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forgotmylogin

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70. I hear you. We need to take care of ourselves for now.

Fri Jul 10, 2020, 01:51 PM

Jul 2020

I'm pretending it's still quarantine. Avoid unnecessary trips into public buildings or crowds. Social distance. Keep the mask on outside.

We may not be able to avoid getting sick but the best we can hope for is to delay it until we have new leadership and hopefully some medical technology for treatment or a vaccine.

My mom lives with me and is an elderly COPD patient on oxygen. Her O2 levels have dipped into low 90s so much and under normal circumstances I would have gotten her to the ER before now. Right now that seems like the last thing I want to do because I feel I'd be sending her there to die or contract COVID and they may not even let me stay there with her. So it's like... Do I prefer to take care of her myself and possibly have her die at home with me, or potentially get her medical help but risk having her alone in a pandemic ward where she could also die? She keeps telling me no when I say I can call an ambulance. She knows what's up.

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I was putting dishes in the dishwasher this morning and realized I was shaking. [View all] hamsterjill Jul 2020 OP

Well Said! DarthDem Jul 2020 #1

You're right. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #11

Thank you! DarthDem Jul 2020 #45

Yes. We all sometimes need to slow down, breathe slowly and evenly, MineralMan Jul 2020 #2

Thanks, MM hamsterjill Jul 2020 #12

I'm nearby DUgosh Jul 2020 #3

I'm in northwest SA hamsterjill Jul 2020 #13

Just had the routine visits for our cats at the vet's. maddiemom Jul 2020 #143

Are you in Hays County? summer_in_TX Jul 2020 #101

I'm in Houston and I feel the same way you do Sucha NastyWoman Jul 2020 #150

I think it is getting to all of us in different ways. I find myself waking up during the night and Arkansas Granny Jul 2020 #4

It is definitely getting to all of us - each in our own way hamsterjill Jul 2020 #14

I feel your pain and worry... Wounded Bear Jul 2020 #5

Thanks. I know many are feeling like this. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #15

I feel your pain and worry... Our tears mingle together. trueblue2007 Jul 2020 #95

I'm sorry for your pain! I think most of us here feel the same, being worse sometimes than others Thekaspervote Jul 2020 #6

Thanks. Yes, we are all hurting. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #16

Im in austin area &feel your pain. We are having to stay close to home as much as possible as well. onetexan Jul 2020 #146

I hope so, too. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #148

I hear what you are saying. kairos12 Jul 2020 #7

I try to see headlines hamsterjill Jul 2020 #17

I will say a little prayer for you today, Hamsterjill, for feelings of peace Tanuki Jul 2020 #8

Thank you, Tanuki hamsterjill Jul 2020 #19

So I was realizing today that the time left 'til Nov 3rd jimlup Jul 2020 #9

There's a countdown clock! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #23

I just hope we are all celebrating on November 4th jimlup Jul 2020 #51

Me, too! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #72

I hear you Bayard Jul 2020 #10

I did feel True Blue American Jul 2020 #28

Yes, the tears. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #29

In The Heat Of The Night True Blue American Jul 2020 #32

Stay strong. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2020 #18

Thank you. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #30

Here for ya! Wawannabe Jul 2020 #20

Thanks. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #31

I think this whole nation has been traumatized. calimary Jul 2020 #21

The trumpets are lost causes hamsterjill Jul 2020 #34

Yeah, I've come to that conclusion too. "There's no hope for these people." calimary Jul 2020 #46

We need bdamomma Jul 2020 #80

My sympathies to you. Collimator Jul 2020 #22

Thank you, Collimator. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #42

Feel the same way oregonjen Jul 2020 #24

I can only imagine hamsterjill Jul 2020 #43

You are not alone.... Freedomofspeech Jul 2020 #25

Share your feelings True Blue American Jul 2020 #37

Well said. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #44

We're in shock. CrispyQ Jul 2020 #26

Absolutely. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #73

Yes- It's awful. I need for Biden to go ahead and announce essme Jul 2020 #27

I agree. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #75

Yes- it's that emotional. essme Jul 2020 #133

Holy Moly, your post is the 1st thing I saw this AM after sitting down from loading the dishwasher. AnotherMother4Peace Jul 2020 #33

Hmmm...maybe you and I should stop doing the dishes! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #76

LOL - yes, that's it. It's the stupid dishwasher! OK - now to find some else to load it. nt AnotherMother4Peace Jul 2020 #94

Biden Should Name Cabinet and Creati a Government in Exile McKim Jul 2020 #131

One thing that works for me. denem Jul 2020 #35

I agree hamsterjill Jul 2020 #77

It's a scary time. Don't be hard on yourself. cwydro Jul 2020 #36

I can't imagine wanting to see your family and not knowing when you could. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #78

If it wasn't for my old house and 2 cats I would probably be stark raving mad. Scruffy1 Jul 2020 #38

Good for you for giving one a home. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #79

It is beyond disheartening SheltieLover Jul 2020 #39

Thank you. I'll check out the link. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #82

You are most welcome! SheltieLover Jul 2020 #138

I am sorry you feel this way. murielm99 Jul 2020 #40

Thank you for your help to get Dems elected! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #83

Take care of yourself. Do things to recharge your soul & find peace. CaptainTruth Jul 2020 #41

I try. My attention span is pretty short these days. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #84

It happens. Just remember - the months left of the Trump nightmare are in the single digits. Vinca Jul 2020 #47

That's a good way to look at it. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #86

That definately resonates here. The uncertainty and NO PLAN is incredibly frustrating, angering and Evolve Dammit Jul 2020 #48

Yes. I'm a planner and I like to know what the options are. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #87

Joe Biden's running mate marieo1 Jul 2020 #49

Me, too. The election can't get here fast enough! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #88

Feeling the same n/t hibbing Jul 2020 #50

Hang in there! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #89

I am right there with you. I've been watching mindless shows on tv onecaliberal Jul 2020 #52

I think it helps to admit that it's affecting us hamsterjill Jul 2020 #90

That is exactly what has me on edge. Steadily getting worse. Even in my blue state with my blue onecaliberal Jul 2020 #126

I Stopped Watching Cable News McKim Jul 2020 #132

I think my conservative sister is having panic attacks. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2020 #53

My hairdresser kept pulling down her mask & saying "I can't breathe". AnotherMother4Peace Jul 2020 #62

maybe your hairdresser is my sister... SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2020 #97

I can't go to the salon here, no way. Trying to figure out what I'm going to do. onecaliberal Jul 2020 #127

I'm sure you look wonderful - but I sure know how you feel. AnotherMother4Peace Jul 2020 #134

I'm sick of the conservatives. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #92

I get angry for a time and then try to be helpful. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2020 #100

hamsterjill kpete Jul 2020 #54

kpete, thank you. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #93

Do something creative. tavernier Jul 2020 #55

Yes, it's important to have distractions. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #96

Hugs! SallyHemmings Jul 2020 #56

My youngest son is in San Antonio. He works at the Applebees near North Star Mall and rides SammyWinstonJack Jul 2020 #57

Oh! I don't blame you. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #98

Thank you! I am trying to get him to come here where I am in TN. SammyWinstonJack Jul 2020 #117

He should do that! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #120

Thank you from another stressed out person! lark Jul 2020 #58

My nephew does yoga and gets a lot from it. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #99

I think right now he's closer to sanity than DeSatanus, who is totally living in the land of denial. lark Jul 2020 #152

I feel your pain macwriter Jul 2020 #59

What a beautiful post. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #102

Dannie Scott Goeb fixed us ALL up! Thanks, Republicans. czarjak Jul 2020 #60

Crazy Evangelicals! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #103

take it easy peasant one Jul 2020 #61

Wouldn't that be wonderful? hamsterjill Jul 2020 #104

I feel the same way. gademocrat7 Jul 2020 #63

It's the "no end in sight" part for me. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #106

Rambling, perhaps, but eloquent! lastlib Jul 2020 #64

Thank you. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #108

I feel the same lillypaddle Jul 2020 #65

Hugs right back! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #109

Take care of yourself bdamomma Jul 2020 #66

I have accepted that my life is changed Marthe48 Jul 2020 #67

You hang in there, too. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #110

We're with you, you're with us cp Jul 2020 #68

Thanks, CP hamsterjill Jul 2020 #111

Backyard birdfeeders can be relaxing Baclava Jul 2020 #69

I have a hummingbird feeder hamsterjill Jul 2020 #112

I hear you. We need to take care of ourselves for now. forgotmylogin Jul 2020 #70

I'm so sorry about your mom hamsterjill Jul 2020 #114

Thanks! Everything is good, it's up and down. forgotmylogin Jul 2020 #136

This helped me Cicada Jul 2020 #71

I'm sick and tired of being miserable. Initech Jul 2020 #74

hamsterjill.... Upthevibe Jul 2020 #81

I know. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #119

we need to take care of one another! handmade34 Jul 2020 #85

Yes, it really is different for everyone. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #121

You're not alone. LuckyCharms Jul 2020 #91

Are your in-laws affected? hamsterjill Jul 2020 #122

No, they are not affected yet... LuckyCharms Jul 2020 #149

Day at a time, maybe a hour at a time marlakay Jul 2020 #105

I remember. They are the couple in Alamo Heights right? hamsterjill Jul 2020 #123

It is sad and hard to watch our kids in emotional pain marlakay Jul 2020 #125

I don't feel like I am struggling anywhere near what others are going through Skittles Jul 2020 #107

Skittles, you are amazing! hamsterjill Jul 2020 #116

back at ya, babe Skittles Jul 2020 #135

Hi seta1950 Jul 2020 #113

You take care, too. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #124

I am so sorry for the stress and worry you are going through. Please be very gentle with niyad Jul 2020 #115

I'm grateful for DU, too. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #130

Tears for 1st time this week MomInTheCrowd Jul 2020 #118

Maybe it was time. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #140

YES! Nitram Jul 2020 #128

💕💕💕💖💖💖💕💕💕💕 MLAA Jul 2020 #129

"Let's continue to take care of one another, okay?" warmfeet Jul 2020 #137

Exactly. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #141

anxiety and binge eating comfort fatty foods peacebuzzard Jul 2020 #139

I've got a song for you, hamsterjill, and for all our DU brothers, sisters, whomevers . . . Please NBachers Jul 2020 #142

Last half hour I have been screaming inside re: Stone commutation dixiegrrrrl Jul 2020 #144

Hang in. The light at the end of the tunnel is getting wider and wider. oasis Jul 2020 #145

I hear you... Snackshack Jul 2020 #147

Hugs to you hamsterjill MustLoveBeagles Jul 2020 #151