"I was being sarcastic." Classic abuser speak. Can't you take a joke?

[Texin]

64. "I hope the abuser finds someone else to abuse..."

Trust me. They will. I too was in an abusive relationship. The physical abuse didn't start for about six months after we'd bought a house together and moved in. (We both lived separately for about three years before that without one sign of him being capable of knocking me or our separate dogs around). I found out that he previous to me had been in a relationship with another woman who left him immediately after he "disciplined" her young son for "giving him lip". She not only left him, she moved to Tennessee and lived with her sister. Never made contact with him again. That's about what happened to me. With my parents help and the good will of my younger sister, I arranged for my parents to help me move all of my possessions (furniture, house goods, etc.) into storage one day while he was at work. I took my dogs, cats and had the cats stay with my parents and my dogs stay with brother, as I moved in temporarily with my sister into a one bedroom apartment (I slept on the sofa for about a month until I could move back into my condo which I had leased out during the time I lived under the same roof with him).

I've no doubt he abused his first wife, because he abused me and I know from his own lips that his actions with his previous girlfriend's child led to her packing up and moving out of Texas and to Tennessee immediately after that one incident.