittleGirl

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58. I was married to someone like that

Sat Apr 25, 2020, 01:47 AM

Apr 2020

I left him in '92 and sought therapy too. When the therapist said that I was completely normal for feeling abused for his behavior, that was all I needed.
I knew it was him and not me. I knew he was a gaslighter before the word was invented.
I hope the abuser finds someone else to abuse, because he will and your daughter will be fine.

Give her a cyber hug for me.

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"I was being sarcastic." Classic abuser speak. Can't you take a joke? [View all] nolabear Apr 2020 OP

Everyone saw the footage yesterday Donald. You weren't being sarcastic. Blue Owl Apr 2020 #1

At heart, he's a Tonic Man. maxsolomon Apr 2020 #12

Didn't PressSec McEnemy say this morning he was quoted out of context? Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #24

Im sure lsewpershad Apr 2020 #68

I am so sick with the "joke" defense from Trump and his supporters. Claustrum Apr 2020 #2

Not the first time. There is a long pattern of him doing this dalton99a Apr 2020 #3

Yeah, right. The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2020 #4

Well now the Doctors can laugh in his face when he's "joking ". dem4decades Apr 2020 #5

Agreed relayerbob Apr 2020 #31

The Press needs to pressure him on this. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #6

I completely agree. But watch. He'll attack them for questioning it. nolabear Apr 2020 #8

Sucker's bet. Caliman73 Apr 2020 #17

Roy Cohn's lesson to the young Trump. maxsolomon Apr 2020 #19

Roy Cohn had an inability to read a room Generic Brad Apr 2020 #54

During the next Covid 19 press conference he'll demonstrate a "sarcastic" statement. mia Apr 2020 #51

I don't know if he's got that much ability for forethought. BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2020 #66

My youngest daughter is almost divorced from her husband ismnotwasm Apr 2020 #7

It's a part of the diagnosis. Abuser is just a term. They're disturbed. nolabear Apr 2020 #11

I was raised by an abusive narcissist ismnotwasm Apr 2020 #25

I was married to someone like that LittleGirl Apr 2020 #58

"I hope the abuser finds someone else to abuse..." Texin Apr 2020 #64

It's happening all over the world LittleGirl Apr 2020 #67

As an attorney Danmel Apr 2020 #63

But why was he sarcastic in the middle of a pandemic crisis press conference for no reason? andym Apr 2020 #9

Stupidity and more. nolabear Apr 2020 #13

K&R Trump's "honeymoon phase" is just as deadly Solly Mack Apr 2020 #10

He is such a sadistic "can't you take a joke" abuser. As cruel a person that ever lived. nt AnotherMother4Peace Apr 2020 #14

Yep. Just look at what the mean fake news media forced him to do, PA Democrat Apr 2020 #15

Yes, that's an important part of it. klook Apr 2020 #30

"You know I'm just joking" and "I never said that" chia Apr 2020 #16

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. nolabear Apr 2020 #21

"...just stop any thought that might counter it." chia Apr 2020 #23

you're pronouncing "stupid" wrong fishwax Apr 2020 #18

Who knew this was a stand-up comedy routine. How stupid of us to PA Democrat Apr 2020 #20

I don't think Birx got the joke. nolabear Apr 2020 #22

A pandemic briefing where 50k Americans have died. liberalmuse Apr 2020 #26

Classic deflect of the abuser.. just kidding excuse.. Peacetrain Apr 2020 #27

Gaslighting, as in 'you're just sensitive' and all the rest are appalachiablue Apr 2020 #28

Pathological Loge23 Apr 2020 #29

The obvious follow-up is '50,000+ dead, and you're cracking jokes?' AtheistCrusader Apr 2020 #32

And 'jokes' that could (and probably will...) kill some more. Lock him up. Apr 2020 #60

My ex said that in court. He said I "couldn't take a joke". redstatebluegirl Apr 2020 #33

People are dying and he's making jokes. paleotn Apr 2020 #34

Any doctor who was in the room when he said that Mr.Bill Apr 2020 #35

he never jokes bigtime Apr 2020 #36

Right wingnuts in general don't have a sense of humor. generalbetrayus Apr 2020 #38

well what they think is funny is watching some poor person losing everything. rurallib Apr 2020 #39

He insulted a reporter who asked whether spreading rumours was useful muriel_volestrangler Apr 2020 #37

Stand up and tell him to go Fuck Himself! Pepsidog Apr 2020 #44

That's about the third or fourth time he has used the "sarcasm" excuse. kentuck Apr 2020 #40

A real president wouldn't be sarcastic at a time like this. lpbk2713 Apr 2020 #41

Trumpsters in one picture ffr Apr 2020 #42

That sums it up pretty well. lpbk2713 Apr 2020 #47

+1. And he does the same with the women he abuses Laura PourMeADrink Apr 2020 #43

That is a pathetic explanation Progressive dog Apr 2020 #45

K and R no text.. Stuart G Apr 2020 #46

Is this seriously his defense for the lung bleaching suggestion??? ramen Apr 2020 #48

Spot on. Thank you. nt DesertRat Apr 2020 #49

Dixie Chicks' new song comes to mind oregonjen Apr 2020 #50

Exactly. Mahalo, Nola! Cha Apr 2020 #52

All bullies say that when they're caught. Iggo Apr 2020 #53

trump was really talking about diet Fresca Gothmog Apr 2020 #55

Yes it is more than obvious if you are capable of firing two brain cells... jimlup Apr 2020 #56

Even that excuse is BULLSHIT WyattKansas Apr 2020 #57

Not a word I like to use rationalcalgarian Apr 2020 #59

The Biden Campaign's got to make an add with this. Lock him up. Apr 2020 #61

Exactly. Mike Niendorff Apr 2020 #62

Stipulate he was being sarcastic... malthaussen Apr 2020 #65