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vercetti2021

(10,481 posts) Sun Jun 28, 2020, 11:51 PM Jun 2020

I'm invited to a barbecue the 4th [View all]

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Now would it be irresponsible of me to go? I'm sure there will be more than ten people and kids of course. My best friend invited me and I would feel bad to turn it down since I had nothing else planned that day. On the other hand. Social distancing. Mean I could sit very far from others?

What do y'all think? Would it be selfish for me to go or not to go?

Edit.

I decided to turn down the invitation and said next year will be just fine. I work in the public as well and I do not want to bring anything that could be attached to me to a gathering.

Thanks everyone for your insightful advice.

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I'm invited to a barbecue the 4th [View all] vercetti2021 Jun 2020 OP

Wear a mask. Keep a distance. Make them wear masks too. PTWB Jun 2020 #1

Not exactly my place to make them wear masks vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #2

Find out if they're going to be wearing masks. If not, don't go. PTWB Jun 2020 #4

I will vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #10

Chance is slim to none - first having a party like this in the first place. Strike One. progree Jun 2020 #25

I didn't think about that last one oh no vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #30

The sharing of food and utensils etc is the dealbreaker DonaldsRump Jun 2020 #51

Yes ask if others bdamomma Jun 2020 #67

IMHO Be a friend, stay away for their safety and yours. RGinNJ Jun 2020 #3

Outdoors? dawg day Jun 2020 #5

Yes I believe its outside vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #8

Are you going to go with what your head or your gut tells you? BigmanPigman Jun 2020 #6

It's a two way street vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #9

Go with the one least likely to get Covid than. BigmanPigman Jun 2020 #13

Why do you consider it "blowing off a best friend" when the reason for not going JI7 Jun 2020 #61

If they are planning that, you know they take no precautions, probably go anywhere brewens Jun 2020 #7

My answer would be a simple no thanks. progree Jun 2020 #11

Personally, I'd stay home because I'm high risk. LuckyCharms Jun 2020 #12

I can't imagine your best friends sister would be upset that you MLAA Jun 2020 #14

Go, and keep your distance, elleng Jun 2020 #15

Well, just be sure the pig has a mask over his snout. LastDemocratInSC Jun 2020 #16

I'm not going to my best friends 20th wedding anniversary party on 7/11 BannonsLiver Jun 2020 #17

This marybourg Jun 2020 #18

Yeah they aren't trump folks by any means vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #19

I'm just annoyed they can't just go away for a weekend. BannonsLiver Jun 2020 #27

I'm glad you're able to vent vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #29

Actually, you are at minimal risk even if the owners don't do 48 hours between rentals. PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #38

There is less chance of this virus being spread on things than through the air. LisaL Jun 2020 #56

You Might Have RobinA Jun 2020 #84

I'm sorry you saw it that way BannonsLiver Jun 2020 #90

yes larwdem Jun 2020 #22

If you go you'll probably get too close to someone, it happens. dem4decades Jun 2020 #20

True vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #23

You are in a state that is spiking. I wouldn't because I am old and I really do not want it. LizBeth Jun 2020 #21

I recently went to a funeral and the lunch afterwards. Almost no one was wearing a mask Quixote1818 Jun 2020 #24

I myself wouldn't go, too much of a risk Raine Jun 2020 #26

Are they offering carry-out? KY_EnviroGuy Jun 2020 #28

I've got the same issue here. Ms. Toad Jun 2020 #31

Thinking new Covid-branded goggles might flood the market before Thanksgiving. greyl Jun 2020 #37

Those of us who wear glasses are probably pretty safe. Ms. Toad Jun 2020 #39

So what exactly is the risk of infecting through the eyes? PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #40

I've heard that even over here. OnDoutside Jun 2020 #41

Really? Remind me again how we can get infected through eyes. PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #48

Numerous msm articles talk about covid being transmitted through the eyes and people needing eye LisaL Jun 2020 #57

I don't have any stats on that, all I'm saying is that I have heard OnDoutside Jun 2020 #77

No stats - but opinions from doctors and researchers Ms. Toad Jun 2020 #87

Even if everybody wore masks, as soon as they start eating, masks have to come off. LisaL Jun 2020 #55

See if they are offering curbside carry-out? Captain Zero Jun 2020 #32

The thing is, since it's a BBQ, you're going to be eating... Laffy Kat Jun 2020 #33

That's just it. I wouldn't go. If you're eating and drinking Liberal In Texas Jun 2020 #75

At the very least, you will need to isolate for 14 days afterwards -- and that means isolating from diva77 Jun 2020 #34

My beloved relatives have been family-reunioning, birthday partying, high school graduating... Hekate Jun 2020 #35

Hang in there. PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #49

I am, but this starting to bite -- same as for all of us. Hekate Jun 2020 #74

You could remind them that when they are in ICU no one will be able to visit them. PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #78

Right Now RobinA Jun 2020 #85

Go and be exemplary. nt greyl Jun 2020 #36

Maybe it's just me, but I would be so uneasy it would defeat the purpose of going. I have always dameatball Jun 2020 #42

I was invited to a wedding on the 4th Awsi Dooger Jun 2020 #43

Ahh, someone I know got married PoindexterOglethorpe Jun 2020 #50

Don't go. Nt raccoon Jun 2020 #44

I plan on getting my first haircut on the first of August. Baitball Blogger Jun 2020 #45

I wouldn't this year. DonaldsRump Jun 2020 #46

If he was a best friend he wouldn't have the gathering. imo LiberalFighter Jun 2020 #47

One can't eat in a mask. LisaL Jun 2020 #52

I wouldn't have gone. LisaL Jun 2020 #53

Depends on what state you live in treestar Jun 2020 #54

Very current news about the extreme infectionist of corona.. Maxheader Jun 2020 #58

It's most definitely is airborne. LisaL Jun 2020 #63

In the end it's up to you . I'm sure you already know the risks . And why would you feel bad for JI7 Jun 2020 #59

What I'd say: "I'd love to, but Covid really frightens me. Next year, I hope..." NurseJackie Jun 2020 #60

Would be difficult to eat barbecue and drink adult beverages with a mask on. These retread Jun 2020 #62

We politely declined an invite to a Father's Day pool party Danmel Jun 2020 #64

I wouldn't. tanyev Jun 2020 #65

And I have read too many stories about LisaL Jun 2020 #66

I think the better question is whether it would be prudent for you to go or not. mnhtnbb Jun 2020 #68

Sounds rather "russian roulette-ish" to me... Wounded Bear Jun 2020 #69

Wear a mask. Be very certain about keeping your distance. kairos12 Jun 2020 #70

Since you asked, don't go. Here's why: Pobeka Jun 2020 #71

No way. Unless u were assured it would end with a nekkid hottub party, in super chlorinatated water Baclava Jun 2020 #72

Lmao a bleach baptism? vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #94

A friend of mine just asked me to do road trip marlakay Jun 2020 #73

No Tink41 Jun 2020 #76

If you don't want to hurt their feelings, marie999 Jun 2020 #79

No uptick w outdoor protestors grantcart Jun 2020 #80

And yet people apparently are getting infected on beaches. LisaL Jun 2020 #86

Wearing masks? Most pictures I saw people were without masks. grantcart Jun 2020 #89

It doesn't sound like OP would be going to a gathering where other people would wear masks or LisaL Jun 2020 #91

You're right vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #98

Go If You're RobinA Jun 2020 #81

I WOULD NOT GO. trueblue2007 Jun 2020 #82

No way. cwydro Jun 2020 #83

If outside the entire time I would consider it. GulfCoast66 Jun 2020 #88

It should be outside yes vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #93

Then I'd go. If things seem skivvy make a silent exit. GulfCoast66 Jun 2020 #99

Super spreader, hard pass. sarcasmo Jun 2020 #92

Do not go and stock up on get well cards lunatica Jun 2020 #95

Ouch vercetti2021 Jun 2020 #96

Remember that almost no kids are badly affected lunatica Jun 2020 #97

Update on my COVID 4th of July - Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #100