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kag

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55. So are we.

Sat Jun 13, 2020, 03:51 PM

Jun 2020

Hubby and I haven't been "out" to dinner since early March, and probably won't in the near future. No sporting events, no movies, no parties, and no "out for drinks with the neighbors." I'm so glad to live in a state with a Dem governor and a very liberal local government.

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Pissed off neighbor [View all] Phoenix61 Jun 2020 OP

You did the right thing. ProudMNDemocrat Jun 2020 #1

This is what we all need to do, and soldierant Jun 2020 #67

I hope you told her and not just us. "You hurt my feelings by not sharing my racism" is outrageous! Towlie Jun 2020 #75

++ Good on you . Could not defend their racism face to face. Only behind a text ? 🙄 lunasun Jun 2020 #2

like this, if someone is going to go full trump, full racist or full asshole in my presence, then beachbumbob Jun 2020 #3

Well done. We all need to be pro-actively anti-racist when... brush Jun 2020 #4

That would have been the perfect reply to her text. BComplex Jun 2020 #5

Would they have said those things if you were a person of color - or even invited you over? eleny Jun 2020 #6

You did the right thing. CrispyQ Jun 2020 #7

It sounds like she needs to read "White Fragility" or watch the author's seminar on YouTube. writes3000 Jun 2020 #8

Reminds me of this favorite song of mine: thucythucy Jun 2020 #9

Thanks! That's awesome! nt Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #14

The song is something like three decades old thucythucy Jun 2020 #17

White Snowflakes. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Jun 2020 #10

They need to start retraining for a world that's about to change Sucha NastyWoman Jun 2020 #11

My sister deliberately raised her children to be the minorities. KentuckyWoman Jun 2020 #61

People are having multiple friends marybourg Jun 2020 #12

So are we. kag Jun 2020 #55

I live in a red state-about to change, I think - marybourg Jun 2020 #56

Your neighbor "hates Twitler" but began spouting racist stuff...I'm confused. Assuming "Twitler" is BamaRefugee Jun 2020 #13

Surprised me. I think she was trying to Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #18

Guaranteed she complains to the others that you're a dumb liberal but she plays along with you to be BamaRefugee Jun 2020 #21

I think you may be right. Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #24

They always keep the "useful" friends ;-) BamaRefugee Jun 2020 #28

Who invites people over and keeps the tv on? Tipperary Jun 2020 #15

There certainly is that. calimary Jun 2020 #46

You also were a guest in her home. keithbvadu2 Jun 2020 #16

The other guest was from out of town and Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #20

And she learned this through multiple personal experiences? Tinder much? BamaRefugee Jun 2020 #23

Bwhaaaaaa. nt Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #25

Next time, consider saying..... KY_EnviroGuy Jun 2020 #42

Well, there are studies that show that is the case. About 15% higher. Why is that racist? oldsoftie Jun 2020 #54

Stand your ground. Baitball Blogger Jun 2020 #19

Thank you. I so agree. nt Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #22

And cut them off if you have too. Maggiemayhem Jun 2020 #50

You did well. paleotn Jun 2020 #26

What did she say? Just curious. panader0 Jun 2020 #27

That I crossed boundaries in her home. Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #30

What I meant was what was the racist shit she was spouting? panader0 Jun 2020 #32

Ohh. Just generalized bs. They have more Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #34

Teacher of the Year awards are generally BS too TexasBushwhacker Jun 2020 #51

Tell her you'll be sure to never cross the boundary between your houses lunatica Jun 2020 #48

Bravo! oasis Jun 2020 #29

Good on you. sarge43 Jun 2020 #31

She didn't give a damn about hurting your feelings, and you were a guest, too Warpy Jun 2020 #33

That's a good point. LisaM Jun 2020 #52

BRAVO FB47243 Jun 2020 #35

Hard to do well zipplewrath Jun 2020 #36

In my youth I was called out for my ignorance and, although it embarassed me at the time fierywoman Jun 2020 #37

Good. For. You. !!!!!!!! Alliepoo Jun 2020 #38

No worries. JeaneRaye Jun 2020 #39

Is every neighbor dispute now a national concern? KWR65 Jun 2020 #40

I get along with my neighbors, but I am not visiting in anyone's house at this point. Tipperary Jun 2020 #43

I left a house a few years ago for that reason Woodwizard Jun 2020 #41

Racism needs to be pushed back hard. liberalmuse Jun 2020 #44

blah blah blah is right Lulu KC Jun 2020 #45

Can we have an AMEN!!! Ford_Prefect Jun 2020 #47

Good job. I have a tough time staying quiet in situations like that..... George II Jun 2020 #49

Classic White fragility. I admire your courage. nt live love laugh Jun 2020 #53

You did the right thing mvd Jun 2020 #57

Being polite in this kind of situation does no one any good ... marble falls Jun 2020 #58

I used to be silent. KentuckyWoman Jun 2020 #59

YOU were a guest. I'm with those who believe you should have left. Hortensis Jun 2020 #60

Our family and friends have learned that if they ever say anything racist marie999 Jun 2020 #62

Sure. But NOT stay in their houses arguing with them Hortensis Jun 2020 #63

I can honestly say that I have never been able to change even one of their minds. marie999 Jun 2020 #66

Lol, that's great. For my husband it's as long as they're still Hortensis Jun 2020 #68

We'd had lots of conversations previously and Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #70

Oh, the old conservative gang ambush! I've been surprised Hortensis Jun 2020 #71

It is not enough to not be a racist but be an anti-racist. SoonerPride Jun 2020 #64

I will ALWAYS call it as I see it Skittles Jun 2020 #65

Did you see the racism pyramids post? This is where racism starts. Karadeniz Jun 2020 #69

Good for you. This is how it must be. We all need to do this. We can't tolerate them anymore. onecaliberal Jun 2020 #72

i like to think depending to call it racial ignorance. or cultural white propaganda. pansypoo53219 Jun 2020 #73

I like "Cultural White Propaganda"! nt Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #77

Wow. She should be apologizing to you, not the other way around. SunSeeker Jun 2020 #74

Take some time to let your thoughts settle and THEN TEXT HER BACK jimlup Jun 2020 #76

Thank you. 👍🏻 Tarheel_Dem Jun 2020 #78