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WhiskeyGrinder

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22. If someone says, "Hey, that hurts," does an ally say "Sorry, won't do it again?"

Tue Jul 7, 2020, 08:12 PM

Jul 2020

Or does an ally say LAUGH AND MOVE ON AND KNOW THAT PEOPLE UNINTENTIONALLY OFFEND OTHERS THROUGH IGNORANCE ALL THE TIME AND WE HAVE A LOT ON OUR PLATE RIGHT NOW SURELY WE CAN FIND A BETTER WAY TO USE OUR TIME THAN---"COMPLAINING"---ABOUT THE TERMINOLOGY USED BY WELL-INTENTIONED ALLIES.

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And on it goes. What other slurs, you know ones not referring to women, are ok and boston bean Jul 2020 #1

No one is suggesting that true "slurs" should slide but, once again, intent has to be considered. Atticus Jul 2020 #6

All I learned from this is that karma is a mixed-breed female dog. Beakybird Jul 2020 #2

I think everyone is really stressed. Phoenix61 Jul 2020 #3

I think you have a good perspective. lpbk2713 Jul 2020 #16

And in the meaning of biting criticism, from an unrelated root word unc70 Jul 2020 #4

I assume you take the same attitude when well-intentioned allies use n****r? Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #5

Excellent post. cwydro Jul 2020 #7

I'm not looking for it - Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #11

Oh crap, I missed that too, but that's so accepted here now... cwydro Jul 2020 #17

Agreed. n/t Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #20

100% this obamanut2012 Jul 2020 #10

Frankly, I am amazed that you could think it possible to call some the n-word "to put them Atticus Jul 2020 #12

Ugh. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #18

Wow. cwydro Jul 2020 #19

Just now on reddit Swede Jul 2020 #43

When you were called out for using the term "Oriental" meadowlander Jul 2020 #8

You should have responded " how very Occidental of you" grantcart Jul 2020 #42

I'm with BB and Ms. Toad. And what's the deal with negatively calling out DUers? seaglass Jul 2020 #9

Is it your position that Duers cannot be criticized? nt Atticus Jul 2020 #15

I'm a son of a bitch, a grandson of bitches, I sleep with bitches... hunter Jul 2020 #13

So, the DUer who called you out for using that term was not wrong kcr Jul 2020 #14

No. He's calling me out mercuryblues Jul 2020 #28

Don't think you meant this for me? kcr Jul 2020 #34

It is more than a little surprising to see how many who accuse me of encouraging "slurs" Atticus Jul 2020 #38

I never said that and you know it mercuryblues Jul 2020 #55

Uh, you know that thing I said you implied which you said you never said? Atticus Jul 2020 #57

The op seems rather sensitive. Tipperary Jul 2020 #58

Who said "anyone calling out others for using the B word is too thin-skinned?" nt Atticus Jul 2020 #41

In a way I wish there was a pejorative that would rise to the level of bi**ch that we could call Srkdqltr Jul 2020 #21

Funny how some men really don't want to give up that word, isn't it? cwydro Jul 2020 #24

I'll wait while you post links to my posts using the word "bitch" prior to this one Atticus Jul 2020 #29

And I'll wait while you show me where I said you have done so. K? cwydro Jul 2020 #37

Let's see---your post responded to a post which was specifically directed to me Atticus Jul 2020 #39

Irony is truly alive and well. cwydro Jul 2020 #50

You delicately refuse to spell out the word "bitch" and you tell me to "grow up"? OK. nt Atticus Jul 2020 #26

My kindle changed it every time. When I'm on my pc I'll use it just for you. Srkdqltr Jul 2020 #33

Not everyone wants to use that word. Tipperary Jul 2020 #46

If someone says, "Hey, that hurts," does an ally say "Sorry, won't do it again?" WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2020 #22

Edit kcr Jul 2020 #25

You should always think of an insult in the terms of the operative comparison. Caliman73 Jul 2020 #23

Or we could just use words that get our point across without Sherman A1 Jul 2020 #27

That doesn't mean they're thin-skinned gollygee Jul 2020 #30

I saw the "bitch" thread and immediately trashed it. Different Drummer Jul 2020 #31

I dont like the word GusBob Jul 2020 #32

Post removed Post removed Jul 2020 #35

I admit I'm a little thin skinned JonLP24 Jul 2020 #36

Settling in for this greenjar_01 Jul 2020 #40

... flying rabbit Jul 2020 #44

I've never had a problem with that word, but it has always caused a kerfuffle here ms liberty Jul 2020 #45

I am 72 I find over the years the what was considered the polite name used for a different doc03 Jul 2020 #47

well..I for one, am more looking forward to.... dhill926 Jul 2020 #48

You have the wrong person. Niagara Jul 2020 #52

I believe you are confusing me with ARISTUS. nt Atticus Jul 2020 #53

Oops...sorry... dhill926 Jul 2020 #56

Not a problem. nt Atticus Jul 2020 #59

See post 46. Tipperary Jul 2020 #49

We believe in creating a welcoming environment for all who support Dems lostnfound Jul 2020 #51

Post removed Post removed Jul 2020 #54