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Bernardo de La Paz

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13. Any of 3 actions would be fine (your idea, shop elsewhere, or report him anyway)

Sun Jul 12, 2020, 09:10 AM

Jul 2020

Your basic plan as you have outlined is good, but I would lean toward reporting him.

Engaging him as you suggest is really the only way you have to tell him that he is a sucker for believing serious but false allegations with no evidence. It's up to you if you want to transmit that message to him. He won't believe you or give it much attention, but over time a series of those kinds of messages from various sources might penetrate.

Simply "shopping elsewhere" sends a very low, uninformative, unnoticeable signal to the store. Individual boycotts have no effect especially if not explained, but large scale boycotts do. The employee would never know or even notice one customer not coming. The manager wouldn't notice a 1 in a 1000 drop in sales for ongoing months because it would be buried in the noise of new people moving into the neighbourhood or moving away, etc. But if you tell the manager why, then you are effectively reporting the guy. So I don't advocate simply shopping elsewhere, though it is a very reasonable choice.

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That LIE about Joe Biden. What was said to me and what I have decided to do. [View all] CTyankee Jul 2020 OP

I don't think you should engage with him again. It's not like he doesn't know he shouldn't do this. Squinch Jul 2020 #1

Thank you. I understand what you are saying and believe me, I will not seek him out. CTyankee Jul 2020 #8

As another poster said, your civility is a wonderful thing. Good luck with whatever you choose Squinch Jul 2020 #10

Hit him back with his own strategy. Polly Hennessey Jul 2020 #54

Hi, I wanted you to know I reported him this a.m. CTyankee Jul 2020 #97

I'm glad. This isn't your responsibility beyond telling those who have the power to do Squinch Jul 2020 #98

I'm just a little worried he'll try to take revenge on me, not physically but with a lawsuit or CTyankee Jul 2020 #99

You certainly haven't broken any laws. I probably would avoid the store for a while, or Squinch Jul 2020 #100

I'll go later in the week. If we lack anything, we'll order out. CTyankee Jul 2020 #101

Do keep us posted. I'm sorry he put you in this position when you were minding your own business. Squinch Jul 2020 #102

I am not going to let this guy run my life in terms of food shopping. CTyankee Jul 2020 #103

You're much nicer than I would be Lulu KC Jul 2020 #2

I agree.. He is spreading dis information. Does he have any proof? I doubt it mitch96 Jul 2020 #7

read my update below. I reported him this morning around 8:30 am. CTyankee Jul 2020 #96

Totally agree with #1 post. patricia92243 Jul 2020 #3

Report him, Democratic people need to be a little tougher StopTheNeoCons Jul 2020 #4

Agree. SammyWinstonJack Jul 2020 #49

I would shop somewhere else WestLosAngelesGal Jul 2020 #5

You are so nice. EqualityNow Jul 2020 #6

Thank you. Believe me, I just want to be fair and civil. CTyankee Jul 2020 #14

I would report it to the top level, but I would not confront the clerk. True Blue American Jul 2020 #25

totally agree, I left the clerk off that list intentionally. EqualityNow Jul 2020 #34

Having worked in that area I learned long ago True Blue American Jul 2020 #40

I would write some letters to the store manager BigmanPigman Jul 2020 #9

Definitely Awsi Dooger Jul 2020 #106

Slander JT45242 Jul 2020 #11

Maybe don't title threads with that phrase - which I refuse to retype Merlot Jul 2020 #12

That's what I was thinking. LisaL Jul 2020 #15

Oh, no! I will change it immediately! CTyankee Jul 2020 #17

Good. LisaL Jul 2020 #20

:) True Blue American Jul 2020 #42

It has been changed. THANK YOU for alerting me to this. CTyankee Jul 2020 #19

+1000 Thekaspervote Jul 2020 #55

Any of 3 actions would be fine (your idea, shop elsewhere, or report him anyway) Bernardo de La Paz Jul 2020 #13

Most employees actually don't care about customers not coming. LisaL Jul 2020 #18

But he would be upset if True Blue American Jul 2020 #33

Alas, it is really not an option for me. Stop and Shop is our only option left. CTyankee Jul 2020 #21

Then report the guy, to preserve your only option left. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Jul 2020 #23

Agree!100% True Blue American Jul 2020 #35

Just tell him he's mixing up Donald Trump with Joe Biden LymphocyteLover Jul 2020 #16

I did. He just thought that was funny. CTyankee Jul 2020 #24

Ugh. So fucked up. Their gaslighting operation is impressive but freaking evil LymphocyteLover Jul 2020 #37

well, it stops with me. I'm g oing to the manager asap. CTyankee Jul 2020 #41

Good. cate94 Jul 2020 #71

great--- thanks for fighting the good fight! LymphocyteLover Jul 2020 #86

You *have to* report to the manager. Pobeka Jul 2020 #22

Thank you. CTyankee Jul 2020 #26

i don't know what he said but sometimes it's right off the radio certainot Jul 2020 #27

I've ordered a couple of T shirts to wear safeinOhio Jul 2020 #28

Take care. God bless. Joinfortmill Jul 2020 #29

What is your goal? WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2020 #30

that he never repeats it to another customer. CTyankee Jul 2020 #38

Just report him GeorgiaPeanut Jul 2020 #31

For you latecomers (like me), here's the lie: Paladin Jul 2020 #32

Yes, you are right. Being silent only encourages them. CTyankee Jul 2020 #36

That statement by him is extremely serious defamation of character. KY_EnviroGuy Jul 2020 #57

Public persons have a serious problem protecting themselves against this kind of speech. CTyankee Jul 2020 #60

How will you monitor his behavior to know if he does it again? Ligyron Jul 2020 #39

Once upon a time MissB Jul 2020 #43

100% waste of time dealing with a trumper, better use of effort in getting people registered to vote beachbumbob Jul 2020 #44

When I was younger, I did this tirelessly. At age 80, my options are limited. CTyankee Jul 2020 #50

Thank you for changing the OP headline malaise Jul 2020 #45

Report him to the manager. LiberalBrooke Jul 2020 #46

Either report him, or ignore him dansolo Jul 2020 #47

Realize that this stuff is going to amp up the closer we get radius777 Jul 2020 #48

Can you link you post from yesterday? Thanks Takket Jul 2020 #51

Here! CTyankee Jul 2020 #52

Report him just for talking about politics with customers Freddie Jul 2020 #53

It is obvious that this person has been "instructed" to strategies that throw off the rape charges CTyankee Jul 2020 #59

I wouldn't offer political affiliation... 2naSalit Jul 2020 #56

I absolutely think you should set him straight and here's why... Trueblue Texan Jul 2020 #58

I should not have even engaged with him. I should have gone to the manager immediately. CTyankee Jul 2020 #62

Your decision is justified and I wish you the best of luck, but I find it HotTeaBag Jul 2020 #61

I guess I was more surprised than anything else. CTyankee Jul 2020 #65

I am in no way making light of how you feel, and I support your decision completely. HotTeaBag Jul 2020 #70

Love it Lulu KC Jul 2020 #91

I was in retail or restaurant management for a lot of years, and I would report this to the Tech Jul 2020 #63

This person works in customer service dlk Jul 2020 #64

Now I am, dlk. The support here has been heartening. CTyankee Jul 2020 #66

I'm glad you feel supported dlk Jul 2020 #68

Even my own husband says "why do you let these things upset you? just ignore them." CTyankee Jul 2020 #69

When a man brings up rape to a woman, in any context, it's about power and control over them dlk Jul 2020 #73

I know He seems to think that rape comments can just be ignored but I am telling him differently. CTyankee Jul 2020 #75

Yes dlk Jul 2020 #84

I didn't see the original post radical noodle Jul 2020 #67

Exactly. I will report it and he will be called in and told it will go on his record. Of course, he CTyankee Jul 2020 #72

You're far too kind. I'd have reported his ass that same day. NurseJackie Jul 2020 #74

Report him. Skip the step where you give him fair warning. Mr. Ected Jul 2020 #76

Report Him NonPC Jul 2020 #77

This is why I checked it out with someone who has worked as a shop steward himself. I told him CTyankee Jul 2020 #78

WHat was the lie? I don't know what you are referring to. Context, please. Amaryllis Jul 2020 #79

here... Takket Jul 2020 #80

Thanks. I needed a mental health break and hadn't been on DU for a couple days. Amaryllis Jul 2020 #85

Realize that Rs believe that 90% of Americans agree with them on everything. stopbush Jul 2020 #81

yeah you should report that........... Takket Jul 2020 #82

I'd just report it. You cannot reason with stupid lettucebe Jul 2020 #83

Your so nice... EveDibb Jul 2020 #87

Your last paragraph is my thinking entirely. Obama would not have chosen him in the first place. CTyankee Jul 2020 #88

Be safe EveDibb Jul 2020 #89

Whatever you decide to do.... Dan Jul 2020 #90

Good luck with that. cwydro Jul 2020 #92

That's how big corps handle the trouble makers.. Maxheader Jul 2020 #93

Or you could just let it go. BannonsLiver Jul 2020 #94

UPDATE on this event. CTyankee Jul 2020 #95

You should report him anyway. WyattKansas Jul 2020 #104

See response above. I reported him at 8:30 this morning by phone. CTyankee Jul 2020 #105