...that her "open minded" claim was merely a euphemism for being ignorant.
It's easy to cherry pick ideas that both Dems and moderate R's or Dems and Libertarians hold, but by and large, the ideologies aren't even close. So both of your points are spot on.
And to your latter point, irony, I've been dying to tell someone this story from my recent visit to her house.
About 4 years ago she decided that she wanted to get rich quick, so she went pretty big into the housing casino economy: flip homes for a profit. To do this, she had to incorporate. Rather than incorporating in California, her home state, she incorporated in either Nevada or Utah because her mentors (The Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad Clan) told her the tax rates there are lower.
One night during my visit we drove past a Caltrans worksite. It was near midnight and the site was empty, and this sent them into bitter, anti-worker, anti-state banter. "There's our tax dollars at work," intimating that no one was working.
I can't help but interrupt and sarcastically say, "You guys are hilarious! Do you know why your state is going broke and your roads are crumbling? It's because your state has a revenue problem. Do you understand why? It's because people like you send their tax dollars to other states, so those other states can improve their infrastructure."
That concept just hurt their two brain cells. I know they couldn't make sense of it.