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Ilsa

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26. Not defending her actions, but there isn't much in the way of help

Mon May 25, 2020, 08:44 PM

May 2020

right now. Budgets are screwed. Many states don't have respite programs, and you have to be already in the system for getting state help. Just having him enrolled in school doesn't guarantee, especially in red states, that you can get helpers that won't murder the child themselves after a few days.

Some autistic children are destructive and violent, requiring at least two people to safely subdue them during a bad episode. If the child's teacher or school aides do not make themselves available during the quarantine, I suspect there weren't many options she could think of.

The fact is, there's help for a lot of medical/psychiatric conditions, but getting good help, trained help, for dealing with violent autistics is very difficult. I suspect the mother has mental health conditions of her own.

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I hope they lock up that woman in Florida who drowned her autistic son [View all] malaise May 2020 OP

I'm sure they will. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2020 #1

One of my siblings is so upset about this malaise May 2020 #2

Easy to judge without walking in the mother's shoes. Bringing up a severely autistic child can be Doodley May 2020 #3

It's never OK to kill them. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2020 #5

No one is defending murder. But it is reasonable to Ilsa May 2020 #28

I have no doubt that her circumstances were extremely difficult. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2020 #36

I told my sis that given the reality of no school or day care malaise May 2020 #6

Suggestions on seeking help ? delisen May 2020 #14

You make a good point malaise May 2020 #18

Thank you. People love saying "get help", but sometimes it Ilsa May 2020 #27

Not defending her actions, but there isn't much in the way of help Ilsa May 2020 #26

Yes - this one is hard to process but you are right re lack of help malaise May 2020 #30

No. WhiskeyGrinder May 2020 #8

I was thinking about that spinbaby May 2020 #23

She wanted to Bring Pain and Suffering to the family and friends of an Innocent Black Man JI7 May 2020 #35

She might end up on death row. LuvNewcastle May 2020 #4

This one is frightening on every level malaise May 2020 #9

Probably menopausal? Tipperary May 2020 #19

Women's troubles? malaise May 2020 #20

I know you are. Tipperary May 2020 #21

How on earth is 'probably menopausal' a conclusion malaise May 2020 #22

The picture I saw of her does not look like a woman of that age. Tipperary May 2020 #24

My sister sent me details from Miami malaise May 2020 #25

When I first read that story I immediately knew she killed him kimbutgar May 2020 #7

I get the non-verbal autistic part particularly when all schools and care center are closed malaise May 2020 #10

I am a substitute teacher and work in a class with autistic children kimbutgar May 2020 #11

This must be an especially difficult time for both malaise May 2020 #15

Her story never added up for me to begin with.. HipChick May 2020 #16

She obviously spent time planning the murder and the alibi. Mariana May 2020 #12

She is a married mother of two, taking away a young life & also a brother and her husband's son lunasun May 2020 #13

She won't find prison a better place malaise May 2020 #17

wow... she tried to drown him earlier that day but no one called the cops Demovictory9 May 2020 #29

Exactly. They probably are saying, "she should have sought help," Ilsa May 2020 #31

As one person who helped rescue the poor child said malaise May 2020 #32

I see. Demovictory9 May 2020 #33

Depending on their location on the spectrum, autistic children live moment-to-moment. lindysalsagal May 2020 #34