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MoonRiver

(36,975 posts) Wed Jul 1, 2020, 09:49 AM Jul 2020

Things our mothers said... [View all]

Anyone else remember these, or am I the only "lucky" one.

"An unmarried woman over age 25 is considered an old maid." Implication was that finding a husband after crossing that age line would be really difficult. All the guys would wonder why she's not married.

"A never married man over age 35 is considered a confirmed bachelor." Don't get involved with any man in that age category cause the relationship is going nowhere.

"Most women go to college to find a husband." Implication was that should be my primary, if not only, college goal.

I'm soooo glad modern young women don't get these messages. It really messed with my head, although I know my mom was only trying to be helpful. Those are the things she had heard from her mom, and she really believed it all.

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Things our mothers said... [View all] MoonRiver Jul 2020 OP

"Do not get a divorce - you won't want to be a divorce." flor-de-jasmim Jul 2020 #1

Yeah, I remember that one too! MoonRiver Jul 2020 #2

How about snowybirdie Jul 2020 #3

And I'll put you in a home for unwed mothers if you do get pregnant! MoonRiver Jul 2020 #10

Stop crying or i'll give you a good reason to.... was certainly one sunonmars Jul 2020 #4

Yep! That was more like it! smirkymonkey Jul 2020 #7

My favorite was rsdsharp Jul 2020 #39

Get down from that tree so I can beat some sense into you! nt Xipe Totec Jul 2020 #5

Lol MLAA Jul 2020 #19

From my mom, a late 1930s college graduate: frogmarch Jul 2020 #6

Oh, yeah definitely! MoonRiver Jul 2020 #11

Sounds familiar. frogmarch Jul 2020 #21

I sincerely hope young women don't hear the ridiculous raccoon Jul 2020 #8

That's never been true. MoonRiver Jul 2020 #12

Stop smirking because if the wind changes, your face will stick. sunonmars Jul 2020 #9

That reminds me of the one about not crossing your eyes, cause they could get stuck! MoonRiver Jul 2020 #13

I was lucky - my mother never said those things csziggy Jul 2020 #14

After I turned 25 SCantiGOP Jul 2020 #15

Yep, I heard all of those from my mother lillypaddle Jul 2020 #16

Birthday spankings. Way little, i dreaded bdays because of bday spankings. Bdays are suppose to be LizBeth Jul 2020 #27

I don't have a specific memory of those ... lillypaddle Jul 2020 #29

Yes I have also heard of birthday spankings. Ohiogal Jul 2020 #30

Right? Isn't it? I think it is atrocious. Happy Bday, whack. LizBeth Jul 2020 #35

My dad used to call my sister Ohiogal Jul 2020 #32

Yeah, my dad called my sister "slim" lillypaddle Jul 2020 #36

And that book was for children?? Ohiogal Jul 2020 #37

"The Random House Book of Poetry for Children" lillypaddle Jul 2020 #38

I was only allowed to go to college MuseRider Jul 2020 #17

If you got it flaunt it. But if a boy wants to touch it.... LakeArenal Jul 2020 #18

I am so glad you got lucky with a lovable MIL, your mother sounds awful 💕 MLAA Jul 2020 #20

Mentally ill. Try to forgive. Just not able to. LakeArenal Jul 2020 #24

I come from a matriarchal family. hunter Jul 2020 #22

"Girls don't need middle names Cairycat Jul 2020 #23

Wow.... Bayard Jul 2020 #25

Debutant Balls meat market, T&A show, sex trafficking procon Jul 2020 #26

My mom was my best friend. She said she would be the one person I could unconditionally trust LizBeth Jul 2020 #28

"Why buy the cow Ohiogal Jul 2020 #31

Become a teacher Mossfern Jul 2020 #33

So I just want to say that despite some of her views, I really did love my mom. MoonRiver Jul 2020 #34